Jay Posted October 7, 2001 Share Posted October 7, 2001 My girl friend refuses to go on a pill. I am trying to make her persuade that it is safe and millioms of women use it. Here are the reason I would like her to use a pill 1) She has irregular periods, and I believe pills rectify this problem 2) She has mild acne, and I think it helps with that too and 3) Less chance to get pregnant I need someone to clarify whether pills are dangerous for health. And if they are, what are they capable of doing to a woman's body? And also, are the aboove good reasons to go on a pill? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
I'll use this name Posted October 7, 2001 Share Posted October 7, 2001 Has she told you exactly why she refuses to go on the pill? Is she scared? Did she have a bad reaction to it in the past? how old is she? My girl friend refuses to go on a pill. I am trying to make her persuade that it is safe and millioms of women use it. Here are the reason I would like her to use a pill 1) She has irregular periods, and I believe pills rectify this problem 2) She has mild acne, and I think it helps with that too and 3) Less chance to get pregnant I need someone to clarify whether pills are dangerous for health. And if they are, what are they capable of doing to a woman's body? And also, are the aboove good reasons to go on a pill? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Violet Posted October 7, 2001 Share Posted October 7, 2001 Look, it's her body, not yours, and if she does not want to take the pill, then you need to accept that decision rather than trying to coax her into doing something that she might resent. There are many compelling reasons for a woman to go on the pill (which you've listed). But there are also long-term health risks for cancer. Some women have very bad reactions to the pill, such as mood swings or extreme fatigue. I have a friend who had to quit the pill because it made her so weak that it was interfering with her work. Other women don't like the idea of pumping chemicals and hormones into their bodies. There are various barrier methods of birth control, but if you prefer the chemical approach, you might want to consider the recently-developed male birth control pill. Link to post Share on other sites
Laurynn Posted October 7, 2001 Share Posted October 7, 2001 No offense, pal...but you're not her Mother or her Doctor, right? Why are YOU so concerned about her irregular periods and/or acne? Is this really any of YOUR business? I can understand your concern, however, of making sure she doesn't get pregnant. That's a legitimate concern. Why does she refuse to go on the Pill? What age is she? Does she just not know anything about it? Is she afraid of side effects? There's got to be reasons. Maybe she wouldn't *mind* getting pregnant????? What type of birth control are you presently using? She could get a lot of info on Oral Contraception (The Pill) from her doctor or gynecologist...as to the Pros and Cons (risks) of using it. Please provide more info. Laurynn Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted October 7, 2001 Share Posted October 7, 2001 I dont know about your gf, I can tell you why I wdn't use the pill. Birth control pills have hormones in them ... i'm not sure about proper terms, but the point is - it breaks the natural system of how a woman's body should function. Thats why so many couples have trouble having children, b/c after years of pills, women's bodies simply cannot go back to the natural cycle. How can you tell her to use something that stops natural functioning of her body? Condoms, on the other hand, are much better. They also protect you against diseases. As for acne, buy her some Oxy cleanser or something. As for irregular periods, tell her to go see a doc so he can send her to a gyno & the real reason for this problem can be determined. Best of luck. My girl friend refuses to go on a pill. I am trying to make her persuade that it is safe and millioms of women use it. Here are the reason I would like her to use a pill 1) She has irregular periods, and I believe pills rectify this problem 2) She has mild acne, and I think it helps with that too and 3) Less chance to get pregnant I need someone to clarify whether pills are dangerous for health. And if they are, what are they capable of doing to a woman's body? And also, are the aboove good reasons to go on a pill? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Peaches Posted October 7, 2001 Share Posted October 7, 2001 I take the pill. I chose to because I personally don't like to deal with condoms. I am totally committed to my boyfriend, and both of us agree not to sleep around, so it works out perfectly for me. On the other hand, there is the cancer issue that someone else brought up. I know a woman who won't go on the pill because of the cancer issue...but she smokes and drinks diet sodas with aspertame in them...smart eh? Also, the pill can make you gain some weight. It can also make it harder to lose weight. That might be affecting her decision. Sit down and talk to her about all of this. Maybe you two will find a happy medium. Peaches My girl friend refuses to go on a pill. I am trying to make her persuade that it is safe and millioms of women use it. Here are the reason I would like her to use a pill 1) She has irregular periods, and I believe pills rectify this problem 2) She has mild acne, and I think it helps with that too and 3) Less chance to get pregnant I need someone to clarify whether pills are dangerous for health. And if they are, what are they capable of doing to a woman's body? And also, are the aboove good reasons to go on a pill? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Laurynn Posted October 8, 2001 Share Posted October 8, 2001 Condoms don't provide 100% protection against either STD's OR pregnancy. The Pill is the most effective form of contraception (around 99%, when used properly), but of course it's no protection against STD's. Funny, most people I know who'd been on the Pill for years (my sister, cousins, friends)....they had no problems getting pregnant once they went off of it. There are actually some health benefits to taking oral contraception .....reduced risk of ovarian cancer, helps to regular periods (irregular periods can increase risk of uterine cancer)....but yes, there are side effects and some risks. I was on the pill for 15 yrs without any problems at all. The new low dose pills they have out now are very good. L I dont know about your gf, I can tell you why I wdn't use the pill. Birth control pills have hormones in them ... i'm not sure about proper terms, but the point is - it breaks the natural system of how a woman's body should function. Thats why so many couples have trouble having children, b/c after years of pills, women's bodies simply cannot go back to the natural cycle. How can you tell her to use something that stops natural functioning of her body? Condoms, on the other hand, are much better. They also protect you against diseases. As for acne, buy her some Oxy cleanser or something. As for irregular periods, tell her to go see a doc so he can send her to a gyno & the real reason for this problem can be determined. