Anyone Feeling Tired of Being Alone??

[dgiirl]

funny enough. i have the same thought....as rare as it is to have a girl sweep a guy off his feet (though its been done before). i know its bad. i know its not recommended. but i feel like i need to just be gaga over someone in order to get past this. ive been single for a year. no random hookups (im not into that). no pity dating (i respect myself and others more than that). i just want to be....thats it...swept.

 

Wow, I find this is such a rare quality in people, and men more specifically. I've been single for a little over a year now too. I just dont have the interest to meet ppl and date and I'm not into random hook ups. Everyone tells me I have to get out and date, but I know I'm not ready just yet. I'm still trying to find myself and I find it admirable that other's are doing it too. Too bad your in Mass.

[2020vision]

Come to europe 2020 if you want to get your mind off him, I could even show you where they make that E-class you drive

 

Never been to Europe...

 

This thread has been very uplifting. Especially to see that there are men out there that are genuine!

[sick of it]

...and available

[sick of it]

Yes, Since my ex is the only real expierence I have had with love, I feel like I need something to trump it to not even miss my ex at all...Sounds bizarre, but that is probably what is jumpstarting my lonliness right now..Yup, I am okay with semi-missing my ex still, but keep having this feeling like there is this void that needs to be filled.

 

And its not rare, its called falling in love with someone! Although, wait, I just repeated that to myself...it is RARE to find someone to fall in love with!

 

 

202, this was my first relationship. so my only real experience as well. not bad...5.5yrs LDR. too bad i found out she was just going through the motions for the last part of it.

i think i will always miss her until im gaga...just because this is what i know as love. make sense?

i am completely on the same page as you as far as filling the void. but seeing that ive only fallen in love once (as have you), is it safe to say they we will remain there until that someone comes along? stay in love...or what we assume to be love?

[kitten chick]

I think there are a number of people on the board that are very happy being on their own. Society and culture seem to dictate that we must be coupled to matter in this world but I find that to be an outdated notion. There are so many things that you do not need to be in a relationship to experience and so many things you can't experience when in a relationship. I'm far happier on my own than in a relationship and it would have to be someone really really different for me to give up the freedom and independence that I have right now.

[KittenMoon]

202, this was my first relationship. so my only real experience as well. not bad...5.5yrs LDR. too bad i found out she was just going through the motions for the last part of it.

i think i will always miss her until im gaga...just because this is what i know as love. make sense?

i am completely on the same page as you as far as filling the void. but seeing that ive only fallen in love once (as have you), is it safe to say they we will remain there until that someone comes along? stay in love...or what we assume to be love?

 

Ditto, y'all. I hope we don't have to stay like this. I can't deal with it and I miss him every second. Even as I realize more and more that he's just not grown up enough for me.

[2020vision]

Even as I realize more and more that he's just not grown up enough for me.

 

Its a pretty scary and sh*tty feeling when you start to realize the person you thought you were/maybe still are in love with is not meant to be with you and not the right person for you. I haven't read all of your posts and am at work right now, otherwise I would read them..But how long has it been since you broke up??

 

I'm far happier on my own than in a relationship and it would have to be someone really really different for me to give up the freedom and independence that I have right now.

 

Well said and agreed. At this point in my life, I feel that a guy has to be pretty damn special to get my attention and keep it...

[In Sync]

Yes YES yes..I am so tired of missing the companionship. I do like being alone and my independence but at times I've confused missing him with missing the companionship and then I feel alone. I tried one date back in January and that was an awful feeling, because it made me miss the ex more. So no more of that and look it's May. Terrific. It's really difficult not to go down memory lane and constantly remind myself that at least I had the x last year this time..uggggh. I miss romance and hot sex!

[2020vision]

Well I guess I have pretty much decided against work today considering the amount of time I have spent on here today!! lol

 

It's really difficult not to go down memory lane and constantly remind myself that at least I had the x last year this time..uggggh. I miss romance and hot sex!

 

I know, and when you go down memory lane it always ends up being the fuzzy happy memories that pop up first only to realize thats not how things ended up. Yeah, your last sentence is why I cannot do random hook ups...Whats the point if its not going to be good? I just can't imagine being into it if my emotions are not.

