alicibiades Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 All I read is people who moan and wail about their own infidelity. I want to hear from those, for who cheating has fufilled and enriched their lives. I know you're on here. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 All I read is people who moan and wail about their own infidelity. I want to hear from those, for who cheating has fufilled and enriched their lives. I know you're on here. I don't heat alot of people bragging that they've cheated and hurt other people. sounds to me like you just have no regard for anybody but yourself.. Link to post Share on other sites
OzGirl Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 Other than spamming a blog about the world's most fascinating subject (you, of course), what was the point of this thread? If everything's going so fabulously well.... then why would you be in an infidelity support forum at all? Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 Other than spamming a blog about the world's most fascinating subject (you, of course), what was the point of this thread? If everything's going so fabulously well.... then why would you be in an infidelity support forum at all? He's in the Coping section too I read that blog.. I couldn't even finish it. It just annoyed me. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 Other than spamming a blog about the world's most fascinating subject (you, of course), what was the point of this thread? The unintended point is to prove that few cheaters have rich and satisfying lives Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 Sounds like a twat to me... !! To the OP - this is unlikely to be the place you'll find someone who is happy with their cheating. This is an advice forum and the people requesting advise are usually unhappy in one manner or another. Why don't you put out a request for other cheaters to contact you on your own site?! Link to post Share on other sites
Blind Illusion Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 I'm curious though why you are taking measures to hide this "enrichment" from your wife. (I think you even mentioned in one blog entry that your wife was asleep and you were online.) Perhaps she can use some of this fulfillment also. Perhaps you really aren't enough of a man for her, to begin with. (Since you said that it is only human nature, anyhow) and she is counting down the days to your business trip so that she can get some "real enrichment' in your absence. Whatever works Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 If you hate your wife so much, why don't you just leave her? Link to post Share on other sites
Grinning Maniac Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 It's called cowardice. Something tells me this guy's life is really empty at it's core. Link to post Share on other sites
aleatoryd Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 WTF was that Blog about! I'm glad you signed up on this forum alicibiades because I think YOU need serious help. If you think cheating helps and enriches your life then you really need to get a life... and while you're there have a though for your poor wife. Before you do anything please email all yor friends and family a link to your Blog and let us know what they think. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alicibiades Posted April 27, 2006 Author Share Posted April 27, 2006 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t87131/ Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I've not wasted my time going to your blog...but I've got to ask... Do you think your spouse would feel as "glad", "fullfilled", and as "enriched" about your cheating if they knew about it???????? IF they know and approve...your set. If not, then you really need to grow up, maybe do a little research on what a marriage is SUPPOSED to be...and then see if you've really got the ability to make one work. I'd be amazed to find out that you do. Link to post Share on other sites
OzGirl Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 Al - you're not getting what you wanted, either in this thread or the other one, from people who support your thoughts that cheating is great. So, you assumed there was an army of people to be found here, and you didn't find them. Either the supporters aren't reading this forum, or, the supporters aren't there at all. So, you have a blog to advertise what you do, and you come here looking for people to say you're doing the right thing. Maybe you need to assess why you feel you need other people to have knowledge of what you do, and why you seek approval for it. If you were really content with your lot, you'd have less time to post about it, and more time to enjoy it, I would think. Either way, if you feel fulfilled, good on you. You asked for support, and so far, haven't received a great deal. So, what did you want it for? To feel better about yourself? To justify what you are doing? Why does it matter what other people think if you feel good and justified? My guess is, you've got serious issues with yourself, and you define who you are by the approval of others. To me, that is the loudest message you are spruiking. Want support for feeling that way? Then, I guess you almost found the right place to go - a support forum where you can discuss your issues and seek clarification for yourself on your situation and how it's interpreted by others, based on your perception and translation of it. Low self esteem is nothing to feel isolated about - plenty of people have it. Putting it in a box, hatching down the lid, and disguising it by writing "STUD" all over it, doesn't make it go away. The more you post, IMHO, the more evidence you leak that you're worried we can all see inside the box. I wish you the best of luck in your endeavour to adequately resolve your issues, and they are not too long-lasting. After all, you can't fix what you don't acknowledge. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alicibiades Posted April 27, 2006 Author Share Posted April 27, 2006 Silly, I'm not doing the right thing. I openly acknowledge that it is considered the wrong thing. As unlikely as it is to find them, I realise that there are people out there for whom cheating has been a benefit. I don't need or care about your acceptance, my life is not empty, I don't hate my wife, my self-esteem is not eroded, and my life is not empty. All these assumptions that are heaped upon me tell me what everyone here thinks when confronted with the idea that someone could enjoy having affairs. The very idea goes so against the grain that it is unthinkable that someone could be sane, secure, and enjoying themselves while having affairs. To that end I am not surprised at the backlash that develops when I ask if anyone else here has the same experience. As to the purpose of my blog, it is clearly outlined in the first post. That and my manuscript was rejected (it was a tear-jerking story of a donkey in love with a goldfish, but they couldn't be together for religious reasons). Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I have absolutely no problem believing that you very much enjoy having affairs. I accept that without reservation. As unlikely as it is to find them, I realise that there are people out there for whom cheating has been a benefit. What does their scarcity tell you about how common it is for people to feel that they benefit from an affair? If you can't find them, how do you know they're there? Any backlash isn't because people have trouble believing that you would enjoy having affairs, it's because you have come to a place populated mostly by people who's lives have been negatively (and often deeply) affected by affairs. They (we) are here to try to heal, and you walk in the room saying "aren't affairs great?!?! who's with me???" Do you really not get that you wouldn't likely get an enthusiastic reaction here? And that this isn't the place where you are likely to find those who think they've benefitted from affairs? Seriously? Wow... I don't hate my wife High praise for the one you've committed your life to. But do you love her? And if she really knew you, would she - could she - love you? I noticed in another thread, that you posted a correction to your own spelling error: soul vs. sole. Obviously syntax and grammar must be important to you. Did you notice that in this thread you used the phrase "my life is not empty" twice in the same sentence? I know you don't need or care about our acceptance, but if you need to say it a few more times, we are here to listen. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 So, when are you going to tell your wife how much your infidelity has enriched your life, and fulfilled you? I'm curious if she'll feel as wonderful about the whole thing as you do? Please, let us know when you're going to share that with her...I'd love to hear how she feels about this. Undoubtedly she'll be extremely happy for you...she'll be overjoyed to find that you've found this way to feel so wonderful about yourself and your life. Of course there's no reason to expect that she (or anyone else) would feel any less than the same level of euphoria that you feel about the whole thing. I'm being sarcastic, but I'm also being serious. If you feel this has made your life so great, then share that with your wife. See if she feels the same way you do...why not? You've come here expecting us (who don't know you) to accept this...why not expect someone who knows and loves you to be even more accepting of this? Time to tell her the whole truth of what's going on...after all, since this is so wonderful, there's no risk that she'll be less than understanding about the whole thing, right? Please reply to this...I'm breathless with anticipation on how this conversation with your wife goes! Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 If you have to keep it secret and can only brag about it to people on the internet, you're not really unabashed, are you? I mean, if you really believed that you weren't doing anything wrong wouldn't you tell everyone? If you get a big kick out of humiliating your wife, lying to her and making a fool of her, then newsflash, you hate her guts. No one would go to so much trouble to hurt someone they either loved or felt nothing for. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 All I read is people who moan and wail about their own infidelity. I want to hear from those, for who cheating has fufilled and enriched their lives. I know you're on here. ------------------------------------------------------------------ cheatinginvancouver.blogspot.com Dude you got the game all wrong: http://www.nomarriage.com/whores.html All I can say is I hope she cooks well Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 Any backlash isn't because people have trouble believing that you would enjoy having affairs, it's because you have come to a place populated mostly by people who's lives have been negatively (and often deeply) affected by affairs. They (we) are here to try to heal, and you walk in the room saying "aren't affairs great?!?! who's with me???" Do you really not get that you wouldn't likely get an enthusiastic reaction here? And that this isn't the place where you are likely to find those who think they've benefitted from affairs? Seriously? Wow... Trimmer, very well said!!! I don't think I can even begin to say it better. High praise for the one you've committed your life to. But do you love her? And if she really knew you, would she - could she - love you? I noticed in another thread, that you posted a correction to your own spelling error: soul vs. sole. Obviously syntax and grammar must be important to you. Did you notice that in this thread you used the phrase "my life is not empty" twice in the same sentence? I know you don't need or care about our acceptance, but if you need to say it a few more times, we are here to listen. You are very observant and compassionate. I think I have a lot to learn from you! Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I read your blog. Absoultly wonderful, you must be proud. Your wife will find out btw, or does that even matter to you? When she does, I'd like to know what you will say to her. I bet your answer is even better, than your blog. Link to post Share on other sites
portableversion Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 Well, AL.... I'm glad you enjoy being the rogue, counter-cultural Nietzchean crusader you purport to be. Why should he tell his wife and get divorced? Then f***ing strange women wouldn't be as FUN! See, he really likes being married...only THAT makes cheating fun and exciting and so TABOO!!! THe constant worry of whether wifey will find out, or the kids, or the neighbors. Its all soooo delicious and dramatic! Al is first rate drama queen. Think about it, without his marriage, his life would be so boring. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted April 29, 2006 Share Posted April 29, 2006 yes! three cheers for whoring yourself out! hip hip, hooray! Link to post Share on other sites
parentdetective Posted April 29, 2006 Share Posted April 29, 2006 Hello I just don't understand why people cheat??? What good does it do???Aren't you just hurting yourself... Link to post Share on other sites
Seen_It_All Posted April 30, 2006 Share Posted April 30, 2006 ...I think you'd probably find ALOT of like-minded people on philanderers.com. Link to post Share on other sites
amblin Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 This guy sounds like one of those cheating men on the Dr Phil "First Wives Club" special. They're the type who don't deserve a penis. Link to post Share on other sites
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