The Promiscuous Girlfriend

[ridingthebulls]

guys like you usually end up with real whores who cheat on them and have other men's babies because they told them they had 3 men before them and never ever admit that they lied.

 

 

thanks for proving my point and the original poster's point. any women who sleeps with tons of men and lies about it is likely to cheat and whore it out to every man in town cause most whores never change.

reasonable like they were raped or beat or their parents turned them to prostitution. that s*** happens and there is nothing they could have done about it. but many of time, thats not the case. many of these party whores havent went through s*** to explain their crazy amount of sex partners. look at paris hilton- damn slut. and thats why her ex-fiances family wanted nothing to do with the tramp. f***ing sex tapes even with odd men-bunch of whores.

[Tim'sAngel]

Wow, if guys like ya'll ran the universe, there would be no forgiveness, no rehab facilities, no churches, no outreach programs, no friends. If you screwed up, no matter how major or minor it was, you would be sent off to a remote island somewhere since they will never change!! It's just funny to hear you all talk like you know for sure that if a girl has a less than perfect past... thats it for her!! She will never change and noone will want to marry her and yada yada bla bla... yet I've done some stipid s*** in my past and I straightened my life up and now have a beautiful son and a wonderful husband to be. Hmm.. wonder how that happened. I haven't even had as many partners as most of the people on here (judging by the number they give on here) but you know its not like I was looking to hook up with a virgin.

 

I'm just telling you all that your wrong. TRue some girls will never change, and same for men. But some of the people in the world actually learn from their mistakes, and go on living happy healthy lives!!

[RecordProducer]

If you screwed up' date=' no matter how major or minor it was, you would be sent off to a remote island somewhere since they will never change!! [/quote']That would have to be a really huge island! The earth would be practically abandoned. At least we'd get rid of the hypocrites and the ones who had only one or two GFs cuz nobody wanted them.

 

Indeed, I haven't met one single handsome and charming guy that has had only 3-5 sex partners by the time he's in his 30s.

 

Why do you defend yourself in front of them, TA? I've had a few one-night stands and it really didn't feel good, but ask me if I am ashamed of them? Hell no! I am ashamed of my faults that really interfere with my life. I am me with two or 200 partners in the past. And have no obligation whatsoever to respond to anyone about my sexual life in the past.

[RecordProducer]

the love of my life was slutty.

Was slutty? Or IS a slut? Somehow I sense that it's the latter rather than the former.

 

What if she was an angel and you suddenly discovered she had 23 guys? Or is she flirty and touchy-feely with guys?

 

If she was good to you and you had a great relationship of 2 years, I really feel sorry for you. Your mindset dragged you away from - what you believed was - the love of your life. You're a victim of your own prejudices.

[MrsHellFire]

"At least we'd get rid of .....the ones who had only one or two GFs cuz nobody wanted them."

 

And you wonder why there is a double standard. You enforce it. You just commended men who are dogs with that statement. Afterall, only the cool/great guys have slept with over 10-20 women, right? Don't be upset why people call women "sluts", yet refrain doing it to men, because you yourself follow that type of thinking.

Same for women too?

I know plenty of women that have gotten hit on and proposals but refused to sleep with just anybody. They've only been with a few men. Your thinking is skewed.

Same with men. I've known some men who were very shy guys and were often propositioned for sex, but didn't do it. Those were the only stand-up men I've known who'd rather be in long-term serious relationship, rather than whoring it up with tons of girls every night.

 

I'm sorry your thinking is so skewed, but it probably has a lot to do with the TYPE of men YOU date. A lot of times the JERK wins out over the nice shy guy. It's too bad women like you give them power.

[MrsHellFire]

Indeed, I haven't met one single handsome and charming guy that has had only 3-5 sex partners by the time he's in his 30s.

 

Charming? What do you consider charming? A man who would rather you sleep in an an ex's vaginal blood stain before he thinks twice about your feelings?

Very warped...

[RecordProducer]

MrsHellFire, the only comment I have on your post is that you completely misunderstood me. You're talking as if I FAVOR many partners. I don't think dogs or sluts are desirable marriage material. Dogs or sluts are cheaters.

 

But whether someone had only a few or many partners doesn't necessarily make them cheaters. Those two are not related. Do you really think that the men who cheat on their wives have had MANY women before marriage? I truly doubt it. I actually believe that it's the opposite.

