AussieChick Posted May 16, 2006 Share Posted May 16, 2006 Not really sure if there's a question in here anywhere, guess I am just feeling out of sorts, and want to write it down - have a bit of self-indulgent depressed whine. I'm over being single. I am content with my life, I have everything I need - but let's face it - I want a partner to share it all with, might not need a partner, but want one none the less.. I'm so over being the only single person in my circle of friends. My one staunch single friend has recently found the love of his life...just me now. I recently met someone - we clicked, I thought - 'finally - it's my turn' - nope - he's not ready for a relationship, has to sort himself out and deal with all the sh#t in his life - wouldn't be able to give in a relationship. Yet he finds time to continue the friendship with me - and now we're becoming better friends it's getting to that point - where it might "ruin a good friendship" if we took it any further (that is if he can finally sort himself out enough to try). Then again, knowing my track record with guys, he's probably not interested in me as more than a friend anyway - for some reason guys find me easy to talk to - and I fall into the 'mate' category - probably as physically I'm not attractive (but I am beautiful on the inside!) - and so they just don't even consider me as girlfriend material. I know - I'm just feeling tired of everything at the moment - just spent the last 6 hours sitting in my car outside this guys place - talking with him about everything and anything. It's 2am where I live, and I need to go to bed, and stop wondering if he actually does like me and there's a possible future (in the future) - or if he's going to be another one of those that will eventually tell me they're madly in love with another girl and ask for advice... I'd better go to bed - have to get up for work in 4 hours. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted May 16, 2006 Share Posted May 16, 2006 The fact that you only met him recently and discussed * being in a relationship * suggests that its something you have discussed and he immediately said " I am not ready for a relationship ". That type of discussion comes with time and the man usually should be the one initiating it . Men are different in what they want and how they want it. You need to wait for them to initiate the * talk *. The fact that you do not find yourself attractive , could that be what you are projecting on to future dates ? When a man says " I am not ready for a relationship " , It usually means " I am not ready for a relationship with YOU. " Being that , I would maybe work on buying a snazzy new outfit, get your hair cut and styled , get some up front analysis from a friend or two on your new appearance. Feeling better about yourself on the outside feels just as good about taking care of whats on the inside Link to post Share on other sites
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