brownshugahc Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 CRAZY STORY YALL!!! Months ago....I met this guy at a poetry reading through a total stranger's invite. This guy and I connected HARD that night, and didn't talk after that...well he owns a website for poetry and he contacted me and we started discussing our interests in each other. So he asked me on a date and I declined him:o jus bein a shy person about it. But then I invited him over so we could talk and just get to know each other...well HOLY CRAP...we kissed and it was BLISS Best Kiss I've ever experienced...we both were hooked off a damn kiss LOL....so then later on that week we had been sending CONSTANT texts flirting....and then the week progresses so we really like each other and decide to "hook up"....well it was PERFECT for about 2 months...then we both started coming down from the high and little things started to bug us...well for me? I still kept cleaning and cooking and caring for him THE SAME...he may have upset me but I let my care for him mend the indifferences...he however let the little things get to him...so we split. Well during the time we were together we had all sorts of "signs" We met at a place called 1924... well when I was 19 he was 24 We walked into an ice cream shop a day after he was making fun of me for calling us soul mates...and the first thing visible when walking into the ice cream shop was a BIG floor billboard that was advertising a new ice cream called "Soul MateS" ...he passed by a ring shop across from a church on the way home from work one day ...(by the way we went promise ring shopping in our relationship)....I mean THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS that this man I had ran into that IRONICALLY said things about us together....not to mention we hooked up October 23, so everytime I happen to glance up at the clock (even til this day!)...it says 10:23....I s*** you not---EVERY TIME!!!...It's madness!! But our break up ended sourly because we both blamed each other for it...his friends used to tell him (and probably still do) that Im NO GOOD for him because Im too young for him (bull crap cuz Im 21 and hes 26)...and I'm afraid sometimes he listens to them TOO much instead of what we TRULY had, and what could be REKINDLED....in our break up...he blamed me for being too young and naive...and I blamed him for being too old and too in the past...he's had such a rough relationship past that it really spoiled the good I brought to his life...not to mention his ex cheated on him A NUMEROUS amount of times but he stayed out of love....so we stopped talking FOR A LONG TIME. He kept trying to contact me and ask that we at least still talk...hang out...even mentioned something about how our "connection" is so deep it shouldn't just be cut off and that we should still be friends..and still work on "us"--but a deeper growing friendship before ever considering getting back together....but even through him saying alllllllll of that...I still declined him and even erased his number (lol I'ma bitch I know...haha) But anyway...months go by and I keep seeing "10:23" on every F***kin clock!...hearing "OUR" song play on the radio an USUAL AMOUNT OF TIMES in damn day...I mean soooo many things kept happening...but I convinced myself I had moved on...so here it is...a couple months later, and I get wind that he's moving to Chicago?!?!? He said he recently "Found God"...so now he's making a turn around... I rushed over to his house to hear the great news of his life change, and it LITERALLY brought tears to my eyes...I couldn't believe it! And I had prayed that he be guided by God and it happened! I felt so glad! So that night I just laid in his arms and enjoyed the moment...secretly still feeling the attachment I ONCE felt...and mad that I wasnt over him like I wanted to be!!! I have never lost attraction towards him, and wanted to be with him AGAIN since he broke up with me...now I'm even more attracted to him because he's getting his life RIGHT...but how do I get over him??? Because I'm afraid that while he's making his "life transition" (especially in a whole OTHER state) he may really forget about me and not ever wanna get back together. (although if God lead us together once he can do it again right??) I try and tell myself..."Well he shouldnt have broke up with me if he wanted a second chance"...but I am SO in love with him, and I've tried to "replace" him---and I've tried to ignore him...I just really think this man and me are destined to be together...I dont know how else to look at this but optimisitcally...and I dont know how spiritual anyone is reading this...but I really believe he was sent to me by God...so I refuse to "let him go" inside my heart...instead I am letting my flesh let go of him and keeping him in my soul so that "if and when" we meet again, he and I can pick up the pieces...does this sound possible?? If he has to give me up to put God first...than I will give him up to let him. Or should I just STOP with this "soul mate" idea??? As you can tell I'm like really upset by this for some reason... Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I do because I found mine and am now married to her. Over the course of a five year friendship there were many signs and portents that we were intended to eventually be together, beginning the moment we met. Now we are. Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 Anyone Believe in Soul Mates?? no, not anymore Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I do because I found mine and am now married to her. Over the course of a five year friendship there were many signs and portents that we were intended to eventually be together, beginning the moment we met. Now we are. C- that is so sweet .Do I believe in SoulMates , no I believe there are people who can fit together very very well , but there is most likely several of these people in the world at any given time. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I think you're right, Tink, but I also believe the soulmate is the one you end up with, for a reason. Link to post Share on other sites
aleatoryd Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I think there are types (or maybe a type) of people you connect and relate to on a level of closeness and intimacy that transcends normal friendship. It's also about personality. Well you just know. It's the same with best friends except here the difference is this type are of the opposite sex so they are "potential" soul mates. Experience has taught me that there is a type of girl out there who I can relate to, care for and hopefully love. Similarly I've found that when you aren't infactuated (LOL) you start to realise whether a person is suited to you and you are suited to them. It works both ways and I believe that out of this "type" will come a one. There is nothing wrong with the other girls they just at this moment in time (subject to change how fickle we are!) not suitable for long term relationship. Maybe we change our minds as we get to know them better and sometimes "problems" can be resolved or seem petty that we can overcome them. So one of these people may become our soul mate. You know what it's like when you meet someone and before long you are completing each others sentences you have the same word on the tip of your tongue just as they say it. You share ideas and interests. That sort of thing. I think a lot of people "overlap" so a person may have different types and could have a different soul mate. I hope we all find ours. [sorry large chunks of post were ripped off one of my other posts but I figure why recreate the wheel ] Link to post Share on other sites
