Uncertain Luke Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Well, hi everyone that can help me meet this girl that I really want to have a friend relationship with her. This girl in my Chorus class is really good looking and shes also very fun to be around.. I like her and she looks at me during class and I have a strong feeling she likes me as well. She's got a friend that wants to be her boyfriend. She's interested as well, but not as much interested in him as in me. He's a pervert and discusting. That could raise my chances of having her. I only started talking to this girl about three days ago. It was when my Chorus class took a trip to Disney. We were in a group as we went to rides together. This girl likes me because I was very much of a gentleman to her. I helped her with her food tray, I carried her bags when she was going on a ride or something i was nice to her. She said I'm the nicest boy she knows. Here's my problem- I have NOTHING to talk about... I start a conversation.. "How was disney?" "It was fun!" BLaNk....... NOTHING... I know I should ask questions like What ride did you like the most or What park did you enjoy the most but during class my teacher doesn't allow talking..... grr this is the only time I see her. It's way too hard to get a conversation to go because we always talk when we pass each other... It's not like a date when she's not busy talking to her other trillion friends.. I'm a computer geek and I don't have much to talk about. This girl keeps me motivated at the gym and at home when I started doing push-ups so I don't look like a computer geek... I'm really excited when I'm near her.. She's all I can think about and I sometimes cry when I think I've got no chance with her. It might seem a little childish but I'm always upset because I have no faith in myself getting to know her. The friend I was talking about earlier knows her since kindergarten.. It seems like I have NO chance. Sorry for the long post but I really wanted to explain everything Appritiate your help, thanks alot for letting me share this.. it's exploding in my mind thinking about her all the time I even stutter... Grr it's very embarassing. ANd I have an accent so it's super hard to understand me when I talk .... I'm so hopeless Link to post Share on other sites
Alexandra Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 First, if I may ask....how old are you? Second there is a very simple way to keep a conversation going and at the same time gather ammunition for other conversations. Ask her about herself, women -eh, girls, that Disney mention- enjoy speaking about what interests them you need only make sure that you keep it up. Imagine this dialogue: You: So where have you been in your last vacation? Her: To Florida with my parents. -If you then draw a complete blank it was a Q&A not a conversation so stay on your toes and ask something connected, anything- You: And did you enjoy it? OR You: And what was the most fun part of it? OR You: If you could take a vacation anywhere where would it be? Etcetera... I could go on forever but the catch is that you do It also gets better with each try so be persistent, learn how to ask questions, use that geekiness to get info online about things she enjoys and so on. Good luck. P.S. If the answer to my first question is 12 though, disregard all I said and ask her about Barbies. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Ummm! In this country and by age 12 you ask them which sleeze-bag, tattooed, multiply-pierced loser her parents will hate from which gansta-rap, hip-hop band she just can't wait to get close to. Link to post Share on other sites
Alexandra Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Ummm! In this country and by age 12 you ask them which sleeze-bag, tattooed, multiply-pierced loser her parents will hate from which gansta-rap, hip-hop band she just can't wait to get close to. Good point and probably by 12 they couldn't be dragged to Disneyland by wild horses.... it won't let me edit so OP substitute that Twelve for.... ten. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Uncertain Luke Posted May 2, 2006 Author Share Posted May 2, 2006 Who said I was 12.. I'm 14 Thanks for your advice Alexandra I'll try it tomorrow Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 No one said you were 12, luke. Calm down and read a little more closely. It was pure supposition IF you were, not a declaration of fact. But I gotta tell ya, you're not that far from it. Go easy, young man. You have lots of years and many experiences yet to come. They don't all have to happen tomorrow. You are now free to call me an out-of-touch old fart who knows nothing of youth and probably can't remember his own (You'd be wrong. I can still cringe over some aspects of it). May the Force be with you! Link to post Share on other sites
Alexandra Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 You're welcome. Hope it works. Thanks for the.... link to my profile I suppose but isn't that here all the time? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Uncertain Luke Posted May 3, 2006 Author Share Posted May 3, 2006 Today was the worst day to try it. A part of my class and (including) her were crying over my chorus teacher moving somewhere else.. I can't talk to her while she's crying. That'd be awfully cruel Link to post Share on other sites
TheSwordfish Posted May 3, 2006 Share Posted May 3, 2006 "Hey, why are you crying? You think I'm that sexy...." You're right not a good moment. Making her cry is something to do later on. So thats not a good plan either. Now seriously. Being 14, I think this is al you can do: Aks her to do fun things with you (like roller blading, cinema maybe and so on) just ask her to come with you. Maybe plant a kiss when the moment is right. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Uncertain Luke Posted May 4, 2006 Author Share Posted May 4, 2006 Thanks, I'm trying my best. She's one of the popular girls in the class so I CANT EVEN FIND A TIME WHEN HER FRIENDS ARE NOT AROUND! I talk to her but all I can seem to get out of my mouth is a simple, "Hey, Alley." She does respond back but there is only time to say hi because everytime I say hi to her is when she walks past me. I will try to stop her tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
TheSwordfish Posted May 4, 2006 Share Posted May 4, 2006 Just walk up to her and start a conversation about something, make it fun Link to post Share on other sites
Author Uncertain Luke Posted May 5, 2006 Author Share Posted May 5, 2006 Can't really because all of the time someone is talking to her Link to post Share on other sites
TheSwordfish Posted May 5, 2006 Share Posted May 5, 2006 Jump in there, talk to them both, but stand next to her, make a little fun of her (no, not really, but fun of small things, I usually ask a girl where she is from, and then tease her with that, saying things like you can't help it you're from Ohio.... Or when she says something silly, you say... Ohio, wasnt it? and other struff like that, laughing at her) and while doing that, touch her playfully (On the shoulder) and make eye contact. If you just have a conversation with the two of them but put a little more focus on her, it will work. The longer you wait starting a conversation the harder it will become to actually go up to her. Remember you're not going to die talking to her Link to post Share on other sites
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