longlegzs80 Posted May 14, 2006 Share Posted May 14, 2006 I have never been very connected to myself and wonder if meditation would get me there. But anyways, I don't feel like myself lately. Very down thinking about how much I do nothing to move forward in life. I float. I sleep and it is never enough, I go to a job that I hate but doing it because of the benifits and to pay bills obviously, decision making was always hard, but seems harder now, thinking about what I want to do in life and that makes me depressed. Could I ask my doctor for recommendations to a therapist? Not sure if that is the best way to go about it or what because I never did it before. I just feel so alone, really no friends and I need to talk to someone. Maybe someone can straighten out my life and point me in the right direction. But what are some things I could do by myself to help me get on track. What questions do you ask yourself to get you movin again? Thanks in advance. Link to post Share on other sites
suegail Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 Do you have a church? That's always my first thought, because when I have problems, I pray about it, and I find alot of strength from prayer. If that isn't something you feel will help you though, it still would be good for you to seek help. What you're describing could be clinical depression. I don't know because I'm not a doctor, but it sounds as if you should see someone qualified to diagnose. As far as how to get yourself motivated, it's a tough thing when you have to face a work situation you're miserable with and i've seen people lose ground and become quite depressed in that very situation. I met a man once who said his family continously lectured him that he had to keep his factory job, because of the money and the benefits and so year after year he stayed with that company, going everyday to a job he couldn't stand ..and he was depressed, he was drinking, he didn't know what to do, and one day he just decided he was going out on his own, and he started some kind of business which didn't allow him to earn as much, but he said he could feel the difference immediately. Like night and day. No more depression, he quit drinking, his life just turned around. It was the pressure people put on him all those years to keep that job - that was what kept him feeling he was trapped and there was just no other solution, ever, and that in itself is something that can drive a person to despair. If you're this unhappy with your life and you can trace that unhappiness back to this job, think about that. I'm not telling you to quit your job, but think about other options...all the happiness we get in life certainly doesn't depend upon the amount of money we make. I'm sure many can testify to that. There may be something out there if you look hard, some other workplace where you'd do much better. I have another friend who years ago transferred from the north to Florida for work - it was a huge change for him but he said the best decision he ever made. At first he wasn't earning a great deal but now he's way up there in pay, and he's been happy, delighted with the change. All I'm trying to say is you're not trapped. You think you are, it may feel that way, but you can change your life...without a doubt. Wishing you the best... Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted May 17, 2006 Author Share Posted May 17, 2006 Thank you to you and to the pm instant messenger who replied. Both of you gave great advice and as much as I am in a slump/rut doing the same thing different day, maybe I need to look other areas of my life that will bring out happiness. I am attending 2 classes in art to get me into my art skills again so I am excited about that. I find I have to meet new people and to do things other then work and sleep. My job takes alot out of me and with working with misreable people day in and day out, it has some wear on you. Thank you to both of you for repling to my message. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Definately talk to your Dr about a referral to a therapist. Sounds like you could benefit from Cognitive Behaviour Therapy! I also suggest getting yourself into a routine, because having too much time on your hands gives you more time to think and worry. Though, now reading your reply back, it sounds like you're on your way to something fun and that will bring out the passion in you! Good luck and I hope things get even better for you! Link to post Share on other sites
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