oannamarie Posted May 16, 2006 Share Posted May 16, 2006 My husband and I have discussed trying to improve our sex life because it seemed as though he wasnt interested anymore. I have been sending him sexual advances, naked pictures at work and wearing lingere to bed. He doesnt seem interested. He never initiates sex. I always do. He never comes to kiss me or hug me. Everyday when I come home from work he wants me to sit next to him on the couch. I am expected to give him a kiss when I come through the door (which I dont mind). However, he never sits with me or does anything I want. Two days ago we had sex which I initiated. It was great. He seemed to be into it. The next day the same thing. I intitiated it was great. Yesterday I came home and sat in the chair to read a book after giving my husband a kiss. When we went to bed he said "What is with your attitude, you havent shown me any attention today?" I replied that there was nothing wrong (which there wasnt) I was so hurt. I have been trying to improve our relationship and getting nothing in return. Is it possible he is not attacted to me anymore? We have been married for 8 years. Link to post Share on other sites
Serpent_Rising Posted May 16, 2006 Share Posted May 16, 2006 I understand your confusion, and wonder how old your husband is. I'm 38 and I can definitely tell that my testosterone levels are way down from what they were when I was in my 20's - and thank god for that haha Maybe he's just going through a faze (which can be normal for both sexes) or work is all consuming in his mind - which is a problem i suffer through alot in my day in day out life. From my personal experiences of sometimes being in similar shoes as your husband, interest in sex wanes from time to time. It's not my partners fault or her lack of trying, it just doesn't seem compelling at times. cheers Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 16, 2006 Share Posted May 16, 2006 My husband is 30. I understand that sometimes he may not be in the mood but that is not reason for me to show all the affection and initiate sex all the time. Its not like he is tired from working all day. He doesnt work. I work 5 days a week 10 hours a day and still manage to be in the mood. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 16, 2006 Share Posted May 16, 2006 I understand your confusion, and wonder how old your husband is. I'm 38 and I can definitely tell that my testosterone levels are way down from what they were when I was in my 20's - and thank god for that haha Maybe he's just going through a faze (which can be normal for both sexes) or work is all consuming in his mind - which is a problem i suffer through alot in my day in day out life. From my personal experiences of sometimes being in similar shoes as your husband, interest in sex wanes from time to time. It's not my partners fault or her lack of trying, it just doesn't seem compelling at times. cheers ok as a guy what would you then recommend doing to spice things up? i'm going thru the same thing...and i'm in my mid 30's...i need some! Link to post Share on other sites
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