zarathustra Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 This is kind of a first for me, so I need all the help I can get. Thanks for the warning and suggestion, but I don't think these guys are going to be last minuters. I'm afraid they're going to start too early in the week and I'm NEVER prepared to make plans early in the week. Something always comes up. But then I can't give your excuse to all of them or I won't be able to come up with how busy I am on Friday when its only Monday!! That could backfire on me! LOL!! You're killing me! Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Well I'm glad you're entertained! I have to say, I just read the first chapter of Mars/Venus dating, and everything WA told me is RIGHT ON and makes so much sense!!! I bow to the master!! Boy have I been screwing up for years! No wonder! Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Well I'm glad you're entertained! I have to say, I just read the first chapter of Mars/Venus dating, and everything WA told me is RIGHT ON and makes so much sense!!! I bow to the master!! Boy have I been screwing up for years! No wonder! LMAO!! I nearly pee'd my pants reading that! Lookie here MO, I'm not even drunk yet! Good luck with the dating scene. You are one brave lady! Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Well, brave maybe, but I do hate all this. I've narrowed it down to two, who I've met, and I'm leaning towards one. They both want to go back out again. So I'm biding my time. Now, I have to figure out how to say goodbye to the rest of them!! Even though WA says I should not put all my eggs into one basket. And I have no doubt now that she is right! I don't know how I get myself into this! Yes, I do. And I probably deserve it. But, what the hey! Gotta start somewhere, right? As I write this, I'm realizing this isn't even a topic for these boards!! No one in OW/OM is wondering how to date again after coming out of the whole A!! But if I can entertain you guys and help some see a light at the end of the tunnel, then my job is done!!! Although I guess I would need to be successful at this for that to work!!! But then again, this is what going on is all about, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 But then again, this is what going on is all about, right? D'ya want the short answer to your question...? YES, that's what going on is all about, MO! Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 D'ya want the short answer to your question...? YES, that's what going on is all about, MO! And that's why I'll keep posting my silliness!! I can't complain though. Its MUCH less stressful than dealing with a MM!!! I can laugh at this! Link to post Share on other sites
eyeswideshut Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 MO, Where and when did you meet all these MEN????!?!! This is wonderful! Why narrow it down anyway??? You can become a player!!!hahhahaa Or send some up here in Canada!!! I'll give you my address!! lol:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 And that's why I'll keep posting my silliness!! I can't complain though. Its MUCH less stressful than dealing with a MM!!! I can laugh at this! Silliness.....? Yeah, that works for me!!!! Now, how about a few dating tips...? Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 MO, Where and when did you meet all these MEN????!?!! This is wonderful! Why narrow it down anyway??? You can become a player!!!hahhahaa Or send some up here in Canada!!! I'll give you my address!! lol:laugh: On a dating website. I did a freebie for 7 days. And now I'm off. Don't want to get too consumed by it all. And some oldies that I met in the past on another website saw me on that one as well, so they were writing me. No, I am not going to become a player! Its not my style. Just give me one that works and I'll be very happy. I'm in the midst of finding the needle in the haystack. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 Silliness.....? Yeah, that works for me!!!! Now, how about a few dating tips...? Still reading. But I'm still hoping you're not gonna need the advice. We'll discuss if necessary after the end of the month! Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 Still reading. But I'm still hoping you're not gonna need the advice. We'll discuss if necessary after the end of the month! I guess so....my nerves are beginning to get wobbly.... BUT my mind and heart are as determined as ever before.... So keep me in mind, will ya??? Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 Well, brave maybe, but I do hate all this. I've narrowed it down to two, who I've met, and I'm leaning towards one. They both want to go back out again. So I'm biding my time. Now, I have to figure out how to say goodbye to the rest of them!! Even though WA says I should not put all my eggs into one basket. And I have no doubt now that she is right! I don't know how I get myself into this! Yes, I do. And I probably deserve it. But, what the hey! Gotta start somewhere, right? As I write this, I'm realizing this isn't even a topic for these boards!! No one in OW/OM is wondering how to date again after coming out of the whole A!! But if I can entertain you guys and help some see a light at the end of the tunnel, then my job is done!!! Although I guess I would need to be successful at this for that to work!!! But then again, this is what going on is all about, right? I am surely entertained by the knowledge of your success in getting over your xMM! Love ya! Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 I guess so....my nerves are beginning to get wobbly.... BUT my mind and heart are as determined as ever before.... So keep me in mind, will ya??? Jessie, we all have you in mind!! Hugs!! Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 Jessie, we all have you in mind!! Hugs!! Thank you! And hugs back at ya!!! Link to post Share on other sites
eyeswideshut Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Jessie, How are things progressing? I'm thinking about you a lot and praying for a positive outcome! June is here and in about 3 weeks your life is about to begin?!?!?!?!?!?! :eek: Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Jessie, How are things progressing? I'm thinking about you a lot and praying for a positive outcome! June is here and in about 3 weeks your life is about to begin?!?!?!?!?!?! :eek: EWS, How are things progressing? Well, MM and W are discussing financial matters and they are looking into how to tell the kids. They have agreed about summer holidays and when he is taking them. He is sorting out a few practical things in the house. He has organised his new accommodation and is moving things in there to that he can have his kids there etc. He has told his parents and his closest friends about the separation (and instead of throwing his to the lions like he expected, they are very supportive, even if they are sad that things have come to this!) It sounds positive, but I am really not going to know until it has already happened, am I? I cannot ignore the possibility of a last second bout of cold feet, can I? But the main thing is that June is here and my new life is about to begin. I don't know yet which life it will be, but I will soon be able to say that I am an exOW and that is all that matters to me!!! It is absolutely terrifying, but it just has to be done! Old Europe has given me so much inspiration in the last couple of days and I am even MORE determined than I ever was before.... (Soon I will explode with determination???? ) EWS, I am not going to say that this is easy. It is not. But this is the only way to go for someone who will not settle for the OW role. I think OE is right, it is a matter of self esteem etc. I am not the most confident person on the planet at times but I DO know that I deserve better than this. That is something that I have never let go of. Even life without HIM is better than being the OW. Staying the OW would have eroded that conviction eventually. I cannot let that happen! Anyway, enough about my "sorry saga" (as I call it!). How are you keeping? Link to post Share on other sites
