vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 One night I was at a club with my friends and this guy (John) that really likes me called me and ended up meeting me there. Well saw this other guy (Darren)(that I like) and went up to him while I was standing there with (John). Well they both know each other, so I didn't want to start anything right there. Later on (Darren) left the club so I was hanging out with (John), when (Darren) called and asked if I want to meet him at another club, so of course since I like (Darren) better I told him I would, with (John) standing right there. Anyways to make a long story short me and John were walking out to my car because he wanted to go with me wherever I was going, but I knew Darren (and I) wouldn't want him around so I told him I was going to go meet him at the other club so he got mad and got out of my car to meet his friend to take him home. WELL after I spent the night at Darren's house, the next morning we walked out to my car and there was a freakin hamburger smeared all over my car! I was so pissed and Darren couldn't believe it, and asked if I had a stalker! I said no not that I know of but the only other person I could think of that knows where he lives is John. The other night I asked John about it and he denied it, BUT I could tell he kinda slipped up some info without me even asking , like he said , what you think I went to his house, before I even accused him of doing it. I told my friend about it and she thinks it was him too. Well I've been talking to John alot more lately because now I sorta want him as a bf but I'm still hung up about that night so I don't know what I should do, just forget about it? I still like (Darren) though but it's hard when they both know each other, but they don't like each other either. The difference between them is that (Darren) is hot and the bad type boy because of things he does, BUT he's always been there for me and a really nice genuine guy. (John) is a good guy but doesn't give me that thrill that (Darren) does. So I'm kinda in a bind about these two guys , I know (John) wants me to be his gf cause he asked me, but I'm not sure about (Darren) I'm kinda scared to ask him about wanting more than just friends with him. So any help on this would be great, thanks Sorry if this was confusing, I used paranthesis because the names are different lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 I don't know what you're doing, but it doesn't sound healthy. Let me put it this way: You can't string guys along like that ! It seems like you're bouncing from one guy to the next, without any warning/notification. Just choose one guy you're really into. You can't be involved with 2 guys, at the same time. What does that say about your attitude? Stick to something. Oh and, don't display false romantic hope. That's misleading. Link to post Share on other sites
IrishCarBomb Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 Free hamburger. I'd be flattered. So what if it was a little smashed and smeared all over the windshield... what a nice gesture. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Author Share Posted May 15, 2006 I don't know what you're doing, but it doesn't sound healthy. Let me put it this way: You can't string guys along like that ! It seems like you're bouncing from one guy to the next, without any warning/notification. Just choose one guy you're really into. You can't be involved with 2 guys, at the same time. What does that say about your attitude? Stick to something. Oh and, don't display false romantic hope. That's misleading. It does seem like I'm trying to string guys along, but I was honest to the (John) and told him that I didn't want anything serious with him at the time, because I was intereseted in (Darren) So all along John has still been my friend trying to turn it into more than just friends, but I've never tried to lead him on, until maybe now I guess. I don't know what Darren honestly thinks of me but we enjoy hanging out together and I can tell he likes me and I think he likes me, I just I'm kinda nervous about moving forward with him because I guess I'm scared that he'll say he doesn't want a gf right now, but I'm always confused by his actions. How should I go about asking him to take things further? The only think that makes me nervous is because we used to talk all the time on the phone and now it's not as much so I'm not sure what to think I know I can always count on him because he always answers his phone or calls me back whenever I call him and whenever I need directions he always helps me for example last friday I called him to see if he wanted to hang out that night and he said he was injured from work, so he probably won't be going out for awhile, then I called him when I was with my friend at 2 am in the morning cause we were lost so I called him and he gave me directions. So I know he cares because he always wants to make sure I'm safe. I guess I just don't know the best way to ask him to be my bf, lol sound crazy I never have this problem but with him for some reason I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Author Share Posted May 15, 2006 Free hamburger. I'd be flattered. So what if it was a little smashed and smeared all over the windshield... what a nice gesture. lol nah it wasn't nice when I had to scrub it off my paint! Why would someone do such a thing? Because they're jealous? Link to post Share on other sites
Marcus as the Peanut Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 Sounds to me that you need some growing up to do!!! Link to post Share on other sites
justagirliegirl Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 Yeah you sound a bit immature and enjoying playing with guys for the attention. It looks like the nice guy definitely has some bad boy in him by smearing food all over your car! You must be excited! Maybe he'll smack you around a bit and you'll know it's true love! :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
