Do you really think there is someone out there that is meant to be?

[Bohdi10]

I always wondered who the girl would be that I was meant to be with. I am just tiring of the waiting and that heartbreaks and the drama to get there. Is there a girl who is meant to be? I was just dumped from a 9 month relationship and we were actually happy throughout the whole time. She felt that I wasn't the one for her and she was already starting a new relationship the minute she dumped me. I don't think I have ever broken up with a girl that I dated.

 

Out of the four serious relationships I was in I have been the dumpee and it hurts alittle bit more each time. Not once in any of those relationships did the girl say that I did something wrong. They said that either the relationship faded or we just aren't meant to be. What is the deal?How do I go out there and get the one that I want without looking desperate.

 

I also want to know where I'm expected to look? I tried the whole online thing before this last relationship and it didn't work for me. I tried to get girls to go on dates but rarely got any responses or there was very few to pick from in my area. What do I do?

[Brittanyjean06]

I'm sorry to hear your unfortunate break ups :-(, I haven't seen much of an end to my healing process ( first time) so I woulden't really be able to tell you thurillly if there is someone meant for you, I'm sure there are people on here who have gone through Hell and back inorder to find their true loves.

 

Maybe you should just stop looking, give it some rest...she could pop up in other places one day, and right now maybe isn't the best time...I think she will pop up when you lease expect it! when you aren't really even thinking of finding a new love, when you are completely content with being single!

[johan]

...I woulden't really be able to tell you thurillly...

 

What is this new word you are using? "Thurilly".

 

Maybe you should just stop looking, give it some rest...

 

I agree with this. Particularly in light of the fact that it's only been a few days since the last one ended. You should consider taking a few months to just not worry about it.

 

I don't believe in "meant to be". I see a lot of people get burned and scorned and give up. I believe that along the way everyone finds themselves in relationships that look solid and wonderful. It's a minority of people who really find "the one". There are more people who end up with "someone". There are lots of people who end up with "no one".

 

You'll do fine if you just take the pressure off yourself and make sure that no matter what any dumb girl you date does, you love yourself enough to bear being on your own. And it's kind of a paradox that that is when you're at your best and are most attractive to women.

[PeanutHead88]

I think everyone can tell by now that I really can't spell :-(

[johan]

I think everyone can tell by now that I really can't spell :-(

 

Ha ha. I blame the school system.

[funkify]

I believe there are many people that we are compatible with. However, sometimes fate throws in signs which tell you things are just not right. It may be hard to recognise these signs when you are experiencing them, but in hindsight they become clearer.

 

I believe relationships succeed because of three key factors; Compatibility, love, and hard work. Things don't happen just by accident.