movinon05 Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 MO..... Your killing me with this Ben Franklin thingy! Jeepers! Run girl friend, run! I'm trying, but they keep following me everywhere!!! Link to post Share on other sites
rossm Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 How are you Ross? Have you heard anything? Well, I'm thinking that maybe she's gone for good now. If you remember, she had been IMing and/or e-mailing me regularly. I was pretty-much ignoring that. Then last Wednesday, she called me at work, which was very unusual. Yet, it felt good to hear her voice. You guys know how that is.... She called again Saturday night. I got up the courage to tell her off! Since then, I haven't heard a peep. It feels so liberating, like a giant weight has been lifted off of me. Yet, I still think of her. You know, even though she treated me pretty badly at the end, it's like I gloss over that and only think of the good times. That's how badly I was hooked. Someone can treat me like crap and it's all good. Crazy! Well, I seriously hope she's gone, because I need to focus on trying to get back to where I once belonged - getting my emotional and physical affection from my W. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 Well, I'm thinking that maybe she's gone for good now. If you remember, she had been IMing and/or e-mailing me regularly. I was pretty-much ignoring that. Then last Wednesday, she called me at work, which was very unusual. Yet, it felt good to hear her voice. You guys know how that is.... She called again Saturday night. I got up the courage to tell her off! Since then, I haven't heard a peep. It feels so liberating, like a giant weight has been lifted off of me. Yet, I still think of her. You know, even though she treated me pretty badly at the end, it's like I gloss over that and only think of the good times. That's how badly I was hooked. Someone can treat me like crap and it's all good. Crazy! Well, I seriously hope she's gone, because I need to focus on trying to get back to where I once belonged - getting my emotional and physical affection from my W. Wow, you told her off? Good for you! She sounds like the type of person who needs to be told off! No offense! Hopefully she got the message since she seemed to be playing games. I know how easy it is to remember the good times and forget the bad. I had a lot of both. But she really seems to be showing her true colors. I don't recall your whole situation with your W, but I do hope it goes well. Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 Rossm.... Wow! Good for you! *high five* Its a tuffy, but it surely can be liberating! Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 MO..... Your killing me with this Ben Franklin thingy! Jeepers! Run girl friend, run! Girls!!!! I have to make a confession..... I have no idea who Ben Franklin is...!!! Help, please!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Well, I'm thinking that maybe she's gone for good now. If you remember, she had been IMing and/or e-mailing me regularly. I was pretty-much ignoring that. Then last Wednesday, she called me at work, which was very unusual. Yet, it felt good to hear her voice. You guys know how that is.... She called again Saturday night. I got up the courage to tell her off! Since then, I haven't heard a peep. It feels so liberating, like a giant weight has been lifted off of me. Yet, I still think of her. You know, even though she treated me pretty badly at the end, it's like I gloss over that and only think of the good times. That's how badly I was hooked. Someone can treat me like crap and it's all good. Crazy! Well, I seriously hope she's gone, because I need to focus on trying to get back to where I once belonged - getting my emotional and physical affection from my W. Ross, Don't relax just yet..... OW has only been gone for a few days.... "Telling off" or no "telling off"! Look at RC and her 5 1/2 NC.... You are right to focus on your W. Stay strong. You wil be fine... Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Aaahhhh, motha nachor. For heaven's sake, if it wasn't for those 'webs' they wouldn't catch the bugs. Besides, I thoroughly enjoy reading and the involved loves whisper or others' questionable ideals. Life is a channel of love, hate or platonic view of sorts. If you feel it, I can readily admit the other does too. Do not try to cover up what we can or try to deny. YOu feel when you two are together, the other does as well... As to holler, or shout to the sky above, Love or feeling there of are sooo special and never to be taken lightly. Sadly there seems to be some type of catagorizing as to the why's or why not. I say it is wondreful. And for all its worth, Here me shout, here me hollor... WOW, Loving you loving me is all I think and dream about. Now, was that hard? Yes and Yes. I said yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Girls!!!! I have to make a confession..... I have no idea who Ben Franklin is...!!! Help, please!!!! http://images.google.co.uk/images?q=ben+franklin&hl=en&btnG=Search+Images MovinOn's Beau Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 She called again Saturday night. I got up the courage to tell her off! Since then, I haven't heard a peep. It feels so liberating, like a giant weight has been lifted off of me. Yet, I still think of her. You know, even though she treated me pretty badly at the end, it's like I gloss over that and only think of the good times. That's how badly I was hooked. Someone can treat me like crap and it's all good. Crazy! Well, I seriously hope she's gone, because I need to focus on trying to get back to where I once belonged - getting my emotional and physical affection from my W. She won't be gone. NO way on Earth. Good for you for giving her a piece of your mind! She had that coming! What you need now is to draft (in your mind, or email) a response to her when she comes looking for you again. Just be ready... And... good luck with focusing on you M Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 http://images.google.co.uk/images?q=ben+franklin&hl=en&btnG=Search+Images MovinOn's Beau OMIGOD!! I just got up and I'm hysterical!! lol!! Hey Jess. Ben Franklin seems to be who I am attracting from online dating and my neighbor's father. They're coming out of the woodwork!! Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 http://images.google.co.uk/images?q=ben+franklin&hl=en&btnG=Search+Images MovinOn's Beau Thanks a mill, Sami! What would I do and where would I be without you???!!?? :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
