eyeswideshut Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 I have a BOY TOY too! Actually, he's been a friend for 5 years. and he's 21. teehee. We got drunk one day last summer and slept together. I've posted it somewhere on this board, about older women sleeping with younger men. He's so cute though, he was saying: you are such a good woman, you should be married by now. Anyway. He's done University, and comes back to town, and wants to take me out. He's one of those really gorgeous guys, (not really my type) but still very sweet. (our friendship is really strong and going out with him is really all talk and just a bit of action if we both feel like it.) However, he's one of those guys I see once or twice a year. I don't think I'll sleep with him again this summer. But he does like to learn a few moves from me sometimes. lol! He phoned a month ago to tell me he'd be back in June. hahah Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 I have a BOY TOY too! I had a toyboy too! He had just turned 21 and I was 32 later that year... He was mad about me, and he still is! We're still in touch quite regularly as friends 6 years later... In actual fact, he has really improved with age. Pity, though, my thoughts are elsewhere... Flippin' typical, right???? Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 I had a toyboy too! He had just turned 21 and I was 32 later that year... He was mad about me, and he still is! We're still in touch quite regularly as friends 6 years later... In actual fact, he has really improved with age. Pity, though, my thoughts are elsewhere... Flippin' typical, right???? Boy toy... hmmmm, I've never tried that b4. Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 LNF... Awe hell! Respond away if the mood moves you! I do believe we all have to do what is right in our head space. No sense in creating any more drama then what is presently going on! Helps to release at times. I've got my eye on a boy toy myself! He froths at the mouth when I give him the slightest bit of attention. You know these young ones, they love older women "Cougars" *laughing* Makes them feel like such a MAN! Bye the way LNF...where on the planet do you live? You know some of us are trying to get together for a trip! I would love for you to join us! Fun! Fun! Fun! I thought about all day about responding to him and wishing I hadn't...it let him know I am still here. and of coarse he didn't respond back..so what was the point in him writing?..probably just to try to give me one last punch in the gut. I live in Cleveland Ohio.. wow do you know how awesome meeting would be? I'd be loving it! it would really depend on my job and such..but yes please keep me posted Link to post Share on other sites
Blind Illusion Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Boy toy... hmmmm, I've never tried that b4. Me neither, Zara...perhaps we have been deprived all this time. Link to post Share on other sites
Blind Illusion Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 I thought about all day about responding to him and wishing I hadn't...it let him know I am still here. and of coarse he didn't respond back..so what was the point in him writing?..probably just to try to give me one last punch in the gut. Doesn't that just make you want to strangle them when this happens? like do you just need to know that I am still here & then you'll continue like before. I know how hard it is. You pass one hurdle of not contacting them, and then, something happens. Don't beat yourself up though. Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 To you my "girl friends" .....*laughing* Zara...OMG! You never had a boy toy! Hell they are so submissive to "Cougars"...Unbelieveable. I had a 28 year old who was actually quite mature. The down fall is they "fall hard and fast" kinda like us Ow's. Mine wanted the whole "live-in" and would do literally anything. I came straight with him and told him that I was only in it for well.....you know and that I didn't want to deprive him of a family and all that "wonderful" feeling of being married....(just had to puke most of the words down *laughing*) Marriage is soooo "over rated". I don't know, for me I'm not bitter but its so Yucky! Hell, when I retire I don't want to see the same freakin face morning, noon and night, I'd rather be on a singles cruise with the people who are single for the same reasons I choose to be. I realize this isn't for everyone, but for me.....after raising kids that's where I want to be....."love you girl" LNF... OMG...Most of my family are from Ohio! Heck! for all I know maybe your one of my relatives! (laughing)...now wouldn't that be something! We tend to have the same exMM and life outlook! I will definately keep you posted where we could meet and like you, job restraints and kids are definately a factor. You know, when I seen your avatar of "Monroe" I knew we would connect in some way because she was definately one person that I thought was so beautiful and read much about. Funny! You be careful Dolly! You are going on your own now and it will be a very tough time for you! I was NC on my own and between my career and kids and my thoughts of my MM, I thought OMG, am I ever going to make it! But I did! Tough nonetheless but I do believe my unconditional little cherubs helped me through! (hugs) BI.... Your funny! Them little boy toys are like always in our drawers. *wink* Kinda like our REAL toys! *laughing* Hold strong girl! Always a pleasure having you here! Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Hey I want a boy toy too!! Why is it I'm always wanting what someone else has!! lololol! Not! Although last year I had a 32 yr old chasing me. Is that a boy toy for a 46 yr old??? He was very good!! He's in hot pursuit of me again now that he knows I'm free. And I turned him down for this weekend. I just don't feel like falling back into that again. I'm just not into sleeping around for the hell of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Although last year I had a 32 yr old chasing me. Is that a boy toy for a 46 yr old??? MO, In my books that is a definite YES!!!!!!!! I am well impressed!!!! :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Yeah, he's a schmoozer! Prefers older women because he says the younger ones are less mature and he doesn't want to deal with them. But I have to be careful with him. We'll be in the sack in 2 seconds if I let him. He can be a bit pushy. And I know there's no future. So unless I get a few drinks in me and lose my inhibitions, I'm gonna make sure that doesn't happen. Can't say its not tempting though! Then again, I don't know where or who he's been with. I know he had at least one young GF since I last saw him, for one month, who kept calling and saying "How come you don't call me?" Didn't last long! