JohnM Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 Hello LS'ers. Well up to date theres a few girls that are interested in me but I find myself unsure what to do about it. Now these girls have quite nice personalities, and while they are mildly attractive I don't find them that attractive. Trying not to sound egotistical here but I am a good looking lad and I tend to go for looks ahead of personality. Am I getting my priorities right? Thanks in advance John Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 Despite you leaking our private collection onto the net I'll still respond. The fact that you're asking the question means that you know your priorities are off. Spend some time with these girls and see if they become more attractive to you as you get to know them better. Usually a real connection with someone's personality will cause them to become more physically attractive in your eyes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 I'm asking the question to myself as I tend to think about everything alot, not simply because I think my values are wrong. I just want to get perspectives. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 You minght do better if you differentiate these girls from each other . The way you posted makes it sound like one huge oragy. Link to post Share on other sites
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 You minght do better if you differentiate these girls from each other . The way you posted makes it sound like one huge oragy. I agree. Don't group the brunettes with the blonds together... unless you are into catfights. Go for the boobs, the BOOBS! DUH! Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 Sorry The 2 i'd consider are from different groups of friends . Then there's also other girls who I wouldn't consider in the same groups >.< Oh how confoosing! It's just I tend to attract quite a few, I still don't have any experience in all this and so I don't know how to handle it all. Like how to let them know i'm not interested nicely most of the time. I don't lead anyone on, but I find it hard as I don't want to hurt their feelings as its a touchy subject. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 Sorry The 2 i'd consider are from different groups of friends . Then there's also other girls who I wouldn't consider in the same groups >.< Oh how confoosing! It's just I tend to attract quite a few, I still don't have any experience in all this and so I don't know how to handle it all. Like how to let them know i'm not interested nicely most of the time. I don't lead anyone on, but I find it hard as I don't want to hurt their feelings as its a touchy subject. If you don't want to lead them on then do not become more than an acquaintance with these girls. By hanging out or being alone with them they may get the feeling you like them especially if they already like you. If the question comes up you should be honest with them but don't be brutal with your response. No one likes their ego bruised by someone they like. I know I have been attracted by women who have not been beautiful but they had a very compatible personality as well as a great butt. If you find something about them that is physically attractive this can cause you to see the whole person as attractive if you get along great. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted May 11, 2006 Author Share Posted May 11, 2006 Thats the thing, I am just an acquaintance and haven't really had conversations alone let alone flowing ones with either. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 Thats the thing, I am just an acquaintance and haven't really had conversations alone let alone flowing ones with either. Then I wouldn't sweat it unless they bring up their interest. Just because you know someone likes you doesn't mean they will act on it or that you will have to have "the talk". Be friendly but keep them at arms length (unless your feelings toward them changes). Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted May 11, 2006 Author Share Posted May 11, 2006 Well my friend asked If I liked one of them as his GF is her best friend, I see it as a strong indicator. But what do I know Link to post Share on other sites
AussieChick Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 Sorry The 2 i'd consider are from different groups of friends . Then there's also other girls who I wouldn't consider in the same groups >.< Oh how confoosing! It's just I tend to attract quite a few, I still don't have any experience in all this and so I don't know how to handle it all. Like how to let them know i'm not interested nicely most of the time. I don't lead anyone on, but I find it hard as I don't want to hurt their feelings as its a touchy subject. Hi John, Letting a girl know that you're not interested is really hard - being a girl I know how emotional we get about stuff - BUT in the long run, it is best to be honest right from the start, girls tend to read a lot into the smallest things - before you know it, smiling at one of them, or opening the door for them - seemingly innocuous things, will become to them absolute confirmation that you're interested. As for the attractiveness question - as you get older you'll realise that while a girl might be physically beautiful - if you can't hold a conversation with them, or enjoy their company then you may as well just go home and have a w**k, as you can only do so much looking before you need conversation and company.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted May 11, 2006 Author Share Posted May 11, 2006 I do see the importance of the girl being smart and being able to hold a comversation for sure. I guess I'm kinda holding out for that special one who has the looks and the brains Link to post Share on other sites
AussieChick Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 I do see the importance of the girl being smart and being able to hold a comversation for sure. I guess I'm kinda holding out for that special one who has the looks and the brains ... and she may well arrive - but don't discard the girl that knocks your socks off - just because she doesn't have your ideal model looks. You'll do just fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 I do see the importance of the girl being smart and being able to hold a comversation for sure. I guess I'm kinda holding out for that special one who has the looks and the brains They exist, JohnM. I'm living proof of it. I'm just kidding. Anyways, it's about moderation. The balance of looks, and brains for one guy, isn't going to be the same for the next. Find what works for you. Make sure you find, something about a girl that stands-out. It's a girl's special characteristic that triggers chemistry, and brings out the hidden feelings that have been suppressed for so long. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 Go out with them... Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted May 12, 2006 Author Share Posted May 12, 2006 I'll brew on it over the summer I'll have a long think while they're away Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 You're avoiding and it will only make you more anxious as it becomes a learned behavior and coping mechanism. Do yourself a favor and just go out with one or both at least once. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted May 12, 2006 Author Share Posted May 12, 2006 Hmm, I shall see if things progress tomorrow night then. I think girl #2 is having a Law night out I'll try to get to know her. Maybe more Link to post Share on other sites
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