rossm Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Don't relax just yet..... OW has only been gone for a few days.... "Telling off" or no "telling off"! Look at RC and her 5 1/2 NC.... She won't be gone. NO way on Earth. You're probably right. She is quite persistent. *SIGH* I guess this will be filed under To Be Continued..... Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 OMIGOD!! I just got up and I'm hysterical!! lol!! Hey Jess. Ben Franklin seems to be who I am attracting from online dating and my neighbor's father. They're coming out of the woodwork!! I only have one comment for this.... OH. MY. GOD!!!!!! Yes, MO, they are E-V-E-R-Y-W-H-E-R-E!!!! :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 You're probably right. She is quite persistent. *SIGH* I guess this will be filed under To Be Continued..... Yes. But YOU need to be the one who decides how it continues, not her. Get your response to her ready for when she comes back. YOU must be ready... don't allow yourself to drift through life like this. No *sighing* with despondency!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Thanks a mill, Sami! What would I do and where would I be without you???!!?? :lmao: He looks like quite a catch, eh..?? Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 after realising my MM is a sociopath and always was quite sure he was a narcissist, I was thinking about my past boyfriends and my H and woah..I realise I have a serious pattern here. so movin you might not be getting the prettiest of guys but I get the ones that there looks are deceiving..pretty on the out side ,rush limbaugh on the inside [COLOR=#0080ff]http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&q=rush%20limbaugh&sa=N&tab=wi[/COLOR] Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 LNF my last boyfriend was a Narcissist, and when I realised what was 'wrong' with him and us... and looked back, there was at least one other boyfriend who fitted the same pattern. Cold, all words and no real feeling there. My last bf was pretty effing twisted, however... nothing I've ever experienced before or since came close. Having said that, I've had some other pretty great boyfriends. We've just not lasted long-term however for other reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 He looks like quite a catch, eh..?? Totally scrumptious!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 But YOU need to be the one who decides how it continues, not her. Ross, I agree with Sami. Don't allow yourself to become a "victim of circumstance" by throwing yourself at her mercy. You DO have some say in this, never forget that!!! Link to post Share on other sites
rossm Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Yes. But YOU need to be the one who decides how it continues, not her. Get your response to her ready for when she comes back. YOU must be ready... don't allow yourself to drift through life like this. No *sighing* with despondency!!!! Yes, you're right. I'm the one that needs to be in control here and not just sit back waiting for the inevitable to happen and get taken by surprise. I've actually been thinking on and off what I would say if she came back, but like you said, unless I'm truly prepared, I might not be able to pull it off in the moment of surprise. Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 LNF my last boyfriend was a Narcissist, and when I realised what was 'wrong' with him and us... and looked back, there was at least one other boyfriend who fitted the same pattern. Cold, all words and no real feeling there. My last bf was pretty effing twisted, however... nothing I've ever experienced before or since came close Having said that, I've had some other pretty great boyfriends. We've just not lasted long-term however for other reasons. I think about it and the good guys I dated were the ones I really never developed feelings for,just pals. for instance my H is soo in love with him self I often wondered when I fit in..my first love who has been lurking around my life since I was 11, is the worst of the hep..my family told me we could be twins...what does that tell me? I think therapy might be in order for now Sami, cause this last one (MM) his attitude is off the map. a woman at work told last night night everyone wonders at work why I'm friends with him ( don't know if the think there a A or not..guess they do) but they wonder why because he's such a huge a**h***..woah man. Ross, I agree with Sami. Don't allow yourself to become a "victim of circumstance" by throwing yourself at her mercy. You DO have some say in this, never forget that!!! yep ross your doing the right thing..work on your M .give it a shot at least you'll know for better or worse what you should do about your life..the A will just leave you in a limbo you don't want to be in. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 I only have one comment for this.... OH. MY. GOD!!!!!! Yes, MO, they are E-V-E-R-Y-W-H-E-R-E!!!! :lmao: yeah, where is that WA and her sexy brother when I need him!! Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 MO.... Hey! Can we share?? We all are so familiar with that! *laughing* Sorry, couldn't resist that one! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 25, 2006 Author Share Posted May 25, 2006 I am here. Sorry to throw cold water on your party, but my x-husband and his family destroyed my daughter's graduation last night. Why? Because his wife whom he has been married to for 11 years is intimidated by me and has refused to spend any time with me. Therefore, his entire family has been warned to stay away from me in spite of the fact that my daughter wanted us all to be together for her celebration. I still get along very well with my xhusband and his family.....apparently just not her. Anyway, my daughter is destroyed because her dad took his wife's side inspite of our daughter's wishes....She cried after graduation because they even left before wishing her congratulations. Now we have a party to put on together tomorrow night and I have no idea how to do this. I love his family and they love me but they have been forbidden to speak to me because of his bitch of a wife. Why aren't my child's feelings taken into consideration? And why couldn't his wife hold it together for a few days and suck it up for my daughter? And why couldn't my x take a stand and tell his wife to back off? Good thing my brother is flying in today....I need him now. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 What A Bitch!!!! I Can't Write More Now As I'm At Work, Omigod!! I'm Seething!!!! Your Ex Needs To Get Some Balls And So Does His Family!! Arghhhhhhhhh (((huge Major Hugs)))) Link to post Share on other sites
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