Why Does The Wife Stay When He Cheats????

[stillafool]

I understand your confusion. No this is the situation of someone in my social group. I don't know her very well but after being involved (or almost getting back involved with my MM) I started to take notice of her situation and compared it to the wife of my MM. I have heard a lot of gossip about this woman's H and was just trying to use her situation to help me understand my MM. I don't think or really don't know if my MM is as bad as her's, but from our last conversation he sounds like it.

[stillafool]

But when I think about it I guess it's a general quesiton too as before I married my present h I was constantly involved with or falling for serial cheaters as bf's. I found them exciting (sick) but after my last bf (who is now the MM) I stayed away from that type. I then married a nice guy it didn't work out (another story) and went on to marry my now 2nd husband who is a nice guy. I still yearn for the now MM from a long time ago. I'm not proud of that but it's true.

[Chump64]

Here's what I'm getting from this discussion. Essentially, the OW and the (knowingly, repeatedly) betrayed wife are not all that different. Both are willing to settle for a flawed man who won't commit to one woman, and who they know to be a liar. They might have different reasons, but that's the only real difference.

[stillafool]

I think some women in general are willing to settle for a flawed man if they love him enough.

[Chump64]

I think that’s probably true for many men, too.

 

I know (or at least I think – still not 100 percent decided) that I am staying with a seriously flawed man. But I am 200 percent positive that I would not stay if his wayward behavior was ongoing / if he would not change and commit to me alone.

[silktricks]

If anyone knows anyone who ISN'T seriously flawed, I'd like to meet them. No, on 2nd thought, I wouldn't, I'd probably either feel even worse about myself or get totally bored.