Blind Illusion Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 I haven;t been around Loveshack for a couple of days (busy with Daughters grad. stuff/end of school year things) but I just saw this, Jessie and hope everything turns out the way you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 I haven;t been around Loveshack for a couple of days (busy with Daughters grad. stuff/end of school year things) but I just saw this, Jessie and hope everything turns out the way you want. Thank you. It will. I will no longer be an OW no matter what happens.... Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Okay girls, the weekend is upon us and I am now trying to juggle two dates, both want to go out, but I'm waiting for the first one to pick a day so I can schedule the other for another day. I don't know if I can keep this up every weekend!!! I just died my hair but the gray may sneak back earlier than usual if this goes on for too long!! I have read half of the Why Men Love Bitches book and I am trying to apply the principals. So far so good. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Okay girls, the weekend is upon us and I am now trying to juggle two dates, both want to go out, but I'm waiting for the first one to pick a day so I can schedule the other for another day. I don't know if I can keep this up every weekend!!! I just died my hair but the gray may sneak back earlier than usual if this goes on for too long!! I have read half of the Why Men Love Bitches book and I am trying to apply the principals. So far so good. I would just ask the other one to choose and if the first one still wants to go out, then he can go out with you when you are available. That way, if it doesn't work out with guy#1 because he's tardy, he'll know to book your time weeeeeeell in advance next time. This is part of the training excercise us women have to embark on. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Well I expected the first one to pick a day because I've been talking to him online and we've been trying to work it out, but then he switched up his schedule and I know when HE's available. But he's now left it open for grabs but says he "must" see me. Well, I ain't sitting around for a call, so if I'm here and available, we'll see. This "Bitch" book makes a whole lot of sense! Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Well I expected the first one to pick a day because I've been talking to him online and we've been trying to work it out, but then he switched up his schedule and I know when HE's available. But he's now left it open for grabs but says he "must" see me. Well, I ain't sitting around for a call, so if I'm here and available, we'll see. This "Bitch" book makes a whole lot of sense! Exactly!! No more sitting around and waiting. Hee hee. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Yeah, I learned that the hard way with the MM. NEVER AGAIN!! Link to post Share on other sites
Love Hurts Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 I am so glad you created this thread. For myself. I have sought help therapy........ via phone/internet. Just voicing my opinion on anothers post is a way of venting for me. Also I have a sense that I may have helped another in their walk. This has been a help to me. The greatest thing I have done for self healing........... Is rewatch the Passion of the Christ.................... I know I have endured more than my share........... Yet when I watch Christ (as appose to imagining what it was like for him......... this is more of a homehitter film) going through and taking abuse............ from soooooooooooooo many. His suffering was great.......... and He was sinless, He did not deserve what he took upon Himself......... I am a sinner............... I deserve everything I get and got. Knowing that................. has set me free... More than a therapist, a pill, a chat, a funny film, or a pill. Christ has suffered more than I ................ and He did it for (me) US. I have found my healing in Him. Praise Jesus for new sight to see. I have a ways to go............... far from where I was before the world fell off it's axes. Today I have a goal... yesterday.... I didn't. I know what I am capable of................ when I put my mind to it. That is a plus................. Just looking back on self accomlishments and knowing (someone did that and I like it)............ daaaaaaaaaa that was me. I hope to see myself doing what I know I can do............ very shortly here. We are dealing with more than what we can see. We are dealing powers and principalities we can not see. If we could see what was going around us each day as a battle for our souls we would curl up in fear of. Spiritual warfare is a daily battle for our souls........... the Devil wants us to live in despair, emptyness, no hope, no joy or peace. He wants us to drink the days away, take pills, and do what ever in this empty world................... until the grave swallows us up... ultimately he wants us dead. He is the greatest liar. The great IF ...........is if... I had only done things Gods way..... this would not have happened and If.. I would'nt be here in this mess. Since you are..(I add myself to the mayhem list)....... it is a blessing.......... those of us that are chastised and hurt in this walk of life. .... we are being re-directed. Becoming more of what we can be............ A lost relationship often times is Gods handywork.......... He knows you are too good for that. He takes unfavorable people out of our lives and leaves them to their own folly. While we sit and scream at God and ask why? Sometime I thank God for unanswered prayer. Just because He does'nt answer does'nt mean He does'nt care. What we thought was an angel...............often times turns out to be a devil in disguise. God helps us when we have no thought to help ourselves... What do we do? We curse Him in return. I am living proof of that. I do not believe I am alone in my actions. A closer walk with Jesus........... He is love. Unconditional. No matter what I am... No matter where I am... No matter what I have done or have not. He genuinely loves His own.............and this is how I am dealing with my losses, my pain and this place I would rather not be in.............. Thank you for your post................... this was good to share. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted June 9, 2006 Author Share Posted June 9, 2006 Thank you Love Hurts. Your post couldn't have come at a better time for me. God placed you and many others in my path during this time in my life. From my soul......this is exactly what I needed today. Thank you. WA Link to post Share on other sites
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