ddd Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 Maybe someone can shed some light on this - my ex, who I used to be in an LDR with (I moved away from him), broke up with me 4 months ago, saying he couldn't handle the distance. I agreed to this and thought there was no point in continuing the torture until we could live in the same place again (even though it broke my heart). We went NC and then started talking again about a month ago when he started suggesting that we see each other. I am over in his city often on business and even though he insisted that we meet last time I was there, I couldn't make it. I am going again soon and he is again suggesting that we meet (note that he can't visit me at the moment - can't take time off work). What do you guys make of this? How should I behave when we see ach other and what does he want? Thank you.... Link to post Share on other sites
Guitar Wizard Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 Well, I think that if he wants to see you again, he probably wants to start some form of relationship with you, eather friendship or something more, but he obviously wants to open the door that he closed. Anyway, if your thinking about seeing him, or if you have any sort of feelings for him, you should probably meet and hear what he has to say. If you don't like what he says, then you can always stop talking to him after that, but perhaps he'll apologize or something. It couldn't hurt to just see him again, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ddd Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 Thanks Guitar Wiz - my gut feeling is that he isn't after friendship - I know him well enough to know that there is no way either of us could handle that. I was the one to leave him (i.e. moved away) after we lived together and left him totally heartbroken (I had to do so). We were very much in love, but after a year of LDR, he (more than I) got tired of it. We talked on the phone recently about general things (when I was over in his city and couldn't meet him) but the conversation was slightly awkward. Since then, he's been asking that I call him when I am in town again. I have plans to move back to where he is but I haven't told him yet. I want to sort everything out first before I mention anything to him. I still love him very much - always will. And I want to see him more than anything in the world, I just don't know how to act... Link to post Share on other sites
Guitar Wizard Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 Well, I find that when it's important enough, just speak from your heart. I know your probably jittery right now, but when your actually there, with him, you'll find exactly the right thing to say. Link to post Share on other sites
shelters Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 I have plans to move back to where he is but I haven't told him yet. I want to sort everything out first before I mention anything to him. Sounds like a good plan. Keep your heart open to possibility. Hear what he has to say. Fingers crossed for you that it works out well! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ddd Posted May 11, 2006 Author Share Posted May 11, 2006 Thanks! I hope it works out too. I just wish I knew what he is thinking and whether he still has some feelings... My gut feeling is that he does but there is no way I can be sure. And I don't want to open myself up for more heartache... Link to post Share on other sites
Guitar Wizard Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 Well, thats a risk you have to take, because if you didn't try to give it a second shot, you might regret it. None of us like being vulnerable, but thats just one of the many things that come with love. Link to post Share on other sites
shelters Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 I just wish I knew what he is thinking and whether he still has some feelings ... I don't want to open myself up for more heartache... You gotta be in it to win it!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ddd Posted May 12, 2006 Author Share Posted May 12, 2006 Thanks guys for encouragement! I don't want to have any regrets later on, so there's only one way forward - meeting with the ex! Link to post Share on other sites
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