 

-2020

[GB111]

I have to tell you; your string actually makes me feel better about myself. I'm a really nice guy (I think) and yet dumped by a woman who has now been with 2 men in the last 3 months of playing with my heart. WHY do I not meet a nice woman who can be comfortable on her own, secure in herself, and ready to fall in love??? It's nice to know some of you are still out there... Maybe there's hope after all!

 

Also, 2020, I want to tell you how much I appreciate your wonderful attitude. I know you're clearly having a difficult time. I've read many of your threads. Nonetheless, I can't recall a post that didn't have a "lol" in it. Your positive attitude really keeps me going! Thanks!

 

Regards,

 

GB

[Wicked Wanda]

I think that there must be a lot of nice guys out there that haven't found the courage to take a good look around. I'm sure that if they did, they would be in for a great surprise.... and since I'm the eternal optimist, I do believe that there is someone out there for everyone... we just haven't found each other....

 

Take heart 2020, your prince may be around the corner...

[oss91]

personally, im enjoying it. it's qutie a lot of fun being single actually. i'm not interested in dating anyone, but if some cool girl thinks i'm cool, then who knows what will happen.

 

you know it's kind of funny. i spent a couple of months agonizing about the girl who dumped me and accepted the token "friend" label, but i'm not even really sure i like her as a friend anymore. she's changed so much, or else i have. probably both. rock on.

[visotech]

I know the alone feeling...after living with someone so close, for so long, it feels like a part of myself is missing. When people refer to their SO as their "other half" its almost true - alone and single you end up doing things the other half always took care of and thats where you remember you're alone. Every time I do my laundry and I have to fold the clothes alone, it just reminds me of how good she was to me.

 

But here is something to brighten your day and remind you the right person is out there, it's a tidbit from John Mayer - Love Song For No One:

 

This song's about talkin to the person you haven't even met yet. Maybe they're rollin' around in the hay with someone else, but they're not as good as you'll be...you just have to wait your turn. She's out there, he's out there, they're just learning what to contrast you against.

[2020vision]

I have to tell you; your string actually makes me feel better about myself. I'm a really nice guy (I think) and yet dumped by a woman who has now been with 2 men in the last 3 months of playing with my heart. WHY do I not meet a nice woman who can be comfortable on her own, secure in herself, and ready to fall in love??? It's nice to know some of you are still out there... Maybe there's hope after all!

 

Also, 2020, I want to tell you how much I appreciate your wonderful attitude. I know you're clearly having a difficult time. I've read many of your threads. Nonetheless, I can't recall a post that didn't have a "lol" in it. Your positive attitude really keeps me going! Thanks!

 

 

Thank you for your kind words. I am touched. I have been trying my hardest to be positive through this whole mess of a break up and it has helped when I can be. But, I owe a lot to people like yourself on LS. This morning I was about to cry so frustrated and kept saying to myself, "I hate my life" then by noon I was smiling again because of everyone's posts. Hang in there, the right woman is out there for you!

 

 

I think that there must be a lot of nice guys out there that haven't found the courage to take a good look around. I'm sure that if they did, they would be in for a great surprise.... and since I'm the eternal optimist, I do believe that there is someone out there for everyone... we just haven't found each other....

 

This world is a weird thing, you never know where your next love is going to come from, and its the best love that comes when you least expect it. Until then, I am just going to live life and enjoy it to the fullest!

 

 

I know the alone feeling...after living with someone so close, for so long, it feels like a part of myself is missing. When people refer to their SO as their "other half" its almost true - alone and single you end up doing things the other half always took care of and thats where you remember you're alone. Every time I do my laundry and I have to fold the clothes alone, it just reminds me of how good she was to me.

 

But here is something to brighten your day and remind you the right person is out there, it's a tidbit from John Mayer - Love Song For No One:

 

This song's about talkin to the person you haven't even met yet. Maybe they're rollin' around in the hay with someone else, but they're not as good as you'll be...you just have to wait your turn. She's out there, he's out there, they're just learning what to contrast you against.

 

WELL SAID! That is exactly what happened to me. Whats really helped me is just doing a lot of nice things that my ex normally would have done for me. Although its not the same thing, it helps me prove that I don't need someone to make me happy, I want someone.

 

Thanks so much for reminding me of that song. I just downloaded it to my ipod.

[Noos]

So I have been doing this "alone" thing for about 6 months now and it sucks.

 

Try beinhg alone from the time you were old enough to date and THEN come back to me and complain...