 

My husband stopped sleeping around about 10 years ago. He's had about 6 women in the last 10 years and that includes me and his ex-wife too. He got tired of screwing around.

 

I was making fun of the hypocrites, not of the guys who honestly don't care about sleeping around without love, but don't judge other people because they had 5 more partners than they had.

 

One of the best things about the human race is that we're all different. We have different needs, experiences, and opinions. Calling a woman who is faithful a slut for having 23 partners is limiting your standards to the reflection of your mirror. No other person is like you and you will never find the same phenotype as yourself.

 

I had 16, he had 160. So what? It could've been vice versa too.

[Tim'sAngel]

Whoever thinks that a person's character should be judged on how many sex partners they've had is very ignorant. Some people have sex for recreational purposes, some (myself included) were just never taught that your body is not to be given away to just anyone, some have had a past with abuse and because of it had a warped definition of sex, others are just down right ignorant... whatever the reason, people should not be judged for their sexual past. Anyone is open to argue that till the day they die but that fact doesn't change. That is the only point I'm trying to make.

 

Record, I am not proud of my past. If I could go back in time I would change alot. I regret all the one night stands now that I am aware that loves does in fact exsist. I don't regret sleeping w/the ones I really cared about, but I regret being careless with my body and not having the proper respect for it. I am not condeming anyone who feels differently. We all have our pasts to deal with, and however you chose to deal with it is you business. Thats what I wish some of the other posters on here would recognize. They think they have a right to judge us for our pasts, kind of like playing GOd.

 

And all this nonsense of if you've had more than 3 partners in your life, you will inevidably cheat.. and the only stand up men are the ones that repeatedly refuse sex... wtf?? You must not know that many people

[overwhelmed]

I wouldn't go to such an extreme saying that more than three or five or six partners makes someone more likely to cheat. Again, I didn't bail out of the relationship when I heard my ex had 13 past sexual partners. I didn't like it, but it wasn't a deal breaker.

 

Honestly, I wish I could be OK with knowing about her 23 previous partners. But that amount of promiscuity and the subsequent lies that followed are a little more than I can bear. It brings out the absolute worst in me -my jealous, prideful, judgemental side. Those qualities in me are far worse than a promiscuous past. I know that.

 

I guess I've realized that the reason my relationship is over is threefold:

1) I'm really bothered by that much promiscuous behavior.

2) Her dishonest makes it extremely difficult to trust her

3) My newfound knowledge brings out a side of me that I absolutely do not like.

 

Unfortunately, I don't think I can stay with someone that highlights my worst qualities. That's my fault. Not hers. I've been struggling to find a way where things could work between me and her. I just know it will be impossible for us to be as happy as we were before. And I won't settle for anything less.

[Tim'sAngel]

I wouldn't go to such an extreme saying that more than three or five or six partners makes someone more likely to cheat. Again, I didn't bail out of the relationship when I heard my ex had 13 past sexual partners. I didn't like it, but it wasn't a deal breaker.

 

Honestly, I wish I could be OK with knowing about her 23 previous partners. But that amount of promiscuity and the subsequent lies that followed are a little more than I can bear. It brings out the absolute worst in me -my jealous, prideful, judgemental side. Those qualities in me are far worse than a promiscuous past. I know that.

 

I guess I've realized that the reason my relationship is over is threefold:

1) I'm really bothered by that much promiscuous behavior.

2) Her dishonest makes it extremely difficult to trust her

3) My newfound knowledge brings out a side of me that I absolutely do not like.

 

Unfortunately, I don't think I can stay with someone that highlights my worst qualities. That's my fault. Not hers. I've been struggling to find a way where things could work between me and her. I just know it will be impossible for us to be as happy as we were before. And I won't settle for anything less.

 

Hmm.. that is the smartest posts I've seen that you've written! IMO, whatever you do in your life, it is all a good thing as long as you've learned something from it. In this case, it seems you have learned some faults of your own. That is a good thing if you work on it. And same for your ex g/f. Now hopefully she's learned that lying to someone will hurt her future relationships. Both of you learned something from your relationship together and hopefully won't bring those faults into the next.

[Cecelius]

over -- even absent your "faults" (and I agree these are not things you want to have running loose in your mind) and, frankly, the deception, there is nothing wrong with just deciding this kind of past isn't for you.

