FWB-No emotion/? for guys

[a4a]

My H and I were FWB's :eek:

 

That was my choice and I initiated it.

 

And to tell the truth we are still FWB's.... we are friends still. The only difference is we are monogamus FWB's with a true friendship.

 

Is that not what marriage should be? :lmao:

[LucreziaBorgia]

The guy I'm with now started as a FWB. We've been together a year now and its pretty serious. It grew from 'just friends with mutual needs' to 'in love and plans for a future together'.

[vi_pn_babe25]

I am getting delirious for the same reasons, but you probably don't have to get up in 5 hours for work.

 

He was nothing but a spoiled momma and daddys boy and had not much going on for him in the looks department. She wasn't much either, so I believe that he did that out of despearation.

 

Yikes....hopefully you got up for work on time lol

[vi_pn_babe25]

My H and I were FWB's :eek:

 

That was my choice and I initiated it.

 

And to tell the truth we are still FWB's.... we are friends still. The only difference is we are monogamus FWB's with a true friendship.

 

Is that not what marriage should be? :lmao:

 

Well that's good to hear that you've had success.

 

How long were you FWB's before you got married?

[vi_pn_babe25]

The guy I'm with now started as a FWB. We've been together a year now and its pretty serious. It grew from 'just friends with mutual needs' to 'in love and plans for a future together'.

 

So you've known him for a year, or you've been serious for a year?

[vi_pn_babe25]

Oh another thing...the other day my guy (FWB) asked where I buy my jewelry from. I don't think he was asking about himself, because the only jewelry he wears is a watch. But he was talking about a ring or a bracelet, like average priced not lavish or anything. So what do you think he might be getting at? Do you think he was trying to get a feel for what my taste is in jewelry either expensive or inexpensive? In that case, I foolishly said I'd buy my jewelry from Nordstrom because I worked there and got a discount, lol But I also said any department store, so I dunno if he thinks I have expensive taste? I believe it's just the thought that counts more than anything.

[Pyro]

Yikes....hopefully you got up for work on time lol

 

I did thankfully. If I didn't like my job so much, I might have been late.

[vi_pn_babe25]

I did thankfully. If I didn't like my job so much, I might have been late.

 

well that's a good...it pays better to like your job

 

hey since you're a guy what do you have any thoughts on the last post I posted? It's kinda throwing me for a loop...because sometimes he can be wishy washy

[Pyro]

well that's a good...it pays better to like your job

 

hey since you're a guy what do you have any thoughts on the last post I posted? It's kinda throwing me for a loop...because sometimes he can be wishy washy

 

Well, since you both consider each other only FWB, he is probably looking for something as a gift to maybe his mother or another female family member. If I had a FWB, I wouldn't buy her anything extravagent because we are technically only friends. Love must be present in order to receive the rewards.

[vi_pn_babe25]

Well, since you both consider each other only FWB, he is probably looking for something as a gift to maybe his mother or another female family member. If I had a FWB, I wouldn't buy her anything extravagent because we are technically only friends. Love must be present in order to receive the rewards.

 

Thanks for your reply yah that's true, he kinda mentioned it about himself which I thought was weird for him to wear a ring, because he's all macho, so I just thought there was a hidden meaning behind it or something lol. But anyways, since I've been layin' low from him, he's been initiating getting together more, like he's gotta chase me now, since he knows I was chasing him. For example: I called him one night, left a message, and he didn't call back that night. Well the next day he called me, I didn't answer, then he called me again within an hour and I didn't answer again. SO about 2 hours later I called him back and he answered, lol. But if he wants to pull that sh*t with me then why not?? I know I know...I'm playing games but it takes 2 to play a game right? lol

[Pyro]

Thanks for your reply yah that's true, he kinda mentioned it about himself which I thought was weird for him to wear a ring, because he's all macho, so I just thought there was a hidden meaning behind it or something lol. But anyways, since I've been layin' low from him, he's been initiating getting together more, like he's gotta chase me now, since he knows I was chasing him. For example: I called him one night, left a message, and he didn't call back that night. Well the next day he called me, I didn't answer, then he called me again within an hour and I didn't answer again. SO about 2 hours later I called him back and he answered, lol. But if he wants to pull that sh*t with me then why not?? I know I know...I'm playing games but it takes 2 to play a game right? lol

 

Your welcome.

