lovernotafighter Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 You must be doing something other than laying in the sun, Miss LNF!! We're finally supposed to get some warm weather this weekend and I will be in the privacy of my yard with a nice long cool one, (or 2 or 3...!) sunning myself up!! Its about time! This freakin' weather!! tanning beds..to much tanning..I'm getting a little over cooked our weather has has been crap as well...today not so bad..but every other day,blaugh Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 I've been doing the "fake bake" for a few weeks. My usual practice this time of year to prevent from burning. Now I'm ready for the summer and all the stuff that comes with it! YUMMY! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 25, 2006 Author Share Posted May 25, 2006 Ah ladies, ladies, ladies.... It is over 100 degrees here EVERYDAY! No need to fake bake here... :0 Cheers! Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 I KNEW you were gonna say that!! lol!! No thanks, I'm not THAT desperate!! I seriously don't know how you can stand that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 25, 2006 Author Share Posted May 25, 2006 That's why we have swimming pools and air conditioning here! I tell you, it is beautiful out here. And if you get too hot, just jump in the pool or come inside! I'm gonna get you out here to visit yet! Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 WA..... I'm all for that too! I love the heat! Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 I'm not fair-skinned I'm fairly dark... with a SPOT. Right in the middle of my nose. And dizziness from paint fumes. And... AND I HATE THIS NC BS. There, thought I'd get that off my chest. Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Sami..... I'm not liking it this time around either! Probably because he's played the NC card this time! Grrrrrrr....... Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 You need to put on some good music (not sad music) while you're painting. Too much time to think while you're painting. Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Doesn't it make it easier knowing he started it..? No... I suppose not... EVERY single aspect of an A has its own special TORTURE. Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 You need to put on some good music (not sad music) while you're painting. Too much time to think while you're painting. That is exactly what the problem was. I was out there for 4 hours or something and ALL I could think of was how IWTH's MM decided that he would be staying M. I can't believe that... argh. Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Sami..... *hit the floor* Torture!! Now that's telling it like it is!!! Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 You know every single situation is different. Put that music on!! Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Doesn't it make it easier knowing he started it..? No... I suppose not... EVERY single aspect of an A has its own special TORTURE. To tell you the gosh honest truth, being NCd did make it easier, although it was pathetic not to tell me he was doing it. I have so much respect for you girls for doing the NC. I think that's even harder and don't know if I would have been successful starting it on my own. I would like to think so. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 25, 2006 Author Share Posted May 25, 2006 Starting it this time was my idea. And, even though it had been my idea many times before in the past, THIS TIME, I had truly "had it." I knew that I needed to break away from the turmoil. I knew that I was getting close to my rapidly unraveling rope with this man. He says he still loves me, but this is INSANE. Love shouldn't be LIKE THIS! Either you want to be with me or you don't. Simple as that. And I, for one, don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me enough to take whatever measures it would take to be with me. So I decided that it was gonna be like this: I get either all of you or you get none of me. It was his choice. Perhaps my old self is back. I don't know what it is. But this time, NC has been easy for me. Thank God. Link to post Share on other sites
eyeswideshut Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 woah so much has been happening! WA, I wish i could help, I don't have children, so I could never understand the dynamics. The only person I knew growing up who had parents who divorced, is my best friend. It took years for her to forgive her father, (he was immature, and immoral in every sense) but I don't think it's the case with your X. Anyhow, when she finally did, he did something totally stupid again to her mother, and then that was it, he's history. (he ordered a Thailand prostitute and brought her home so she can be his live-in-maid/prostitute. UNBELIEVABLE! Anyway. Your daughter sounds like the mature one in this situation. Thank GOD she has you, thank god she has one very stable loving parent, and it's too bad her own father couldn't be trusted. I can't imagine how that must feel. It does affect everyone differently. You see, my best friend whos father was a jerk, she has no issues with men. She has an amazing guy in her life right now, and she's always had. If they were a**h***s, she wouldn't take it for one minute, she'd just walk away. In a sense, I find she is better equipped than I am. I, on the other hand, had the most loving father. He treated me like a little boy, made me "practical". He'd let me hang out with him, introduced me the pleasures of classical music, reading, and cognac. The thing is, I tend to see all men as really good creatures. So I tend to love them unconditionally no matter how many faults, and I also have a hard time to do really cute feminine things like "pull a fit" and "cry". No not me, I'll be the one coaching them, hitting them on the back screaming: Come on, I believe in you!!! s***e!!!! So you girls are in NC? I enjoyed the repartee. Spot means different things in the UK and the US. I think a spot in the US is what: like a freckle? or a red bump? in the UK a zit? anyway, in french canadian a spot is a beauty mark. hahahaha Anyway, he wrote back, after my NC email, the one in which I said I believe in him, and he needs space in order to focus on his marriage, and he wrote back, saying he feels like an idiot because he can't love her anymore. I had wrote that maybe things wouldn't work out anyway because I'd feel badly to break up the marriage. He wrote back that it was over even before i was in the picture, But the weird thing which really got me by surprise was that he said he agrees that even if he were free, it might not work out, because of my situation with my X. Is that bullcrap? I mean, sure I told him I was still grieving my x fiance, but he thinks it's more than that. (I know it's not) but could this really be affecting him? I mean, I know he won't be able to last in his marriage. That is beside the point. But when I told him if he breaks it off with her, I wouldn't want to be in the picture, (it was because I don't want to be seen as the cause) but he thinks I don't want to be in the picture because I still love my X. could he be threatened? and how could he? I mean, I broke it off with him almost 2 years ago. of course it's over. Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 MovinOn was asking about this thread the other day. I would have bumped it, but it's too old a thread to bump by the looks of things, so I'm posting the link here as this is a thread we all come to regularly. If there are newbies who don't come to this thread and you think they might benefit from reading it, then maybe cut and past it to their threads too. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=68968 Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 Yes, a zit!!!!!!! But the weird thing which really got me by surprise was that he said he agrees that even if he were free, it might not work out, because of my situation with my X. Is that bullcrap? I mean, sure I told him I was still grieving my x fiance, but he thinks it's more than that. (I know it's not) but could this really be affecting him? I mean, I know he won't be able to last in his marriage. That is beside the point. But when I told him if he breaks it off with her, I wouldn't want to be in the picture, (it was because I don't want to be seen as the cause) but he thinks I don't want to be in the picture because I still love my X. Have you talked to him about this..? I mean, have you put to him what you put here..? I think second-guessing someone when you could ask them directly is a bit of a waste of time. But that's just me maybe! HAS he said he's leaving his M..? Is he doing it? When? Are you intending on not being around because it's best for him, or you? Or both? Or what? I am somewhat tired so can't remember if you have a thread with all this on Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 MovinOn was asking about this thread the other day. I would have bumped it, but it's too old a thread to bump by the looks of things, so I'm posting the link here as this is a thread we all come to regularly. If there are newbies who don't come to this thread and you think they might benefit from reading it, then maybe cut and past it to their threads too. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=68968 Thanks Sami, for posting that. I just read through it. And I can see I have adopted a lot of her "rules", even if they came too late. But that's ok. At least I have them now!! Link to post Share on other sites
eyeswideshut Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 Well, I'm a scaredy cat when it comes to my family and close friends. My cousin, who is also friends with his wife, invited my sister to a show this weekend. Guess who's show? His wife's dance show!! She's the main star. See how close to home this is? So I wouldn't want to be in the picture because if anyone found out, they would say: BAD BAD EYESWIDESHUT. How could you pounce on a poor guy when he just lost his brother, and the minute things start going badly with his wife? See, he's the vulnerable one. I'm strong as steel. So I should be the smart one. I didnt ask him about that comment he made about my ex. But over the months, I would talk about my ex, just as he would talk about his wife, you know about the dynamics of when you fall out of love. and he knew about all the drama that occured since Oct. when my ex was doing everything to win me back. So when I sent the NC email, I just said, maybe you are afraid to break it off with her because you'd have to continue with me. and I said that I was afraid too when he first told her that she had to leave (his first attempt at separation), that it would be too soon for me to start a relationship, (this was back in Feb.) Anyhow, I wasn't thinking of responding to the email he sent after the NC last email. But he just said he could never be afraid of being with me, but maybe it wouldn't work out, now anyway, because of my issues with my ex. (let's just say, when I was with my ex the entire time I totally idolized him and kissed the ground he walked on, and vice-versa, and my brother (his best-friend) knew about this, so I figure he knew too. He never had that even with his wife, so maybe he thinks two years to get over someone is a bit on the long side?! Oh, thanks for that OE thread. I think we should keep bringing it back. She's a legend on our board. How's the NC feeling today, everyone?!?!! And what are you all doing to go on today? Oh, I never could iron shirts, and that was a stupid issue I had with my ex, and he always used to say, if you loved me you'd iron my shirts, (he's from old school) and i said no... it has nothing to do with it. Well, guess who ironed a little baby shirt (size 12 months)today for her nephew? (oh, hell, those little things only take 20secs to iron anyway) But THAT is love. Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 Hmmm EWS... I have no idea why he's got that stuck in his head, then Fat lot of good I'm being today because I'm tired to death. NC today feels like... Well, it was getting better through the first 4 weeks, but now I seem to have reached a plateau. Not getting any better at all. Still miss him badly, still wonder about him about 5 million times a day. I think the one thing that's better is that I'm not really struggling with 'the voices' any longer... if I get a dumb thought about it, I just ignore it. No real problem with that at the moment, at least. Mainly trying to stay awake today as I had barely any sleep last night. Not good. Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 Yes, well.... I'm thinking of collecting my litte rubber party hats and hopping a ride with some boy toy! Save a horse....Ride a Cowboy! Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 Yes, well.... I'm thinking of collecting my litte rubber party hats and hopping a ride with some boy toy! Save a horse....Ride a Cowboy! it's funny RC,we think alike...I told my sister about this cute twenty something down at the coffee shop I've been perving out on and she's like "woah..what?!" and I told her hey if I want a boy toy I need to make sure he's a boy..and hot.. lol! *snap* so week 2 for me is almost up and remember I told yens my MM wrote me that wacked out letter and I did good..didn't respond. well he wrote me again yesterday, this time I did write back *sigh* he said he didn't want to lose me and feels like s***. I wrote the same but didn't think we can work this out..so at least I stuck to my guns though I shouldn't have bothered,which I know I'm gonna kick myself for later..I was doing so good :-( Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 LNF... Awe hell! Respond away if the mood moves you! I do believe we all have to do what is right in our head space. No sense in creating any more drama then what is presently going on! Helps to release at times. I've got my eye on a boy toy myself! He froths at the mouth when I give him the slightest bit of attention. You know these young ones, they love older women "Cougars" *laughing* Makes them feel like such a MAN! Bye the way LNF...where on the planet do you live? You know some of us are trying to get together for a trip! I would love for you to join us! Fun! Fun! Fun! Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 Save a horse....Ride a Cowboy! That's what I say. I also say, "YEEEEEEEEEEEEE-HAAAAAAAAAAW!!!!!!" Link to post Share on other sites
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