 

There is nothing about being non-judgmental that requires you to enter into a sexual relationship with someone. She did stuff you find unattractive, as many other men would. Those who choose not to care about it in her future have simply done that -- chosen not to care. But you do, and frankly, I do agree with the standards comment -- it is going to be hard for you to respect a girl who has been that needy, that hungry for attention -- you may care for her, but you are unlikely to love her AND get what you need out of the relationship.

[SmoochieFace]

Indeed, I haven't met one single handsome and charming guy that has had only 3-5 sex partners by the time he's in his 30s.

 

So, in your mind, that means that those guys don't exist, right?

 

See, it's comments and attitudes like this that make it quite easy for guys to become jaded and even disrespectful towards women. Perhaps those women who are on the receiving end of dislike and hatred should look hard in the mirror and see if they may be contributing to their negative feedback.

[Cecelius]

So, in your mind, that means that those guys don't exist, right?

 

See, it's comments and attitudes like this that make it quite easy for guys to become jaded and even disrespectful towards women. Perhaps those women who are on the receiving end of dislike and hatred should look hard in the mirror and see if they may be contributing to their negative feedback.

 

Word. I've seen tons of stuff on this post exactly supporting the "double standard" that a man may feel to pump his number up, exactly because he feels like women aren't going to give him the time of day unless they feel like he's got enough success stories in his past.

[SmoochieFace]

Word. I've seen tons of stuff on this post exactly supporting the "double standard" that a man may feel to pump his number up, exactly because he feels like women aren't going to give him the time of day unless they feel like he's got enough success stories in his past.

 

It's a shame that the guys who are discretionary in who they choose as partners and thus may have a lower *score* are seemingly *dissed* in favour of the *manwhores* who will f*** almost any woman that gives them the slightest scrap of attention. And to imply that all those *low score* dudes are lacking in the looks and charm department is absolute horses***. Since when did being a male slut automatically guarantee *charm* anyway?

[shoedevil]

See, it's comments and attitudes like this that make it quite easy for guys to become jaded and even disrespectful towards women.

Well, I almost became one of those guys. My fiance is glad I didn't, otherwise we probably wouldn't have met. I don't know how common it is, but I've dated a few women who have expressed this attitude. As soon as they found out I hadn't had any sexual partners (and I didn't get defensive when the question was asked), their interest level dropped off. However... I respected their right to choose a different kind of guy to date. I didn't get mad, or scream and call them judgemental. Nobody likes to be rejected, but it's something everybody has to accept and move on from. Maybe men are more accustomed to that than women. Maybe...

Whoever thinks that a person's character should be judged on how many sex partners they've had is very ignorant.

I understand your experiences have influenced your position on this. To me, the context is more important than the number. How one conducts oneself is the definition of character. The most extreme example I can think of is Charlie Sheen. His boasting about bedding more than 5,000 women (mostly prostitutes) is rather dubious, but I think most women would look at him and just shake their heads. I don't see any reason to admire a man like that.

But that amount of promiscuity and the subsequent lies that followed are a little more than I can bear. It brings out the absolute worst in me -my jealous, prideful, judgemental side. Those qualities in me are far worse than a promiscuous past. I know that.

I don't know if I agree with you on that. Jealousy and insecurity are normal human emotions. They only become "bad" emotions when they encourage you to do or say things that hurt other people. These same emotions can also help you decide what course of action to take in bettering your life. It was her dishonesty about her past, then the reality about her past that brought these feelings out. I think you did the right thing, and followed your heart on this one.

 

In the future, if a woman you are interested in questions your standards on this issue, I've found that the following response is very helpful - "When it comes to one of the most important decisions of my life, I reserve the right to be as careful and selective as I want." If she respects your honesty and shows you the same, then that's the first step in a good relationship. If she doesn't, then you know she's not the right girl for you.

[ronnieromance]

HEy, look on the bright side; She'll be a much better lover than all those girls who reserved sex for a loving relationship.

 

 

-R-

[RecordProducer]

Overwhelmed, that last post indeed sounded smart. I was just curious about how she took the break-up? Have you heard from her since? How about you? You seemed to love her very much, didn't you say that? Wasn't it a bit too quick to dump her as soon as you heard about her number of previous sex partners?