Guest Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 Well, we had another talk about it a couple of days back (another talk!), I told him how frustrated I was (in all senses of the word!), about having the same problem cropping up all the time, that we are to be married in 4 months, how that was worrying me. I didn't want to have this problem if there was no way to sort it. He was upset and said yes, he was being selfish, and that in the future, when he isn't in the mood, that he won't forget about me. We shall just have to see. Thanks for your replies guys. To be honest, I don't think he is asexual - he was a late starter and has only had 2 partners in his life. He doesn't seem to have a medical problem, but will go for a check up anyway (his dad died of a heart attack and his mother cancer), as he needs to. Thank god that when we do do it, it is AMAZING. I would have gone mad otherwise. First I'd like to say thanks for sharing your experiences. I'm going through the same thing. I've been feeling frustrated, rejected, it makes me feel as though he's not sexually attracted to me and I question my relationship with my boyfriend because of the lack of sex. I get the same excuses, he's either tired or stressed, however, he doesn't seem to be too tired to masterbate to porn sites. I don't mind if he's on the porn site but if you're feeling horny by looking at the sites then by all means jump into bed and have wild sex with me! I'm lucky enough if I get sex at least once a month. I'm starting to wonder if we are sexually compatible. He says he loves me and cares about me too, he says it's all in his head. I would like to help him, and I try to encourage him to talk about things but it ends up with two people feeling guilty for not being able to please one another. We've been dating for 3 years now, the earlier years were a little bit better but its totally gone down hill. Does the lack of sex drive from your partner mean your relationship is in trouble? I can please myself till I turn blue but masterbating isn't the same as being made love to by your man. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 I say this - if you aren't getting it now before you're married and sex means that much to you - don't marry this person. After marriage it is only going to decrease more. Even couples with great passion between them see a decrease in sex after being married a while. So I can only imagine what it would be for a partner who started out not wanting much. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 I say this - if you aren't getting it now before you're married and sex means that much to you - don't marry this person. After marriage it is only going to decrease more. Even couples with great passion between them see a decrease in sex after being married a while. So I can only imagine what it would be for a partner who started out not wanting much. Right on Advice Link to post Share on other sites
twkvfx Posted July 12, 2006 Share Posted July 12, 2006 why are people so upsessed with it. don't they know that keep doing it is dirty? Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 thats why some of us advocate clitoral castration. remember andy 14, it is only dirty when the female looks at other men and has unholy thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
girly456 Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 I so know how you feel. I will be getting married in 5weeks. u know its been once in 5 mins in the last 3 weeks. I'm told it's because my step kids rr here. I also wonder about the truth behind guys never getting enough. What about us girls. Link to post Share on other sites
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