gemmab2020 Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 Life in general... is this it? I just can't get my head around why I am here. Why any f us are here? I moved from Ireland, to an English city (was supposed to get married at home and broke it off and moved a few months later). I feel like I came over here looking for something but I'm not quite sure what. How do I find my reason for being?? I depend quite a bit on people aswell, although I have made a few good friends here already. I just feel like something is missing out of my life. This is the way I felt when I was with my ex. It's a hole I have that can't be filled by a man either. any pointers?? I would really appreciate some insight into other people thoughts on this. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 Why does there have to be a reason? Link to post Share on other sites
732girl Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 Life in general... is this it? I just can't get my head around why I am here. Why any f us are here? I moved from Ireland, to an English city (was supposed to get married at home and broke it off and moved a few months later). I feel like I came over here looking for something but I'm not quite sure what. How do I find my reason for being?? I depend quite a bit on people aswell, although I have made a few good friends here already. I just feel like something is missing out of my life. This is the way I felt when I was with my ex. It's a hole I have that can't be filled by a man either. any pointers?? I would really appreciate some insight into other people thoughts on this. Hello... you intrige me. Life is an empty hole if you have no purpose. You need family and someone to love. I have family..two sons and two grandsons but no love of my own. God meant for us to have a significant other to fill the void and it hurts when you have no one.... So every day I hold my head high and work and do the best I can hoping for a better tomorrow...Good Luck to you and hope for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gemmab2020 Posted April 27, 2006 Author Share Posted April 27, 2006 Surely I am not just here to work and pay rent etc... There must be something more to life than that. How do you get fulfillment from life? I just feel that everyone serves a purpose, otherwise, whats the point? But how do you go about finding that purpose? Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 Life itself is a gift. And the purpose of that life? Is to live it. Life is to be lived, breathed, experienced. The purpose is to experience it and the wonders it provides us with, from pain, hurt and sorrow.. to joy, happiness, excitement!! It provides with emotions to be lived, lessons to be learnt. To find fulfillment is down to you. It is your job to mould your life. It is your job to reach out and strive for the things that move you, interest you, that you desire. What do you want from life? Start thinking about that, and how to get that? Do you want a career, to help people, or simply to be a wife and mother. How can you be the best you? What can you do for the world, your community or even just your friends and family? It's your life.... what do you want to make of it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author gemmab2020 Posted April 27, 2006 Author Share Posted April 27, 2006 But how do you even begin the journey to figuring out what you want and need to have a fulfilling life??? Thats the part I have the trouble with!! In general I do enjoy life. I love challenges, I love trying new things. But it just seems as if it's not enough. I still feel that little empty part of me. It is interesting finding out what way other people feel about life in general. Sometimes i will be so happy with what I have got, and then other times I feel so lonely and just feel like my world is crashing in around me. Is this a normal way to feel?? Is it all just part of the journey of life?? Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 It takes time to figure these things out. So figure it out earlier than others. You're only 21 aren't you? Do you have any goals in life? What are you striving for? Or is the problem that you just don't even know that? It's perfectly normal to feel great one minute, and then feel like everythings crap the next. The trick is to remember the good things about your life even when you feel like it's turned to crap. Link to post Share on other sites
aleatoryd Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal. Life is full of up's and downs but you just have to take lessons from it. I joined my University in 2000 and because I changed degrees halfway through I'm only just finishing - and boy I can't wait to be free! LOL Anyway I could look at that as a negative thing being at Uni for 6 years but then again I have to think about all the wonderful people I've met, the experiences (good & bad) as well as how I've developed as a person. If there are lessons to be learned and things we can look back on then no year is wasted. A bad time? Don't do it again and use your experience to not only avoid it but help others too. Good experiences? They keep us going. Because I became a Christian not long before I went to Uni it was interesting as I was new to my faith and it has had challenges and been very high and very low. I don't expect everyone to