betty07 Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 i need help in this situation. my fam loved my BF at first but then we broke up and i said thinks about him to my family that was NOT TRUE I said horrible things to the point where they hated him. My BF and i worked things out but now i dont know what to do with my family because no matter how much i tell them thata all i said was not true they still think its all true what i said about him. One person that im really close to is my sister and i cant get her to get along with my BF. He even goes up to her and trys to do all he can thats in his power so she can at least say hi to him and she act as if he didnt even exsist. I need help!!!!! How can i make my sis get along with my BF. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 why did you lie? Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 What type of things did you say? Were they really not true, or do you just wish you hadn't said them? Again, why lie? Can you prove that the things you said aren't true? Also, just friendly headsup, means 'laughing my arse off', not crying! Link to post Share on other sites
hooghie Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 My grandma always said "don't come to me about your problems until you are 100% sure there is no chance of reconcilliation" For one, I think you've learned an important lesson. Do not trash someone to other loved ones if there is even a remote chance you will have a relationship with that someone again. You will make up and get over it, but they won't. Whether or not your family will accept him has to do with a lot of things- what type of people they are- whether or not what you said really was a lie- and what you said he did. Here is what I suggest: 1. He needs to make every possible effort to win them over wihtout coming across as fake. 2. If you DID lie- tell them why you lied and find a way to prove that they were lies. 3. If you didn't lie- show them how he has changed and how your relationship has changed. 4. ask them to give him another chance. You have. Ask them to do it for you. Link to post Share on other sites
hulali Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 Great advice from your Grandma! My ex husband was notorious for running to his family and trashing me to them. Things were never the same between them and I after that. No matter though, note how I said "ex". Anyways, what's done is done. All you can do is move forward and hope that your family can forgive your bf like you have. Good luck with it all. Link to post Share on other sites
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