MadKurlz Posted May 7, 2006 Share Posted May 7, 2006 Quick background......ive been with my boyfrind for 2 years now and in dec i moved in with im cus we had goten pregnant. we were both very excited. i rented out my condo and moved in with him, but had a miscarriage in february. We decided to try again in may or june. The past month he has been strange. He is glued to his cell phone, he is distant with me and barely even laughs anymore with me. I know i have insecurity issues, but I feel it in my gut that something is not right. We had a few fights in the last couple of months and one of the things he said was that he was so tired of me asking him if he was going to dump me or if he loves me. (like I said i have insecurity issues) and that if i were to say anything like that again he will just end up leaving me cus he was sooooo tired of hearing it. So here I am, knowning and feeling that somehting is not right and I Want to talk about it with him, but Im a bit scared. So I wrote a letter. Should I give it to him? The letter: I know it isn’t anything I did or said. I know I haven’t done anything for you to hate me. I know you don’t hate me. I know you love me. But I just can’t help but feel how far away you are from me. Feels like there is a distance between us. You sleep next to me, you sit next to me, but seems to me that your not “next to me”. I probably have you confused by now. Its almost as if you rather be doing something else or be somewhere else. Its kind of put me in a strange situation I appreciate that you don’t hide things from me. That only makes me realize that I have the up most trust in you. Which builds more and more when u show me that you hide nothing from me. Papi, I know that you are not an affectionate, lovey dovey, I wanna be all over my girl kinda guy. Ive learned to live with that. Just seems that something has pulled you away. I know our communication skills suck ass (hence the letter). I love you so very much and if something is on your mind, and you want to talk, I hope you know that you can talk to me Should i go into more detail? should i not say anything and wait out this strange behavior? Link to post Share on other sites
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted May 7, 2006 Share Posted May 7, 2006 Um... no. Don't give it to him. (Even I can't bear reading past 2 sentences of that letter.) Link to post Share on other sites
Author MadKurlz Posted May 7, 2006 Author Share Posted May 7, 2006 wow, that bad huh? Link to post Share on other sites
Worried7 Posted May 7, 2006 Share Posted May 7, 2006 Probably not because the way it sounds, is like you want to break up with him, not work things out with him. That will be the first thing that crosses his mind & then things will get tense & he'll become even more distant. I'm definitly not an expert on this stuff, I have problems of my own, but this is just my view. My advice is to not give him the letter, just wait it out & see if he goes back to his normal self. And yourself just to act naturally until then. These things sometimes breeze over..maybe he's just stressed out or busy all of the time. If he doesn't go back to his normal self, that is the time to talk to him. But make sure you don't give him the impression that you want to break up with him, but the impression that you want to fix the problem ( then clearly state the problem) and make it clear that you love him and still want to be with him. And then if you're still not satisfied, repeat the following steps, then if still not satisfied, it may be time to break up. These things take patience, but if you want your relationship to work out, the patience will be well worth waiting. Good luck, & if you want more advice, I'll be here. <3 Worried7 Link to post Share on other sites
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