dkin745 Posted May 7, 2006 Share Posted May 7, 2006 I am 20 year old female. He also around the same age. We are both college students. I have been working with this person for a couple of months? I can not stop thinking about him. I try to tell myself that I do like him, but I just can't. Before, we used to talk more and were getting a little closer. He was always smiling at me, and I felt like he was beginning to like me. We do have a trong connection. Now, I avoid him. We do say "Hi" to each other. He give me respet, and we work well with each other. I am also afraid because I do not know if my parents would approve of him. I do care about him, but I pretend like I do not like him. Is it possible for me to have strong feeling for him? The job is only temporary, so I will be leaving when I graduate from college next year. Note: I do not fall in love easily. Link to post Share on other sites
saiga Posted May 7, 2006 Share Posted May 7, 2006 #1 It isn't love....alteast not yet. You like the guy, love is a totally different thing. #2 If you really like the guy...then why not give it a shot. I don't see how you have much to loose. #3 I just graduated from college with a B.S. in Computer Science. My gf of two years decided she needed to "grow up" on her own. Once your out of college things will change drastically. Your job might take you far away from your current position. If you feel investing your time is worth it, then try it. If you know that in a year your gonna move on....well I would just save myself the trouble. Here is a good quote for you. Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so love the people who treat you right, forget the ones who don't, and in the end believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said that it would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it ..." Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted May 7, 2006 Share Posted May 7, 2006 #1 It isn't love....alteast not yet. You like the guy, love is a totally different thing. #2 If you really like the guy...then why not give it a shot. I don't see how you have much to loose. #3 I just graduated from college with a B.S. in Computer Science. My gf of two years decided she needed to "grow up" on her own. Once your out of college things will change drastically. Your job might take you far away from your current position. If you feel investing your time is worth it, then try it. If you know that in a year your gonna move on....well I would just save myself the trouble. Here is a good quote for you. Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so love the people who treat you right, forget the ones who don't, and in the end believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said that it would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it ..." Dude, your advice is contradicts itself. Listen girl, the dude is interested in you but seems shy on making a move - don't worry things might either happen naturally if not you must have to bump things up a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
rnrnightmare Posted May 8, 2006 Share Posted May 8, 2006 Hey, it sounds like you're in a similar situation as me, for unfortunately for me, I am the one being ignored. My advice to you as a guy is to be honest with him, because just avoiding him might give off the vibe that you don't really like him and by the time you realize that you in fact do like him, it might be too late, so I say go for it and be honest with not only yourself but to him. But, i have to ask you is why do you avoid him if you think there is such a strong connection? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 8, 2006 Share Posted May 8, 2006 Exactly! Just be upfront and honest. The worst thing that will happen is, he'll be honest back and say he's isn't into you. Yes, it could hurt but if I were in your shoes I'd rather be hurt by honesty and knowing, than not knowing and always wondering... Take the bull by the horn and ASK HIM OUT! WHO cares what anybody else thinks! Live your life for you! Link to post Share on other sites
saiga Posted May 8, 2006 Share Posted May 8, 2006 SuperMonk It does not contradict itself....instead it explores all the options...allowing the individual to make the choice. You cannot make a decision for her, nor can you tell her what to do. You have no attachment to this indivdual....so next time read my post and think about what I said. Link to post Share on other sites
Underrated Posted May 8, 2006 Share Posted May 8, 2006 I think you should except liking him, regardless if you really like him let him know. Link to post Share on other sites
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