Absolutely Amazing

[Guest]

I have been lurking these board for awhile now, and I'll see a poster make a comment that might be a little out of line, or even down right rude, and some of the ones that call that poster out on it, are the very ones who make lots of rude comments themselves, or even worse than that, and come across as major know it alls. I guess they can't stand rude comment competion, must be something that they lacked from childhood? Carry on.

[Scott S]

What you've observed is hardly exclusive to Love Shack.

 

In any such board, forum, newsgroup, etc., tasteless, inappropriate, and/or patently offensive postings may, or likely will subject the writer to a barrage of commentary, snide or otherwise. The offending posts may be deleted by moderators, & the sender possibly banned.

 

Common courtesy would dictate that resulting flame wars be conducted off-board, but often that does not happen.

[laRubiaBonita]

animosity can be a flagrant danger.

[Scott S]

animosity can be a flagrant danger.

 

Danger indeed. How many accounts of animosity-ruined relationships do you suppose are on this board?

[laRubiaBonita]

at least a bakers dozen........

[KittenMoon]

Keep in mind we're all "discussing" w/o the benefit of tone of voice or facial expressions, so somethings can be easily misconstrued.

[JackJack]

Keep in mind we're all "discussing" w/o the benefit of tone of voice or facial expressions, so somethings can be easily misconstrued.

 

 

This is true, however there are times its obvious and plain as day what people mean in their typing.

[Guest]

This is true, however there are times its obvious and plain as day what people mean in their typing.

 

 

This is my point. I would like to become a member, it takes awhile for my posts to post becasue as I am a quest, but I don't know that I want too. I have seen where some people will call someone else a dumbass, or that they are stupid. Or plain out hateful in their answers to another. What is the point in that? This is a place for advice and suggestions no to get bashed with hurtful words etc. I guess those people who say things like that, their lives are so screwed up they feel the need to say things like that. These are the same people who say these things to, who one minute will make a post about how great their relationship is, then the next day turn right around and say how crappy it is. Theya re real quick to give out hurtful advice and think they know it all, when infact I wonder if its becasue they don't even know whats going on in their own lives.

[Scott S]

Keep in mind we're all "discussing" w/o the benefit of tone of voice or facial expressions, so somethings can be easily misconstrued.

 

All true. It is often not apparent that someone is joking.

 

The emoticons are useful in conveying this.

[SmoochieFace]

All true. It is often not apparent that someone is joking.

 

The emoticons are useful in conveying this.

 

And not everyone *gets* all the jokes either.

[Alexandra]

And not everyone *gets* all the jokes either.

 

That.

 

Oh! "LOL" and and and anything other making my agreeing with SF Politically Correct.

[prfrogkisser]

The site is all about life. You have a little bit of everything.I guess you just dont have to take it personal. Just view the advice or comments as different people who give them. You have to take the good with a little bit of the bad.Some might be mean some might be very helpful. We are humans and we dont view things the same way:cool:

[PandorasBox]

Sometimes you have to take peoples comments with a grain of salt. I'm sure thats easier said than done. My favorite posts are the ones where people will come up with a post, it comes across as not serious at all, and is obvious with the responses it gets, for they joke back. Then the OP poster comes back and gets pissed saying it is a serious post and has a serious problem with whatever is going on. However, nothing about their post seems serious at all nor their replies. I would inagine thats just a attention type of post becasue it was lacked from certain areas of their life. I have seen that type of thing in forums before. I would ignore it.

[erika2610]

What's really getting on my nerves lately is that somebody will post with a serious topic, and then people turn it into sex or just attacking people. It just seems to be more prevalant lately. I dunno what's going on. It's really going downhill, IMHO. And I know I'm not the only one that feels like this. In my opinion, it's really just the same ones over and over. As I said, somebody will start needing advice, and then a few posters just completely hijack the thread, and the OP just leaves, because it's gone way off topic, and they don't get the advice they were looking for. i've seen it with a few threads. but this is a good topic

[Touche]

Yeah, I've noticed that in a couple of threads too. Overall though, it's like 1% of the total number of threads.

 

I've also noticed that it's the SAME people who start it. You're SO right about that.

[tinktronik]

Actually ,Erika , I have found the same thing .Personal attacks over and over again.I know I'm not immune from reacting to a statement made, however the continuous name calling and blatant ganging up on particular posters is quite frustrating ,it just seems to ruin a thread if not the complete site. I'm aware of what the difference is between holding an argument and attacking someone else.Perhaps we should all ( including myself ) reread the rules on personal attacks.

[Touche]

Actually ,Erika , I have found the same thing .Personal attacks over and over again.I know I'm not immune from reacting to a statement made, however the continuous name calling and blatant ganging up on particular posters is quite frustrating ,it just seems to ruin a thread if not the complete site. I'm aware of what the difference is between holding an argument and attacking someone else.Perhaps we should all ( including myself ) reread the rules on personal attacks.

 

I absolutely agree. And we should also start using the IGNORE option more often. That was the best discovery on here!

