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i'm going to lose my job, i am going to lose my bf. i am afraid to image my future. Why all the back luck things happened on me, i can't find any good job, i can't find any good bf. My main target in my life is marriage, but this is not so easy to find it. I am so tired now and don't want to find any good man now. I want to ask my my male friends to take care of me. It was because i know he loves me, but i don't love him.

[Marzipan75]

Hi,

 

first of all, if you dont love him then you need to break up with him. Don't lead him on anymore, it will only make things worse. Being with someone for the wrong reasons, just ends up huring both of you, I think. Secondly, if you think you are going to lose your job then start using your time on the internet now to find a new one! Come on, I think you can do it! Have you started checking through the classified ads in your local newspaper yet? What about asking other co-workers/friends if they know of any places that are hiring right now? Or maybe a friend of yours knows someone at their company who is hiring, ask around. Don't be afraid of the future. If you want to look at it this way, losing a job, a boyfriend, yes it's bad but the only way you can go from there is Up! I think that you are just experiencing a bad time and things will probably look up soon. It's hard not to be depressed with everything that has been going on and to add to that the stress of losing a job and partner, it's a very hard thing to cope with.

 

So be good to yourself. Watch a funny movie, some television or talk on the phone with a friend and see if that doesn't cheer you up. A lot of times I find that talking to a friend or finding some small thing to do for a short period of time that is entertaining, can make all the difference between a good day and a bad one. Try to laugh because it will save you!!! I promise!

 

Don't make marriage such a "target" in life. Why not say to yourself, okay, I'm not married and at the moment that's not looking good so I'll concentrate on something else. You know how many marriages end up in divorce now a days? A lot, I think it's somewhere higher than 50%! So, just wait on the marriage thing, I think that when you are least looking for it, love finds you!! I really belive that. If you just stop trying so hard at it, it will find it's way to you, kind of like destiny.

 

Marriage is also not a definition of self worth. I am not married and I know a lot of other people who aren't and they would certainly agree with me that being single is not the worst thing to be right now! I realize that when you are feeling depressed about the way your life is going, it's very hard to get up and be "cheerful". I'm not saying to do this. All I am saying is that things could always be worse. What if someone you loved had died? What if you had a disease like cancer and only six months left to live? What if you have an accident tomorrow and you die? You just never know.

 

When I am feeling bad, I start to think in those terms and if that doesn't help to put me back in my place then I try to concentrate on more positive things going on in my life. And there are always positive things, like friends and family. Hobbies, or sports that you might enjoy doing in your spare time. Do anything to try to get your mind off your troubles for a little while. I think you'll start to think differently soon.

 

Let me know how it goes...

 

Marz

i'm going to lose my job, i am going to lose my bf. i am afraid to image my future. Why all the back luck things happened on me, i can't find any good job, i can't find any good bf. My main target in my life is marriage, but this is not so easy to find it. I am so tired now and don't want to find any good man now. I want to ask my my male friends to take care of me. It was because i know he loves me, but i don't love him.

[Barry]

You sound depressed. When was the last time you had a physical/ complete checkup with a doctor? If you are lacking enthusiasm, you may need some professionals to help direct you in a more positive direction.

 

Before you can begin a relationship with a man, you must first love yourself. What are your goals? Your hobbies? What interests you? Go outside once a day in the sunshine and exercise. It will lift your spirits. Join a group, even if it is only once or twice a week. Look in the local newspaper for things that may interest you. Change your immediate surroundings; even if it is small, such as changing curtains or painting the walls. Go to the local unemployment office for assistance is getting a better job. There are people trained who can help you. Social skills are important, so make sure you are communicating with others on a daily basis. Take care of yourself, and remember, you have to start from within. Once you do this, you will be ready to include a relationship filled with the kind of love that you are seeking. Good luck.

i'm going to lose my job, i am going to lose my bf. i am afraid to image my future. Why all the back luck things happened on me, i can't find any good job, i can't find any good bf. My main target in my life is marriage, but this is not so easy to find it. I am so tired now and don't want to find any good man now. I want to ask my my male friends to take care of me. It was because i know he loves me, but i don't love him.