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Jay Posted October 8, 2001 Share Posted October 8, 2001 She is 20 years old, and currently we are using a condom, and sometimes pull-out method. Well, I am concerned about her acne and irregular periods, because I am her boyfriend. She thinks that all pills mess up her body. All I want to know is, whether there are relatively safe pills she can take. She refuses to go to a doc./ No offense, pal...but you're not her Mother or her Doctor, right? Why are YOU so concerned about her irregular periods and/or acne? Is this really any of YOUR business? I can understand your concern, however, of making sure she doesn't get pregnant. That's a legitimate concern. Why does she refuse to go on the Pill? What age is she? Does she just not know anything about it? Is she afraid of side effects? There's got to be reasons. Maybe she wouldn't *mind* getting pregnant????? What type of birth control are you presently using? She could get a lot of info on Oral Contraception (The Pill) from her doctor or gynecologist...as to the Pros and Cons (risks) of using it. Please provide more info. Laurynn Link to post Share on other sites
Laurynn Posted October 8, 2001 Share Posted October 8, 2001 Ahhh, the old 'pull out' method....probably one of the LEAST effective methods of preventing pregnancy. There are little spermies swimming around in the "pre ejaculate" (the stuff that comes from the penis once a guy becomes aroused/way before he actually ejaculates) to find their way into the cervix, etc. If you don't want to become a Daddy, I highly advise you to stop using this 'method'....it's risky, risky, risky. Why does she refuse to go to the doctor? Does she want to be pregnant at 20? Doesn't she feel that she should be taking some responsibility in preventing pregnancy? She sounds a little immature and selfish to me. If she's old enough to have sex, she should be old enough to go to a doctor. There are many female doctors out there.......gynecologists..who deal specifically in issues of contraception, doing yearly physical exams on women, etc. That's all they do. If she's not willing to take some responsibility here, and you're only choices are condoms (not 100% effective) and pulling out, I'd say it's time for you to sit down and think long and hard (pardon the pun) about the possible consequences......do you want to be a Dad at your age? Can you respect a woman who doesn't take responsibility? Why does she refuse to go see a doctor? L Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted October 8, 2001 Share Posted October 8, 2001 Ever read a medical explanation of what those pills do to your body? In any case, i'm happy for everyone who uses them & is cool with it & gets pregnant later. But his gf may be like me - makes sense? Nothing gives 100% protection. Wheoever has sex with someone should be considering the risks, whether it's 1% or 10%. I, personally, wouldn't sleep with a guy unless i dont think of having a child with him as a disaster. Anyway, this is going too far into my views ... Night! Condoms don't provide 100% protection against either STD's OR pregnancy. The Pill is the most effective form of contraception (around 99%, when used properly), but of course it's no protection against STD's. Funny, most people I know who'd been on the Pill for years (my sister, cousins, friends)....they had no problems getting pregnant once they went off of it. There are actually some health benefits to taking oral contraception .....reduced risk of ovarian cancer, helps to regular periods (irregular periods can increase risk of uterine cancer)....but yes, there are side effects and some risks. I was on the pill for 15 yrs without any problems at all. The new low dose pills they have out now are very good. L Link to post Share on other sites
witchbreed Posted October 8, 2001 Share Posted October 8, 2001 Your reasons for the pill are sound, but there are sound reasons against it. Possible side-effects like weight-gain, lower libido, higher risk for cardiac troubles later on, messing with the hormon system. Furthermore the pill is only secure if you take it regularly (depending on the kind of pill there is a time window between 3 and 12 hours). If you have severe diarrea or ar puking, it might not be safe either. For myself the pill wouldnt be safe enough, because I do have an aversion against mixing up my hormon system and have troubles taking any medication on schedule. I would strongly recommend to see a doc, about the irregular period and the acne. Have you and your gf ever considered an IUD, there is two kinds, one with copper and one with hormones. I myself have been using IUD's for a couple of years now (the copper kind - I dont want to mess up my hormon system), its safe, you dont have to think about it and it lasts for a couple of years. Once you decide to get off contraception you just take it out. Condoms are OK too, the pulling back is not safe! Talk to her about her reasons and find a way you both feel comfy with. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Barry Posted October 9, 2001 Share Posted October 9, 2001 Thats very considerate of you to care about her like that. Yes the pill is safe, but not meant for every woman. Some women cannot take the pill and if she has irregular periods, this would have to be determined by her doctor. If she has no family doctor, she can go to the local health department where they will give her a pap exam and make certain that she is phsically healthy. Ortho TriCyclin is a very common birth control pill that also helps with acne. There are also prescription strength medications available such as Benzamycin to help if the case of acne is severe. I hope that my information is helpful to you. My girl friend refuses to go on a pill. I am trying to make her persuade that it is safe and millioms of women use it. Here are the reason I would like her to use a pill 1) She has irregular periods, and I believe pills rectify this problem 2) She has mild acne, and I think it helps with that too and 3) Less chance to get pregnant I need someone to clarify whether pills are dangerous for health. And if they are, what are they capable of doing to a woman's body? And also, are the aboove good reasons to go on a pill? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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