Guest Posted May 14, 2006 Share Posted May 14, 2006 Hopefully there is someone out there who can relate, here is my story. I have been dating my current GF for 2 and a half years now. When I first met her I liked her and after a while I stopped talking to her because she started dating her ex boyfriend (and only bf before me) again. once we started talking again I learned that she had lost her virginity to him and that she had actually cheated on him and slept with another kid on a cruise! Every key I type is breaking my heart. I am 18 years old. After that I started dating her, I lost my virginity to her within the first two weeks. I could have buried the hatchet after that and been okay with it, but around 6 months after we started dating she started to let out these secrets that she had been holding in. it started with her telling me that she cheated on me with her ex mulitple times. after that she confessed that she slept with him and gave him head after she took my virginity. I cannot take my life and I literally want to die almost every second that I think about it. In order to make me feel like we were even she had two not one but two threesomes with me and her and two other girls. I have recently been driven to taking pain killers just to cope with my pain. I love her now but I will never forget or forgive what she has done. I also feel like no girl would want me after what I have done with her. I have tried to break up with her in the past but she only tried killing herself. What the hell do I do. I wish so bad that I could find one person that is in the same position as me. Please help me, before its too late. Please someone tell me that they know what to do. All this is brought up in my mind almost every day of my life and I feel so helpless. I definetly think that the psychological tie to her, based around me losing my virginity to her. Helplessly Lost, Jared Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 I am 18 years old. Jared, You've fallen for the wrong one. A relationship should NOT have any pain what-so-ever and if any of them ever make you suicidal (like your current) then that should be a sign to leave. What do I do Learn, You made a bad decision, so what? There are others out there 100x better than she'll ever be, Jared. Live, It may feel like all hope is lost, but understand that's the consequence of being heart broken. To give up now is foolish and at such a young age? Please man, live your life! and Move on. It wont be an instant process, but you must let her go! You should also work on returning to a stable mentiality. Finish school, make some new friends, and/or find a new hobby! Try anything you can to forget about her, she's not worth it and you know this! Link to post Share on other sites
roxyg Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 Definately try to get some support from close people you can really talk about this to. I realize telling people stuff like this can be hard, especially when it is people that know you, because then they could look at you differently. The threat of suicide is painful not only for you and the girl involved, but also for family as well as friends. Sometimes even writing in a journal helps to get feelings out, and then tearing that journal up or burning it is a huge relief to let go. Just remember, there are so many more women out there; you are only 18! Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted May 16, 2006 Share Posted May 16, 2006 When you need to take painkillers over someone you know they arent worth anything. move on man. Link to post Share on other sites
Em18 Posted May 16, 2006 Share Posted May 16, 2006 There are words to describe people like her. You trusted this girl and she thinks that making you feel guilty about trying to distance yourself from her is somehow gonna make everything ok. What is she trying to get out of this? Ive heard of people giving their bf/gf second chances but shes had one too many by the sounds of it. You don't need to be with some1 like that. I had a bf like this. He was a complete twat. My friends kept telling me but i was so blind and thought i was in love i couldn't see how he was affecting me and how much i was changing. He would say things to me to keep me from leaving. In the end i decided that what my friends where saying was true and 3 years on i have found a really nice guy who really likes me back. (we've been together for nearly 3) Don't be afraid that no1 will want you. As long as your honest and can prove to people that your the total opposite of this girl than there will always be some1 who will want you for you Good Luck hunny x hope that helps a little Link to post Share on other sites
Em18 Posted May 16, 2006 Share Posted May 16, 2006 There are words to describe people like her. You trusted this girl and she thinks that making you feel guilty about trying to distance yourself from her is somehow gonna make everything ok. What is she trying to get out of this? Ive heard of people giving their bf/gf second chances but shes had one too many by the sounds of it. You don't need to be with some1 like that. I had a bf like this. He was a complete twat. My friends kept telling me but i was so blind and thought i was in love i couldn't see how he was affecting me and how much i was changing. He would say things to me to keep me from leaving. In the end i decided that what my friends where saying was true and 3 years on i have found a really nice guy who really likes me back. (we've been together for nearly 3) Don't be afraid that no1 will want you. As long as your honest and can prove to people that your the total opposite of this girl than there will always be some1 who will want you for you Good Luck hunny x hope that helps a little Link to post Share on other sites
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