penkitten Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 sometimes you just gotta think about it huh? Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 So I'm kinda in a bind about these two guys , I know (John) wants me to be his gf cause he asked me, but I'm not sure about (Darren) I'm kinda scared to ask him about wanting more than just friends with him. So any help on this would be great, thanks Sorry if this was confusing, I used paranthesis because the names are different lol. No offense, but all your posts lately have been about a FWB situation, or you're afraid you're pregnant. have you tried picking one guy and sticking to him? You sound like you really like this Darren guy, but John is a good back up plan for you, if Darren were to turn you down. You really need to slow down, because I've also read you've had unprotected sex. You don't sound like you're being very responsible in any aspect here. I don't see any good coming out of this, except somebody with hurt feelings. Like another poster said, you seem to just be bouncing from guy to guy. There are consequences to your actions.. you can't have unprotected sex, and you can't just bounce from guy to guy. Link to post Share on other sites
penkitten Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 kinda gets confusing trying to figure out what you like or who sometimes. perhaps you should weigh your options before moving to the next level with either of them? Link to post Share on other sites
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Author Share Posted May 15, 2006 Sounds to me that you need some growing up to do!!! umm....thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Author Share Posted May 15, 2006 Yeah you sound a bit immature and enjoying playing with guys for the attention. It looks like the nice guy definitely has some bad boy in him by smearing food all over your car! You must be excited! Maybe he'll smack you around a bit and you'll know it's true love! :lmao: thanks for being funny b****h Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 chill out. you're putting yourself in dangerous situations and you really don't seem to care that much. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Author Share Posted May 15, 2006 So I'm kinda in a bind about these two guys , I know (John) wants me to be his gf cause he asked me, but I'm not sure about (Darren) I'm kinda scared to ask him about wanting more than just friends with him. So any help on this would be great, thanks Sorry if this was confusing, I used paranthesis because the names are different lol. No offense, but all your posts lately have been about a FWB situation, or you're afraid you're pregnant. have you tried picking one guy and sticking to him? You sound like you really like this Darren guy, but John is a good back up plan for you, if Darren were to turn you down. You really need to slow down, because I've also read you've had unprotected sex. You don't sound like you're being very responsible in any aspect here. I don't see any good coming out of this, except somebody with hurt feelings. Like another poster said, you seem to just be bouncing from guy to guy. There are consequences to your actions.. you can't have unprotected sex, and you can't just bounce from guy to guy. Yah I know I've been in a bad rut lately, living too fast for my own good. And I want to be done playing stupid games because it's not healthy and I understand that. I don't know why I like it but when it comes down to it I just end up confused I guess it's just that whichever guy calls me I'll go hang out with them because all my guy friends are fun just to hang out with, but sometimes it's hard having guys as just friends and I realize that. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 The only kind of guy who'll put up with getting played around like that is the kind of guy who will smear hamburger on your car. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Author Share Posted May 15, 2006 chill out. you're putting yourself in dangerous situations and you really don't seem to care that much. I know, I need to. And you're right it's dangerous. I do care, but I think I care about other people's feelings before myself. Like I don't want to hurt any of my guy friends' feelings because of the mess I got myself into. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 Pretty much. I don't think these guys are really "Friends" with you. I used to be like that, I had tons of guy friends and hardly any female friends. But younger guys tend to befriend chicks because they want to f*** them. THere's no respect involved with that kind of situation either. Honestly at some point you sit down and realize that 75% of the random s*** that happens is because you allow it to. Do drugs, drink a lot, have sex with random people that don't respect you enough to make a committment, don't use protection -- you will end up in trouble, and it's not a laughing matter. It's reckless behavior that indicates some serious stuff you need to face and deal with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Author Share Posted May 15, 2006 The only kind of guy who'll put up with getting played around like that is the kind of guy who will smear hamburger on your car. That's true, and I think that's why he has stook around so long, and believe me I've never tried to lead him until recently, I was always honest with him, but he still wanted to by my friend, so I don't whether or not to give him a real chance after all the drama. