Butterflying Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 I'm just curious about marriage. When your husband/wife leaves the house, do they tell you where they are going? Do you ask? Do you have curfews? For instance, the husband comes home from work at 6pm. He showers, grabs something to eat from the fridge. Kisses the wife, maybe has sex with the wife. Then he leaves. At 11pm, he's still out. Does the wife call him to see where he is? (Guys, just reverse this situation) Tell me how this normally plays out. Since I'm single, it's hard to imagine living day to day with another person in my life 24/7. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 When your husband/wife leaves the house, do they tell you where they are going? Do you ask? Do you have curfews? We don't have to ask one another. We always tell one another. It's a matter of simple courtesy and consideration. It's also a matter of safety in this day and age. Curfew? Not hardly. We're both adults and equal partners. A good marriage is all about equality and mutuality. However, if either of us is going to be later than estimated, we always call the other so we don't worry. Right back to courtesy and consideration. That's how it plays-out in our marriage. I can't answer for anyone else's. For me, this marriage is the heaven. The last one was the hell. Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 We don't have to ask one another. We always tell one another. It's a matter of simple courtesy and consideration. It's also a matter of safety in this day and age. Curfew? Not hardly. We're both adults and equal partners. A good marriage is all about equality and mutuality. However, if either of us is going to be later than estimated, we always call the other so we don't worry. Right back to courtesy and consideration. That's how it plays-out in our marriage. I can't answer for anyone else's. For me, this marriage is the heaven. The last one was the hell. So, that's how marriage works. Interesting! Do you usually ask your wife, her opinion regarding a certain item/issue/event? And, How open are you in your marriage? How does honesty and trust work? If I may ask. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 Sure you may ask. That's how OUR marriage works. We were friends for five years before we married, and former coworkers and we always admired and respected one another. There's nothing we can't discuss and we have conversations, not confrontations. We always ask one another's opinions because we value them. Neither of us makes a large, unilateral decision about anything that will affect the other. Honesty and trust work like they're supposed to and we're both VERY open to one another. For each of us, we finally got it right! It's just too bad it took so long. Link to post Share on other sites
tikigods Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 I'm just curious about marriage. When your husband/wife leaves the house, do they tell you where they are going? Do you ask? Do you have curfews? For instance, the husband comes home from work at 6pm. He showers, grabs something to eat from the fridge. Kisses the wife, maybe has sex with the wife. Then he leaves. At 11pm, he's still out. Does the wife call him to see where he is? (Guys, just reverse this situation) Tell me how this normally plays out. Since I'm single, it's hard to imagine living day to day with another person in my life 24/7. When I leave the house I will tell him I am leaving and where I am going (or plan to at least ;D) kiss him goodbye and tell him I love him and romp out into the world. That way in case I go missing for hours and hours he at least has some vague idea where I might have gone. Now my hubby doesn't really go anywhere without me, and I am the one that runs the errons (since he works at home all day). If I am missing for several hours he will give me a call and ask what I am up to. Or if I run into a snag I might give him a call up and let him know I am running behind. For the second one, where I live right now I don't have any friends that like to go out and party or do anything like that so he knows where I am each night ;D save for Bunco night Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 I agree with Curmudgeon. It's just common courtesy to tell one another what we have planned. I dont think it's very different than when I was younger and living at home. I didnt spend 24/7 with my exh, but we'd eat dinner and do things occassionally with each other. Oh and I'd have sex and not get grounded lol Link to post Share on other sites
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