[Noos]

And P.S. 2020vision - I look a lot like you so what am i doing wrong?

[lovelorcet]

Hey Noos,

 

 

Don’t get too frustrated, it isn’t all about looks I think it has a lot to do with the person that you project and that is something everyone can control. How old are you if I may ask?

:bunny:

[Noos]

How old are you if I may ask?

 

33. 34 in November. So you can see why I might feel a bit anxious.

[lovelorcet]

Don’t let if make you sweat, feeling anxious takes a little bit away from the amount of confidence that one projects. Very generally speaking I think guys see two sides to the confidence thing in women. They either love seeing it (like me ) or they hate it and go after girls with low self-esteem. The later are not the type of guys you want to meet anyways.

So if you can project a confident, happy, caring woman then guys will throw themselves at you. The nice ones might be a little shy but there is no reason why you can’t help them along either

[lovelorcet]

Hey Noos,

 

Where do you mostly try to hang out to meet guys? Trying to figure out where all the nice girls are myself

[Noos]

I go to stylish inner city pubs, to the movies, out to dinner at nice restaurants, to cafes, to see lives band, to the gym and recently I went to a beer festival.

 

The nice girls are the 5'5", fit, highly-educated, pretty brunettes having fun with their friends but still getting overlooked for the bleached blonde, fake rack, barely-clothed-even-in-winter girls.

 

I don't know what else I can do. Really, I don't.

If you're confident, men can't handle it and if you're not, they don't notice or pay any attention to you.

[lovelorcet]

You know what, you sound pretty much like the type of woman I find very attractive and as a nice guy it isn’t easy sometimes.

 

Ok so you are at the beer festival with the fake blonds. Ya sure they catch my eye but I see them for what they are, fake now I look to the left and there is a real woman and that is much more attractive. So here is the thing, I find it easier to chat with the fake blonde because I don’t take her that serious. Now the brunette is something real and that makes me a bit nervous. If she were to make some obvious eye contact to encourage me a little then I just might be able to build up enough courage to start to talk to her.

 

When I see a real woman I am fascinated but then I get start to think oh well what do I have to offer her… (PhD. in a top institute, female colleagues all say they find me very attractive, very honest, and very loving) and I may know all that but when I have to break the ice with a real woman it all seems to go down the tubes…

 

well maybe my prospective helps a little…

[oceanlove_gx]

Thank you for your kind words. I am touched. I have been trying my hardest to be positive through this whole mess of a break up and it has helped when I can be. But, I owe a lot to people like yourself on LS. This morning I was about to cry so frustrated and kept saying to myself, "I hate my life" then by noon I was smiling again because of everyone's posts. Hang in there, the right woman is out there for you!

 

 

 

 

This world is a weird thing, you never know where your next love is going to come from, and its the best love that comes when you least expect it. Until then, I am just going to live life and enjoy it to the fullest!

 

 

 

 

WELL SAID! That is exactly what happened to me. Whats really helped me is just doing a lot of nice things that my ex normally would have done for me. Although its not the same thing, it helps me prove that I don't need someone to make me happy, I want someone.

 

Thanks so much for reminding me of that song. I just downloaded it to my ipod.

 

 

 

Well, there are good guys and good girls as well as bad guys and bad girls. Sometimes u can make it clear at the first sight, sometimes u won't and the deeper u are, the more cheated that u feel.

Talking about the boys or girls who are playing around, the only thing is that they are thinking that u are the one who are worthy of being played around, that's to say, u r not his or her soulmate, but u are a good companion, if not, why doesn't he or she hang up with somebody else?

So the only thing is that u have to pick up the right one in the right place, like if that guy has been surounded by lots of girls, it's easy to be hooked up with other gals.

As a result, get a guy who is corky and funny and more machine related so that he doesn't have time and circumstances for other girls, and then u will make him ur slave

Wow, im a techinical guy:)

[lovelorcet]

Hey Noos,

 

Now that I am thinking about it a bit maybe we should share notes more closely, I would really like to learn how to meet a woman who is generally like how you describe yourself.

 

Any tips???

[Alexandra]

Hey Noos,

 

Where do you mostly try to hang out to meet guys? Trying to figure out where all the nice girls are myself

 

Not to be a party pooper but you two DO live in two very different parts of the world Lovelorcet so where nice girls "are at" downunder may not be where they are in Britain... Just a thought.