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 That's true, and I think that's why he has stook around so long, and believe me I've never tried to lead him until recently, I was always honest with him, but he still wanted to by my friend, so I don't whether or not to give him a real chance after all the drama. Like B_O said, he's not really interested in being your "friend." Nothing personal, young men are just like that. Based on your past posts, I think you are really into getting a lot of attention from guys. Take her advice and be sure it's the kind of attention you want. Being the center of attention doesn't always mean people like and care about you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Author Share Posted May 15, 2006 Pretty much. I don't think these guys are really "Friends" with you. I used to be like that, I had tons of guy friends and hardly any female friends. But younger guys tend to befriend chicks because they want to f*** them. THere's no respect involved with that kind of situation either. Honestly at some point you sit down and realize that 75% of the random s*** that happens is because you allow it to. Do drugs, drink a lot, have sex with random people that don't respect you enough to make a committment, don't use protection -- you will end up in trouble, and it's not a laughing matter. It's reckless behavior that indicates some serious stuff you need to face and deal with. You're right because I have alot my guy friends than girl friends, alot of the reason is that some girls (besides my really close girl friends) start drama with me. I seem to get along better with guys for that reason and I always have fun when I hang out with them. But I guess it's not a good idea to be friends with any guy because they sometimes want more, and to be honest out of all the guy friends I have, I've only slept with the 3 guys I've mentioned. And you're also right when you say it happens because I allow it, and they probably think I'm stupid and naive Thanks for your help blind_otter I do need to get some kind of help though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Author Share Posted May 15, 2006 Like B_O said, he's not really interested in being your "friend." Nothing personal, young men are just like that. Based on your past posts, I think you are really into getting a lot of attention from guys. Take her advice and be sure it's the kind of attention you want. Being the center of attention doesn't always mean people like and care about you. Yah I can see that pattern. I do like getting attention from guys and not to be conceided but I get it alot and it makes me uncomfortable actually to where I start to disrespect myself in a way. So I guess the question is how can I get guys to like me for the real me and not the way I look, because some guys give me the look that it's all they want (sex) How do I know a bad guy from a good guy? I just don't want them thinking, "oh she looks naive I can get with her" from just they way I look. I do think I have a problem dodging guys especially bad guys because I'm friendly to everyone, that's just the way I am. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 The answer is - you like yourself, the real you. You treat your body with respect, and feed it good food, and don't pollute it with bad stuff like drugs, or untested semen (hahah). You need to sit down and figure out why you feel the need to be so nice to everyone else, at the expense of your own health and well being! Link to post Share on other sites
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Author Share Posted May 15, 2006 The answer is - you like yourself, the real you. You treat your body with respect, and feed it good food, and don't pollute it with bad stuff like drugs, or untested semen (hahah). You need to sit down and figure out why you feel the need to be so nice to everyone else, at the expense of your own health and well being! Yah I do like myself, the real me, the other me likes to feed off the attention from guys but honestly, it doesn't get me anywhere. I really appreciate all of your helpful advice in everything that I've ever posted I had to laugh at the untested semen part though lol Sometimes I don't understand why I don't put my foot down in certain situations, but like I said, I guess I'm the type that's too eager to please, before pleasing myself, why I don't freakin' know! But I'll look into that Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 15, 2006 Author Share Posted May 15, 2006 Yeah you sound a bit immature and enjoying playing with guys for the attention. It looks like the nice guy definitely has some bad boy in him by smearing food all over your car! You must be excited! Maybe he'll smack you around a bit and you'll know it's true love! :lmao: No wonder nobody replies to your threads... you're sarcastically rude to everyone you reply back to....and you're mature?? Get a clue b***h Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 Omg... ok so I'm guessing that john is the f buddy and darren is the other guy you liked, I'm guessing this by reading your other posts. Hunny, you sound like you are in a very unhealthy cycle. I'm not judging you, in fact you remind me alot of me a few years back. I finally straightened my act up when I brought a precious baby in the world who doesn't even have a father that cares to find out if he exsists. A situation I regret every day of my life (the situation, not my son) You sound like the immature one for #1 hanging out w/immature people #2 jumping from guy to guy and bed to bed #3 having unprotected sex and then flipping out at the fact that you could be pregnant #4 spending the night w/a guy even before you got your tests back Again, I am not judging you, I am pointing out facts that you yourself have provided. I am concerned for you and your health because something bad will inevitably happen if you keep going this way. Link to post Share on other sites
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