Butterflying Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I don't believe people are pre-destined to be together. I don't believe there is "one" special person in this world who was born to be with any other person. By this definition, if there is only one soul mate for me, it is likely that my soul mate could have already died. Or they may live in a part of the world that I will never see. Coencidents happen. All the things you have described, BrownSugah, are coencidental. You can easily be convinced it's all for a reason, especially when coencidents happen over and over. But you should understand there are many men in this world who are capable of being your soul mate. I define soul mate as a person whom I connect with spiritually, emotionally, and physically. The connection may last a few days, weeks, or a lifetime. But I won't use that connection as an excuse to remain in a relationship that is causing me grief because I know there are many people who are capable of sharing this experience with me. Link to post Share on other sites
MadDog Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I'm about to find out and if they don't exist, I'm going to have a threesome. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brownshugahc Posted April 27, 2006 Author Share Posted April 27, 2006 you all have made some valid points...I guess I should have used the term "made for each other" rather than "soul mates"...but yes, I feel that there are people that are going to be naturally compatible....in a way I still believe in soul mates...but more like "destiny" rather than pre-determined partners...it all depends if Religion is your cup of tea...then you chalk it up to fate...if not then it's deemed as coincidence and luck...but whatever it is lol...I'm sure it'll come back around if it's real...just like the man who explained he married his 5 year friend...thats so sweet!! (hopefully how mine turns out later in life)...but LOL to the three-some comment!!! Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I do because I found mine and am now married to her. Over the course of a five year friendship there were many signs and portents that we were intended to eventually be together, beginning the moment we met. Now we are. That's so sweet C! I believe I found my soul mate, we were meant to be! We had many freaky signs when we first met.... regardless of whether they were coincidences or not, they mean something to us. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brownshugahc Posted April 27, 2006 Author Share Posted April 27, 2006 I agree...coincidence or not...they are special...that's how he and I felt...these signs still exist...so "cosmos" "luck" or "God" is sending them...whichever one, IM LISTENING! Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 you all have made some valid points...I guess I should have used the term "made for each other" rather than "soul mates"...but yes, I feel that there are people that are going to be naturally compatible....in a way I still believe in soul mates...but more like "destiny" rather than pre-determined partners...it all depends if Religion is your cup of tea...then you chalk it up to fate...if not then it's deemed as coincidence and luck...but whatever it is lol...I'm sure it'll come back around if it's real...just like the man who explained he married his 5 year friend...thats so sweet!! (hopefully how mine turns out later in life)...but LOL to the three-some comment!!! No, I am a very spiritual person and I don't believe in soul mates. Link to post Share on other sites
eccentric Posted April 28, 2006 Share Posted April 28, 2006 I believe in soulmates! last year I was on a dating website and this guy, my fiance presently, emailed me. We immediately discovered that we had soooo much in common..we liked the same movies, music, 18th century and gothic themes and attire, the same kinky stuff, the same fantasies, nearly the same childhood. We like the same food and we have the same emotional responses to situations. We often teases each other about being clones but then things got really weird! We would start typing the same sentences at the same time, chosing the same poem to read to each other that day and one day we both breaked for a snack (we were talking on yahoo) and we came back with the EXACT same snack...blue berry bagels, strawberry creme cheese and juice! From then on we realized that we were connected some how. It was uncanny but we quickly got used to it. Every other day someting weird happens between us. However, we do have our troubles and they stem, for both of us, from our painful childhoods. It's amazing how one's past can affect thier present. We find it difficult to trust and we don't open up readily. But if the relationship is so rare and precious it's worth working for. That's why i am on this forum...I am trying to sort my emotions out. Perhaps you and your ex need to give it another try. Link to post Share on other sites
miscellaneous Posted April 29, 2006 Share Posted April 29, 2006 I do indeed believe in soul mates. I was on a dating site for a year and one day this guy, my fiance presently, wrote to me. We started talking and were amazed by how much we had in common. We love the same music, art, movies, food, hobbies...we even have nearly the same childhood experiences. WWe often teased each other about being clones but then 2 weeks into our relationship weird coincidences started happening. We would be searching for poetry to read to each other and come back to yahoo with the exact same poem. We would start finishing each other's sentences or saying the same thing at the same time. Once we breaked to get a snack and came back with the EXACT same snack...blue berry bagels, strawberry cremem cheese and juice. After that we just got used to these strange happenings. I do believe I have foun d my soulmate or some kind of kindred spirit. However, we do have our problems. because of our painful childhoods we both find it hard to trust and to open up. We are insecure and a bit shy. But we are working on these things. Communication is VERY important. Perhaps you and your ex need to have another try at a relationship. Don't throw away such a profound connection. Link to post Share on other sites
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