Guest Posted May 1, 2006 Share Posted May 1, 2006 I have a very embarassing situation which is hurting me so much. For as long as I can remember, I haven't been happy with my breasts ... I have very large nipples and my breasts aren't as 'perky' as the girls you see in magazines. There's no way I can wear a shirt without a bra. I've looked into surgery in the past only to realize that it's not in my budget. I'm only in my mid-twenties and I'm not a large woman ... I'm relatively in good shape. I just haven't been blessed in that department. In any case, the man I've been dating for the last year has made me feel more comfortable about myself (and especially the way I look naked). But, just the other day, he made a comment that tore me apart. I'm currently pregnant with his child and have been told by my doctor that it's a good idea to wear a loose bra to bed in order to eliminate unecessary stretch marks on my breasts (since they're quite large). My boyfriend then told me while we were laying in bed one night "are you going to apologize to me for not wearing a bra to bed all your life? Your breasts wouldn't sag if you had". I looked at him in horror and said "I thought you liked my breasts ... you know I wish they were nice and perky too" and he responded "if they were perky, all the guys would be after you". I left the room and cried for at least 10 minutes in the washroom before he realized what was happening and what he said to me. He swears that he was just joking around and he didn't think before he spoke. For the last few days he's been constantly telling me how much he loves my body (especially my breasts) - but I can't help but feel self-conscious. Do guys lie about things like this? I know it's every guy's fantasy for their woman to have beautiful perky breasts ... but are there any guys out there who really genuinely are attracted to a woman's personality? I'm trying so hard to just let it go ... I can't even begin to describe the emotions I'm feeling. Please help ... Link to post Share on other sites
sudan588 Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 Awww, Sweety; don't let your man's idiotic joke make you feel bad about yourself. Don't let it make you doubt his being attracted to you either! A lot of men don't even take the time to tell their girlfriends how attractive they are! My husband has said some pretty dumb things before too, but he also constantly tells me how pretty I am, how hot I am, etc. Yes, he needs to open his mouth and insert his foot! It was a stupid thing to say! BUT what he said doesn't mean that he finds your breasts unappealing! He wouldn't be complimenting you if he didn't mean it! Yes, guys like perky breasts! They also like huge breasts, flat breasts, saggy breasts....they like BREASTS!!! He also made the comment that "if they were perky, all the guys would be after you". This says to me that he worries about other men being attracted to you. A little innocent jealousy is natural, and nice to know about sometimes! I think that you might be a bit insecure right now, especially being pregnant! Go look in the mirror, and find 5 things that you like about yourself! When you're feeling insecure, remind yourself of all your good qualities! My bet is that he sincerely feels terrible about what he said, and wishes he had never said it! Accept this "He swears that he was just joking around and he didn't think before he spoke. For the last few days he's been constantly telling me how much he loves my body (especially my breasts)" as his apology, and accept his compliments. Tell him how much it hurt your feelings that he insulted you, even if he was joking around. Ask him to not joke with you about such things. I hope that you are able to work through this! Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 Wasn't this posted somewhere else too? Link to post Share on other sites
Guitar Wizard Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 Yeah, that happens. I remember when I was but a lad of 16, and the first time I had sex with a girl... SIX INCHES IS PLENTY FOR A FRIGGEN 16 YEAR OLD YOU HEARTLESS BITCH!!!! Uhh, Im sorry, I have some emotional scaring... Anyway, we all have flaws in our body. We are as we were created, and that's that. Im sure your brests are just fine, and usually males are really insensitive to that kind of thing. But... teenage girls are too. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 Guys say stuff like that all the time. Foot in mouth disease I call it. And then on top of it you're pregnant, when I was pregnant I was extra self conscious and I was also very emotional. sudan had good advice. Link to post Share on other sites
glittergurl Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 OMG! he sounds like a redneck or something. My husband would never say that to me! And if he did, I would grab whatever I could get my hands on, and throw it at his face. That's just WRONG. Your man has to respect you and your body, and even if you don't always look fantastic (especially while pregnant), he should at least not say everything that goes through his mind out loud. My God, I just can't believe he said that to you. I totally understand you left and cried for a while Seriously, you have to impose this rule: RESPECT. If you can't get him to respect you, then he needs to go find himself another girl who will put up with his stupid comments. Is he 15? Jeez. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 I once told a girlfriend that she had a pretty smile for such an average face. I did it just to watch her cry. She was a bitch and deserved it. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 Ex once said she'll kick my ass if I did something. I then bent over, showed her my ass as in mooning her, patted my ass. It REALLY P_O'ed her and made her smile. She didn't know what to do, kick my ass, keep my pants off, or both! :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
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