not sure this is the right forum for this, but..

[mullins]

I posted here nearly a year and a half ago when i went though a very bad break up.

 

I have since dated 2 women, the 1st i didnt have the same feelings she had for me, and the 2nd im still with...kind of.

 

I am very attracted to her and love how complex she is, but maybe too complex.

At first i thought she just wanted me for sex which i was not happy about because i could feel my barriers for love dropping for her. (ok so im a guy that needs to have feelings rather than just play around) But i seem to still be under constant pressure when im with her, we often have a tiff and walk away vowing never to return, agreeing that we are two very different people.

 

On the occasion she has walked out on me, after she found out i had been in contact with my old flame she went nuts, the following week i get a text from her, she is sat outside my house saying we should go for a goodbye drink and still be friends. Fine i thought, then later in the evening she demands i take her back to mine and give her what she needs!

 

I try to explain that i dont just switch a switch and she walks out of the door vowing never to return. This is the ongoing way in our relationship, week after week we fall out, and always end up together again. She tells me over and over that i must always be stronger than her and to just use her sexually whenever i want, and if i fail to satisfy she mumbles that she is destined to be single.

 

Now this is the part im confused with;

 

I have a very high sex drive and it is being offered to me on a plate for someone that i find very attractive and am in love with, she tells me all the time how much she loves me too. There is no easy way to say this, but i can do what i need to do, but am always to tense to complete what i started, if you know what i mean.

 

Is this an age thing being that im 40 this year, we have both grown up, had families and are self sufficiant (poor spelling) Why when i used to kiss a girl in my teens could i hardly contain myself, yet now something isd missing.

 

I will add as a side note, i slept with my x a couple of times before i met the girl im with now and the only problems i had then was to hold back long enough. is it a familiarity thing? why cant i just be in love and make love to the girl that wants me.

 

In essence i have trouble cumming with the two girls i have been with, i always do but it is a strain compared to being with my x...there, i said it.

 

I hope i have not offended anyone, i tried to beat around the bush, and the guys and girls here helped me so much through my seperation.