Stupid

[Twink]

I am so so stupid, My ex broke up with me on Easter and I can not stop contact. Two weeks ago today, he told me he loved me and was scared to be in the relationship and he knows it is over.

 

So I can't do this no contact thing. I texted him last night, telling him how many wonderful memories I have of us, and I love him and it was so great being with him, and I am greatful I had him in my life, thanks for the wonderful eight months we had together. I will never forget it our deny my love for him.

 

How stupid is that, opening a wound over and over again. I get no response from him at all.

 

I just hurt my self, I really don't know how to stop the desire to not want to be with him, to just cut our love of and give up.

 

NC, is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do!

 

I need some advice! Has anyone acted this way towards a lost love.

[francis]

If you keep contact, you could find yourself in my stupid position.

 

Ask yourself, do you really want to be pining after someone who rejected you a year on from now?

 

No?

 

Well NC.

 

Take it from someone who couldnt do NC. My ex wanted to stay in contact with me, and I let him. Guess who's the fool now?

 

Let him go. Save yourself A LOT OF ANGUISH

[Big_A]

Try a small step. Do NC for 2 weeks. Make the promise to yourself and tell your friends. When you feel weak talk to your friends and have them remind you of the commitment you've made to yourself.

 

After the two weeks make another commitment, another week or a month. It will get easier if you stop anticipating contact from him.

 

Another good thing to try is to always wait a couple days before contacting. Think about what you want to say, then wait 48 hours and consider what your expecting from the contact. Odds are pretty good that you'll realize it will only hurt you worse.

 

Of course the best thing to do is get out and do something. If your having a nice dinner with your friends, you might even forget about your ex for a few hours and that will give you perspective.

[Numbheart]

I need some advice! Has anyone acted this way towards a lost love.

 

yes, thats why we are all here we have all done it in the past.

 

In our own minds what we say to the ex's makes perfect sense, we think they will be understanding and reply lovingly, from knowing how they used to respond to us, we think they will still be like it....yet they are not (usually!)

 

My last experience, we spoke through text messages for 4 days after our split, she still had feelings for me, she always responded instantly and always appologised if she got delayed....sort of normal (as she was confused but still felt the same about me) we then went NC for a week until I sent her some flowers and a letter only to be met by an instant reply of please dont contact me again as I cant cope with things currently!....that stumped me!

In all honesty once we go NC, we have no idea how the other is coping or thinking, they may be trying the same as us with NC for the best for both of you, they may never want to hear from you again, who knows?

 

It is a very very hard thing to do though.

[GB111]

Oh ya. I've done it. It may feel right at the time, but just remember, every time you send something to him or talk to him, you are chipping away at the chance of him returning.

 

Wish there was an easier approach, but there isn't. Write to LS rather than to him when you get the urge.

 

Wish you the best.

 

GB