 

Yes it does take two to play games, but it only takes one to stop, but I guess whatever floats your boat. Sounded like he was getting a little worried that you have forgotten about him. If you are happy, then more power to you.

[vi_pn_babe25]

Well sometimes it's hard because of the drama that goes with it....it's all about who's ball is in who's court...until a racket gets bent lol but that's why I was wondering if they ever turn out for the better!

[Pyro]

Well sometimes it's hard because of the drama that goes with it....it's all about who's ball is in who's court...until a racket gets bent lol but that's why I was wondering if they ever turn out for the better!

 

Honestly if your situation does get better, it will be the first that I have ever heard of such a thing happening.

[vi_pn_babe25]

Honestly if your situation does get better, it will be the first that I have ever heard of such a thing happening.

 

Well we'll see I guess....since I've told him my feelings, I've kinda taken a step back...so I'll keep you informed

[Guest]

Some people watch out! Valuable jewelry is stolen from so-called flop houses that druggies keep hidden to sell or give to their cheapies habit.

 

I can't stand how some just get their jollies from stolen goods to selling themselves or from others value box. And find themselves in a rut.

 

People watch out for those who proclaim love just to steal from you.

 

Especially when you know there is no way in hell they could ever afford it done by themselves.

[vi_pn_babe25]

Some people watch out! Valuable jewelry is stolen from so-called flop houses that druggies keep hidden to sell or give to their cheapies habit.

 

I can't stand how some just get their jollies from stolen goods to selling themselves or from others value box. And find themselves in a rut.

 

People watch out for those who proclaim love just to steal from you.

 

Especially when you know there is no way in hell they could ever afford it done by themselves.

 

Is this in reference to another post?? My f buddy isn't a druggie

[vi_pn_babe25]

Now I understand that sometimes relationships don't come out of being f buddies or fwb's, it's mainly just fun and games...literally. Well awhile back I told my f buddy how I felt about him, and told him that I needed to take a break. I called him after a month long break, and we're back to our same old habits...except that I'm the one that's playing BACK the games now, which in a way I'm trying to make him feel like I was...Yah I know, I'm being immature and selfish, but I'm trying to make him think it's not just a one way street. Anyways..how can a guy tell or react if he realizes that you're trying to play him? OR if a guy is starting to have feelings for you, how will you know for sure...especially after all the game playing??

[clandestinidad]

I understand that you've developed strong feelings for your "F-buddy"...I read some of your other posts and you talk about him a lot.

 

I dont want to bring you down by saying this.....

 

If someone doesnt like you 'that way', playing games with them and/or trying to make them like you will never work.

 

From the looks of this situation, you're the only one who will get hurt here. You seem to be the only one who has connected feelings, evidenced by a couple of things...in particular how he did not seem to care when the 2 of you took a break, and have since gotten into the same old pattern.

 

I'd actually venture to say that he does not respect you. He knows how you feel about him, but continues to use you. If someone respected someone, they would not continue to sleep with them knowing that the feelings arent mutual.

 

I really think you should take a permanant break. Longer than a month. Then you would be able to see if he has any feelings, because if he misses you (more than just missing the sex) he will profess his feelings and want to be in an actual bonded relationship with you.

[dancehead]

Hello vi_pn_babe. Your situation sounds a lot like mine and I think I know what you are feeling - only difference is that I'm the guy whos getting jealous and hurt. It sounds like you two are playing games a lot with each other, both of you trying to make the other jealous. This sounds like a situation where it doesn't look like you will be together properly, yet you feel enough emotional attachment to be jealous if you found either one with someone else. Its easy to fall into the trap if not really being sure if it would work if you got together, yet not wanting what you do have right now to end, especially if you are having great sex. You have to think, what would it be like IF you were together, quite honestly, would it work or not? If the answers no then stop the silly games and move on. These FWB's are a waste of time. The longer it goes on the more attached you become. I just hope that with my FWB a genuine proper uncomplicated friendship can be salvaged and I didn't waste 5 years. As I write this alone tonight all I feel is anger, jealousy and sadness because she is with her new guy spending time instead of me and my mind imagining what they are up to. I wouldn't wish this on my enemy.