having a dilemma...

[Cyb Tiger]

Hi all, first off just wanted to say how great this site is, its been really helpful to so many people, and hopefully that will include me... :-)

 

Anyways, this is my jam at the moment: I've known this guy for over a year, and now in recent times things have been getting rather friendly over the last 2 months or so. Since we're both studying at uni, organising a time to meet up and all is a little difficult to say the least, since we both work, and our uni timetables are not that compatible (he is postgrad and i am undergrad...) He has been bringing up the topic of staying over his place since a couple of days ago, just watching videos and that sorta thing, and I have declined, not because I don't want to go, but because, as usual, timing is not good. I have a feeling that he is misconstruing this whole not going to his place as a personal issue that I am having about him i.e. sleeping with him. There are only 2 weeks to go before the end of semester and then exams, and I do not wish to spend the night if i should be hitting the books. He doesn't seem to share my opinion on this matter, and he thinks that there is plenty of time to go till exams... (simply put from a student who has none!!) I have no idea of what to do, earlier today on ICQ (a communication program that sees who else is online on the internet) and he was online, and he didn't even drop a line to say hello or anything, which of course bothers me (as it to would anyone I'd imagine). What am I to do?? Shall I make the first move to contact him, and if so any ideas on how I shall go about it?? Oh yeah, and by the way, all of this 'discussion' was made possible through the technological wonders of mobile phones (SMS).

 

Help!!

[velvet]

Hi all, first off just wanted to say how great this site is, its been really helpful to so many people, and hopefully that will include me... :-) Anyways, this is my jam at the moment: I've known this guy for over a year, and now in recent times things have been getting rather friendly over the last 2 months or so. Since we're both studying at uni, organising a time to meet up and all is a little difficult to say the least, since we both work, and our uni timetables are not that compatible (he is postgrad and i am undergrad...) He has been bringing up the topic of staying over his place since a couple of days ago, just watching videos and that sorta thing, and I have declined, not because I don't want to go, but because, as usual, timing is not good. I have a feeling that he is misconstruing this whole not going to his place as a personal issue that I am having about him i.e. sleeping with him. There are only 2 weeks to go before the end of semester and then exams, and I do not wish to spend the night if i should be hitting the books. He doesn't seem to share my opinion on this matter, and he thinks that there is plenty of time to go till exams... (simply put from a student who has none!!) I have no idea of what to do, earlier today on ICQ (a communication program that sees who else is online on the internet) and he was online, and he didn't even drop a line to say hello or anything, which of course bothers me (as it to would anyone I'd imagine). What am I to do?? Shall I make the first move to contact him, and if so any ideas on how I shall go about it?? Oh yeah, and by the way, all of this 'discussion' was made possible through the technological wonders of mobile phones (SMS). Help!!

 

You approach him first. He may give a negative reaction, or may not. You talk first, tell him how you feel about him and use some body language, be sexy. Dont talk about your schedual but come up with a time and place you both can meet to be together. When you both agree to meet wear something sexy.

[STARBUCK]

knock knock. is anybody there? doens't sound like you've even had a first date yet he wants you to spend the night? what a dog. he can't even take you out for dinner or a coffee but he wants you to come over and sleep with him? sounds like a real winner. if you can't be honest and explain that you're schedule is tight, and if he can't respect that, who needs him? sounds like a carefree horndog who's just looking to get laid.

Hi all, first off just wanted to say how great this site is, its been really helpful to so many people, and hopefully that will include me... :-) Anyways, this is my jam at the moment: I've known this guy for over a year, and now in recent times things have been getting rather friendly over the last 2 months or so. Since we're both studying at uni, organising a time to meet up and all is a little difficult to say the least, since we both work, and our uni timetables are not that compatible (he is postgrad and i am undergrad...) He has been bringing up the topic of staying over his place since a couple of days ago, just watching videos and that sorta thing, and I have declined, not because I don't want to go, but because, as usual, timing is not good. I have a feeling that he is misconstruing this whole not going to his place as a personal issue that I am having about him i.e. sleeping with him. There are only 2 weeks to go before the end of semester and then exams, and I do not wish to spend the night if i should be hitting the books. He doesn't seem to share my opinion on this matter, and he thinks that there is plenty of time to go till exams... (simply put from a student who has none!!) I have no idea of what to do, earlier today on ICQ (a communication program that sees who else is online on the internet) and he was online, and he didn't even drop a line to say hello or anything, which of course bothers me (as it to would anyone I'd imagine). What am I to do?? Shall I make the first move to contact him, and if so any ideas on how I shall go about it?? Oh yeah, and by the way, all of this 'discussion' was made possible through the technological wonders of mobile phones (SMS). Help!!

[Cess]

Why don't you two try studying together. Quizing one another. Maybe you can help each other and get to spend time together. Have you tried that? Instead of watching movies, ask him to help your studies. And maybe he was online doing research and was unable to drop you a line. hopefully after exams you'll be able to cram in some quality time. Good luck on your exams and I hope things work out.

Hi all, first off just wanted to say how great this site is, its been really helpful to so many people, and hopefully that will include me... :-) Anyways, this is my jam at the moment: I've known this guy for over a year, and now in recent times things have been getting rather friendly over the last 2 months or so. Since we're both studying at uni, organising a time to meet up and all is a little difficult to say the least, since we both work, and our uni timetables are not that compatible (he is postgrad and i am undergrad...) He has been bringing up the topic of staying over his place since a couple of days ago, just watching videos and that sorta thing, and I have declined, not because I don't want to go, but because, as usual, timing is not good. I have a feeling that he is misconstruing this whole not going to his place as a personal issue that I am having about him i.e. sleeping with him. There are only 2 weeks to go before the end of semester and then exams, and I do not wish to spend the night if i should be hitting the books. He doesn't seem to share my opinion on this matter, and he thinks that there is plenty of time to go till exams... (simply put from a student who has none!!) I have no idea of what to do, earlier today on ICQ (a communication program that sees who else is online on the internet) and he was online, and he didn't even drop a line to say hello or anything, which of course bothers me (as it to would anyone I'd imagine). What am I to do?? Shall I make the first move to contact him, and if so any ideas on how I shall go about it?? Oh yeah, and by the way, all of this 'discussion' was made possible through the technological wonders of mobile phones (SMS). Help!!