[erika2610]

Actually ,Erika , I have found the same thing .Personal attacks over and over again.I know I'm not immune from reacting to a statement made, however the continuous name calling and blatant ganging up on particular posters is quite frustrating ,it just seems to ruin a thread if not the complete site. I'm aware of what the difference is between holding an argument and attacking someone else.Perhaps we should all ( including myself ) reread the rules on personal attacks.

 

I totally agree. And Touche, it's not 1% of threads. It's a majority of threads. You see quite a few people here have noticed it, so how can you disagree? It certainly discourages people from posting too, IMO.

[tinktronik]

I totally agree. And Touche, it's not 1% of threads. It's a majority of threads. You see quite a few people here have noticed it, so how can you disagree? It certainly discourages people from posting too, IMO.

I agree several regular posters have stopped posting as a result.

[Touche]

I totally agree. And Touche, it's not 1% of threads. It's a majority of threads. You see quite a few people here have noticed it, so how can you disagree? It certainly discourages people from posting too, IMO.

 

Yes, I have noticed it too but I'll stick to what I already said. It's not the majority. Go count the amount of total threads and then count how many fit what we're discussing...'nuff said.

 

I doubt it prevents people from posting. I see them posting all over the place.

[tinktronik]

if a breaking of the rules is causing a problem, why defend it? Why not just not do it anymore?

[Touche]

if a breaking of the rules is causing a problem, why defend it? Why not just not do it anymore?

 

I don't defend anything and I don't break rules. I still don't think people have stopped posting but we're ALL entitled to our opinions aren't we?

 

Off to look for all those "bad" threads now! Ya'll have a GREAT evening!

[tinktronik]

I don't defend anything and I don't break rules. I still don't think people have stopped posting but we're ALL entitled to our opinions aren't we?

 

Off to look for all those "bad" threads now! Ya'll have a GREAT evening!

you too touchy'.On the same not though where have the mods been lately, in reguards to this at least?

[Alexandra]

Yeah, I've noticed that in a couple of threads too. Overall though, it's like 1% of the total number of threads.

 

I've also noticed that it's the SAME people who start it. You're SO right about that.

 

On sexual matters. (I presume "flirt" is meant not "sexual" though)

 

I haven't noticed it. Where is it? Unless you mean the ones on the Water Cooler, the who would you marry thread, the other joking threads with compliments, flirting and pics. Case in which both you and I have been there, done that. I for one was under the impression that particular subsection was for light banter, even more, if one looks at the posts the posters that were involved in some of the flirting matches made over the same period one would notice they've given valid serious on topic advice meanwhile as well.

 

Hence that subsection served like the kitchen or the balcony at a place of work where people would gather for a cigarette. Same goes for other threads that at some point go off topic and into banter. Another minor point to go with that, look carefully at the threads that go OT. They almost ALWAYS have the same people that joke having posted their opinion and something meaningful before.

 

If not then maybe it's the many bigboy "Ladies, please tell me" threads. How those signify anything though it's beyond me.

 

On personal attacks.

 

Those are indeed nasty when they appear but let me tell you, as compared to other forums as well as judging by the traffic this forum gets they are amazingly few.

 

However what's the appropriate definition of that? To me for example they're only name calling or insulting comments about poster's particulars that has nothing to do with the topic at hand. To others having someone say "Well in my opinion you're blind to the truth" is a terrible insult. To some even disagreeing is a personal attack, especially on here where so much disagreement appears. So how do we separate them?

 

As for what's inappropriate or too strong of an opinion I don't see how anyone would expect to either like everything written or have a forum dealing with emotions be any less passionate.

 

Every medium or big forum hits its periodical quota of "I hate what this place has become" threads. When all is said and done, a board like this one where only common sense is an active moderator is an expression of what its participants want it to be.

 

I personally think LoveShack does a great job at existing as a free speech and opinion discussion board and if the price is a few attacks or excessive flirting it's well worth it. And yeah, there's the Ignore option too, so let's not waste negative or postive energy on this.

 

*She says after having typed for 15 minutes:D*

[tinktronik]

On personal attacks.

 

Those are indeed nasty when they appear but let me tell you, as compared to other forums as well as judging by the traffic this forum gets they are amazingly few.

 

However what's the appropriate definition of that? To me for example they're only name calling or insulting comments about poster's particulars that has nothing to do with the topic at hand. To others having someone say "Well in my opinion you're blind to the truth" is a terrible insult. To some even disagreeing is a personal attack, especially on here where so much disagreement appears. So how do we separate them?

 

As for what's inappropriate or too strong of an opinion I don't see how anyone would expect to either like everything written or have a forum dealing with emotions be any less passionate.

 

I personally think LoveShack does a great job at existing as a free speech and opinion discussion board and if the price is a few attacks or excessive flirting it's well worth it. And yeah, there's the Ignore option too, so let's not waste negative or postive energy on this.

*She says after having typed for 15 minutes:D*

 

 

1) I believe this is whats being refered to , smootchie A$$ and your g/f is a blow up doll , you couldn't get anyone but a fat chick.......... looser ...posts also ...stupid ,idiot, your a waste of air ...ect have also been seen on here lately .

 

2) thats just the point , it is disturbing and upsetting to see ADULT people taunting another this way .At what point do you stop engaging like a bunch of gorrillas?