rush off and convert hehehe but I'm just saying for me that was part of my personal development and now I'm involved in lots of things I never thought I would do and been to places and in situations I never imagined. For other people they come to Uni and join clubs and societies. They share common interests or explore new things. It doesn't matter if you are working - After Uni I'm moving away to a new area and I'm looking forward to it. There is a time and place to be somewhere and sometimes you have to move. You've moved from Ireland to England. I believe that everything happens for a reason. You are young and at an exciting time in your life to find out new things about yourself. You can essentially re-create yourself - not as a fake person but as someone who can pick and choose the groups you want to be involved in. I really encourage you to get involved in a "community" whether it be a pub, church, work friends or a society - see noticeboards at libraries gor lists of groups that meet. Find like minded people and enjoy life. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I am such a downer. This is called an existential crisis. Many people have considered this question, looking for an ultimate purpose in life. If you're looking for a place to start, I suggest reading Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning". It really changed my life. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 I am such a downer. This is called an existential crisis. Many people have considered this question, looking for an ultimate purpose in life. If you're looking for a place to start, I suggest reading Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning". It really changed my life. Hey, Blind, have you ever read The Stranger ? Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 This is it my friend. Just try and enjoy your body the best that you can, try and enjoy sensuality whle you have it. Life is short, too short. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted April 27, 2006 Share Posted April 27, 2006 turn off the TV and go outside . Link to post Share on other sites
Author gemmab2020 Posted April 28, 2006 Author Share Posted April 28, 2006 Thankyou all for your insights and wisdom. I think I will be having a go at the book by Viktor Frankl, "Man's Search for Meaning". I don't have any specific goals or direction in life, I tend to just go with the flow. My boss at present has really sang my praises though, about how much ambition I have. I have plenty of it, and confidence. I just need to find the correct way to channel it all I suppose! I do not class myself as a confident person, but I have been told I come across as really confident. It's just so hard to know wether I am making the right decisions in my life, and it doesn't help when I have family who feel that they cannot back me in my decisions. They all felt I was making the biggest mistake by quitting my job at home, selling my house and moving to somewhere where I had no-one, not even a job. I took a big leap moving to England all on my own, but I felt that it was going to be an exciting thing to do and would help me grow as a person. I have found things out this past year about myself that I never knew existed, and have pulled strengths from the depths of somewhere (have no idea where they came from!) and I have tried to improve myself as a person. I am beginning to realise that I have so many strengths and all these abilities that will really push me far in life. I suppose it's up to me now to learn how to use them. Thanks for all of your help, you all gave me a lot to think about and when I woke this morning I felt empowered! Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted April 28, 2006 Share Posted April 28, 2006 Good to hear!! Sounds like you're already realising how far you've come in life....! Link to post Share on other sites
Bogun Posted April 28, 2006 Share Posted April 28, 2006 Life in general... is this it? I just can't get my head around why I am here. Why any f us are here? Yep this is it. Life can seem pretty mundane. Why do you think people take drugs? As to why we are here, I think we're all here to learn and improve ourselves, regardless of what your spiritual beliefs are. Life is short, too short. After 80 or 90 years you may not think that its short. And then if you consider the possibility that when you die you just get reborn again somewhere else, it doesnt matter how long you live for as you've been here many times before. Maybe I'll start a thread on the rebirth issue sometime. The concept of living once and then its all over doesnt make a lot of sense. Doesnt explain why we arent born equally... Link to post Share on other sites
Author gemmab2020 Posted April 28, 2006 Author Share Posted April 28, 2006 I know I have came far in life. I have acheived a lot already and I know I have still a lot to come. I maybe just get stuck in neutral. I feel like I have so much to offer, maybe I just need to pay more attention to where I can channel most of it. I don't have a clue what I want to do with myself career-wise, I know I want a career, but I also want to experience life. I would love to take myself off and travel, see the world. But unfortunately money doesn't grow on trees! Link to post Share on other sites
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