jenny23 Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 Alot has happened to you in the past couple of months in terms of this relationship. I think decisions like this take time and careful consideration. It sounds like there are some issues to be worked out with this girl and that is something you may want to have happen before you get married. I don't want to give you advice because only you know what will make you truely happy. I just want to say take you time and make sure you consider all the factors not just that you love her. Link to post Share on other sites
michelangelo Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 and if you buy a house, do it for yourself fully in your name before you cohabitate with any woman. get a Prenup where they renounce any claim to your assets. That gal is using you. If you continue putting up with her baloney you're a fool. And if you actually marry her knowing how she is now, then it is your own fault for the torture you will endure. At a minimum, move her out of your place. It is a mistake to live with her even if you get the occasional roll in the hay. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 Sure marry her and become the babysitter, the house cleaner, the chef and don't expect much sex either. I disagree with the previous "BABYSITTER" comments. No, you shouln't marry her unless you want to live in hell forever! The following is my point of view as a woman: It appears to me that she just wants a place to live and someone to take care of her. If she truly loved you in the way that someone you'll marry does than she would make time for you, make love to you often and make some effort to clean-up a little or cook you a good meal now and then. Don't get me wrong, life is stressful, work is tiring but when you love someone you still try to make them happy. From what you say she doesn't do that. I myself am madly in love with my man who is ten years my junior. You know what, I work two full-time jobs and he stays home, cleans the house, does the laundry and looks after my son. When I get something close to a day off (which usually constitutes getting off work at 3pm) I come home and cook him a good dinner and clean a little. I don't consider him a "BABYSITTER" I consider him a blessing. A blessing in the way that I've found someone with whom I'm truly compatable, and feel harmonious around. He's wonderful to my son, he's more of a father to my son than his own father who's a pretty good dad in his own right. This man I will marry, there is no doubt in my mind. He is the "One" for so many reasons. I just know it. I will always encourage him to choose a path that leads him to happiness. Wether it be college, working or staying home to be "Mr. Dad". I'm happy in my career and my place in life, I want him to be too. And the sex is incredible, always. I'm writing these things so that maybe someone reading will read this and understand what it truly means to be "in love" and in harmony with a soul mate before you marry. Link to post Share on other sites
2smart Posted July 1, 2006 Share Posted July 1, 2006 Hellooooooo....... Did you happen to reread what you originally wrote???????? Try taking the third person's perspective. Do you know what acid reflux is? Alimony payments? How about medical insurance for children? And of course divorce proceedings? Maybe you need some excitement in your life? Personally, acid reflux, alimony payments and medical insurance concerns are not MY CHOICE! WAKE UP DUDE! Link to post Share on other sites
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