The Cheated On Boyfriend

[Guest]

Well, I LOVE my girl. Words cannot describe how I feel about her. She is simply awe-stricken and amazing. But, it was almost to be good to be true...

 

We eventually broke up, for no more than 2 weeks. The reason being we were arguing a lot, so we mutually agreed to take some time. Although, we still saw and talked a LOT. I still considered us 'us,' even though our title of boyfriend and girlfriend was eliminated.

 

Fast forward 2 weeks. We get back together! I admit, we were like a light switch (on and off), but we were together. But, things changed a lot. She called less, rarely emailed, changed all her passwords, got a new email, and shyed away from intimitacy.

 

Immediately, I put up spot lights. She had an excuse for all the changes. She has lied to me before, but I didn't ever think she'd cheat. However, I guessed her email password. I found some emails from a guy, who I went to school with. I never liked him, he was always rude and gritty. However, there was only one email, and I knew she had made a new account.

 

I did the unthinkable and emailed the guy, we'll call S, pretending to my girlfriend. I asked him to send all the emails and MSN convos. I def thought he would see through my attempt, but to my unlikelihood he fell into the hole. He sent 13 emails, and one MSN convo.

 

Words cannot explain my shock. She saw him 4 times, and they kissed three times. The cuddled, watched a movie, and held hands. She also lied about her whereabouts, and called me AFTER the aftermath.

 

I was lipid. I printed out one email and met her for coffee. I felt like I died.

 

I even cried, and she was close to tears. I haven't spoke to her in days. I know we broke up.

 

But I need some advice. I LOVE HER.

 

Please, help, and be blunt and truthful. I need the kick in the ass. Or maybe a second chance...

 

Thanks, all of you who respond. It means so much.

[MadDog]

I even cried, and she was close to tears.

 

Look at this. You're pathetic man. You cried and she almost cried? She turned you into the girl in the relationship. Stand up for yourself and be a man. I suggest you dump her and work on getting manly. This will consist of working as a lumberjack and/or living in the wilderness with no equipment for 6 months. Only then will you be allowed to consider being in another relationship. How's that for a kick in the ass?

[Javelin]

Look at this. You're pathetic man. You cried and she almost cried? She turned you into the girl in the relationship. Stand up for yourself and be a man. I suggest you dump her and work on getting manly. This will consist of working as a lumberjack and/or living in the wilderness with no equipment for 6 months. Only then will you be allowed to consider being in another relationship. How's that for a kick in the ass?

 

I'll have to agree with MadDog on this one.

 

First,

I know it's easier said than done, but you must **Let her go**, she's serious trouble and if you dont want to be hurt, lied to, or cheated on further; my advice to you would be to bail now.

 

Second,

You need to grow a sack, and you need to do so before your next relationship.

[Spectre]

 

Please, help, and be blunt and truthful. I need the kick in the ass. Or maybe a second chance...

 

a 2nd chance..? for what..?

 

 

uhmm..if you're going to cry over a girl, dont do it in front of her. Its like youre feeding the beast, so to speak, and they'll just take advantage.

 

 

If you're gonna cry do it over something she'll be like "aww" over like your dog dying or something, not her being a lying scumbag

 

 

my advice is leave her, sure you might love her..but it doesnt mean much since she doesnt feel the same. If you cant even get tears out of her when youre crying thats a bad sign. anyways, realize that even if you love her it doenst change what he did, just move on