harasarah Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 OK, about 1 year ago I was a single mother until I met this wonderfull man who i love very much. My little girl calls him dad and everything and he is really wonderfull with her. Now we are expecting a little girl together. My insurance was recently terminated because of being in the hospital every other day. (Stupid I know tried to straighten it out, but no luck) Two days ago my boyfriend proposed to me, but there's a catch. He wants to get married in the Courthouse. Just a little ceremony, Myself, Him, and our 2 witnesses. No family. This would clear up all our insurance problems and everything. However, he said he wants me to have a wedding that I deserve...the whole shabang after the baby is born. Maybe sometime next year. Is this possible? Can you get married twice within a year to the same person? Also, I don't want to do the whole "courthouse thing" my 2nd cousin is a preist and he'd be willing to do the small ceremony for us. Is the court house that bad? Link to post Share on other sites
parentdetective Posted April 30, 2006 Share Posted April 30, 2006 I would have your cousin do a small ceremony and then do the big thing later on. But don't put it off for too long, because then it may never happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted April 30, 2006 Share Posted April 30, 2006 I'd have a civil ceremony (no priest) now to "cure" the insurance dilema and then, perhaps on your first anniversary, have the priest perform a blessing of your marriage ceremony with the vows you'd like to take. That's perfectly proper and not at all unusual. My wife and I "eloped" almost 10 years ago and this December, on our 10th anniversary, are having a renewal ceremony for friends and family with a reception afterwards. Don't wait 10 years, though, since this is something you really want. Link to post Share on other sites
Vega Posted April 30, 2006 Share Posted April 30, 2006 your'e only getting married once and just renewing the vows and having a celebration later. besides, the marriage is the most important thing, not the trappings of ceremony. Link to post Share on other sites
BeFree Posted May 1, 2006 Share Posted May 1, 2006 When it comes down to it, how much does it really matter that you have a big wedding? What will this really accomplish? I personally don't think it's that big a deal to have the civil ceremony now and then, if it is still important to you, have a big reception when the time is right. Or as everyone else said, have a vow renewel on your anniver. Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted May 1, 2006 Share Posted May 1, 2006 I think you should compromise. How about a ceremony performed by your cousin with only immediate family there? Then have a reception next year. Link to post Share on other sites
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