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 27, 2006 Author Share Posted May 27, 2006 Good morning! I have a boy toy too! He's 27 and I am 40. I fought dating him for quite some time because 13 years is a huge age gap for me.....I mean, come on.....my oldest daughter is 21.... But he was quite insistent that I take him seriously. Talk about FUN! Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Doesn't that just make you want to strangle them when this happens? like do you just need to know that I am still here & then you'll continue like before. I know how hard it is. You pass one hurdle of not contacting them, and then, something happens. Don't beat yourself up though. I'm trying not to..he at least told me he has been hurting badly for awhile and people who work for him have been saying he's acting like he has a split personality....I shouldn't get any joy from that,but It helps to know he might actually care we are in NC. but damn why did I have to write him back..I was doing good,I felt good..well better and now I feel s*** all over again..ugh..your right though BI,I shouldn't beat my self up, I just won't do it again. LNF... OMG...Most of my family are from Ohio! Heck! for all I know maybe your one of my relatives! (laughing)...now wouldn't that be something! We tend to have the same exMM and life outlook! I will definately keep you posted where we could meet and like you, job restraints and kids are definately a factor. You know, when I seen your avatar of "Monroe" I knew we would connect in some way because she was definately one person that I thought was so beautiful and read much about. Funny! Monroe always seemed so beautiful to me ,even when she didn't seem to be trying! I love that :-) lol! now that would be funny,lets say we all meet and we are like " hey aren't you my second cousin on my mothers side?" Sweeet! yes please keep me posted about the meet..hey can I bring a effigy of my MM we can barbecue over? You be careful Dolly! You are going on your own now and it will be a very tough time for you! I was NC on my own and between my career and kids and my thoughts of my MM, I thought OMG, am I ever going to make it! But I did! Tough nonetheless but I do believe my unconditional little cherubs helped me through! (hugs) thanks I need that RC...I don't have kids but my brother is a great friend and gay..so he his funny as hell and you know what a gays love life is like? makes ours look positively sane :-) Good morning! I have a boy toy too! He's 27 and I am 40. I fought dating him for quite some time because 13 years is a huge age gap for me.....I mean, come on.....my oldest daughter is 21.... But he was quite insistent that I take him seriously. Talk about FUN! Good morning !! I'm 34 and it's funny theres one 21 year old I work with that follows me around like a puppy,he says he needs a older girlfriend..okay this might be to much of 'boy' for me. the coffee house kid though looks like he's about 24 and is in a band and oh man cute ,he looks allot like Jake Gyllenhaal (Brokeback Mountain) my separation should be here in august, so till then many lattes under my belt for me :-) Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 MO.... Your killing me with your boy toy story! I hear you on the boy toy "wanting to jump your bones" immediately! They are funny that way! I heard the same words from my boy toy he prefers older women because we are more experienced. They do become very submissive to our needs! Mine lasted about 3 months. I had to break it off because he was talking Yikes! "Marriage". Its just nice to know at 43 I still got it going on! Good for the Ego! Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Well... I did my going off with ONS toyboy whatevers ten years ago. But then I am 43. What am I doing to go on..? Well, I emailed him about 20 mins ago. Link to post Share on other sites
Iwanttohope Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Sami D....You just made me laugh:laugh: first time today! Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 LOL... well hey! I'm glad it made someone laugh. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 MO.... Your killing me with your boy toy story! I hear you on the boy toy "wanting to jump your bones" immediately! They are funny that way! I heard the same words from my boy toy he prefers older women because we are more experienced. They do become very submissive to our needs! Mine lasted about 3 months. I had to break it off because he was talking Yikes! "Marriage". Its just nice to know at 43 I still got it going on! Good for the Ego! Well my BT is not submissive at all. He's very confident and he has no problems taking control! He called me today again. But I told him I just need to veg. I'm very surprised he's being understanding. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Well... I did my going off with ONS toyboy whatevers ten years ago. But then I am 43. What am I doing to go on..? Well, I emailed him about 20 mins ago. You e-mailed BT?? And what is ONS? I've been seeing that for awhile now, but can't for the life of me figure it out!! Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 ONS is one night stand. Something I pray I will never ever do again. No, I emailed MM. I need to know if he's OK and we're still on track. Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 ONS is one night stand. Something I pray I will never ever do again. No, I emailed MM. I need to know if he's OK and we're still on track. Huh???? Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 ONS is one night stand. Something I pray I will never ever do again. No, I emailed MM. I need to know if he's OK and we're still on track. Maybe no one else is going to like that I say this, but I don't blame you one bit. Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Maybe no one else is going to like that I say this, but I don't blame you one bit. Sami, Don't get me wrong.... I don't blame you for anything.... But I am just wondering has something happened...? How are you???? Huh???? Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Maybe no one else is going to like that I say this, but I don't blame you one bit. Thanks. I just had to. It felt like madness to do anything else. I was crawling up the walls. Well, it's done now. Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Thanks. I just had to. It felt like madness to do anything else. I was crawling up the walls. Well, it's done now. When can you expect an answer? I mean, when is he likely to read your mail? How are you feeling now???? Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Sami, Don't get me wrong.... I don't blame you for anything.... But I am just wondering has something happened...? How are you???? Huh???? I'm fine. I'm sure it's all ok. I just need to know if we're still on track. Maybe we need to make some longer-term plans or something. It was, after all, a NC made on a Thursday morning on the spur of the moment. If we're going to do it 'all or nothing' then I think we need to regroup. Link to post Share on other sites
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