Revenge...

[ridingthebulls]

Mary Joe never remarried and likely won't anytime soon.

[zarathustra]

Wow...

 

I already got mine a few years ago...

 

And, let me tell you....lately all I have been attracting is roaches....

 

So, forget it Zara....keep your C's. It's not worth it!

 

 

lol... snort.... perky C's I may add... lol. Some people think that modifying one's body and face will get men's attention... well, its the kind of attention. Its different if a woman goes through PS for herself without the motive of attracting men, but to tell someon to do it because it would attract some men is simply ridiculous!!

 

 

Meh, I am confident, smart, attractive and wealthy enough. And even if I do ditch my husband, I really don't want another man. I'm thinking some solitude (and a great vibrator, with a G spot attachment) might be nice for awhile.

You go girl... Ridingbulls***ter, now THAT's a pick me up.

[Chump64]

It looks like Riding is a real charmer who has offered sound and helpful advice to many here, on various occasions.

 

 

* your husband is attracted to a nasty std-ridden trollop?

 

* this guy treats you like s***. if he doesnt understand why nasty remnants of blood from another womans cooch is bothering you, then he really is a selfish prick

 

* you are one hell of a disgusting pig.

 

* your friends are stupid immature losers and you are equally as dumb and weak for listening to them

 

* throw your vagina away time and time again and what is it worth?

 

* guys like you usually end up with real whores who cheat on them

[zarathustra]

It looks like Riding is a real charmer who has offered sound and helpful advice to many here, on various occasions.

 

 

* your husband is attracted to a nasty std-ridden trollop?

 

* this guy treats you like s***. if he doesnt understand why nasty remnants of blood from another womans cooch is bothering you, then he really is a selfish prick

 

* you are one hell of a disgusting pig.

 

* your friends are stupid immature losers and you are equally as dumb and weak for listening to them

 

* throw your vagina away time and time again and what is it worth?

 

* guys like you usually end up with real whores who cheat on them

wow... why do people feel the need to step on others in order to feel better about themselves. Anyway, take care of yourself and enjoy some "ME" time sometime this weekend... sounds like its well deserved.

[ridingthebulls]

"Its different if a woman goes through PS for herself without the motive of attracting men"

 

What do you think I've been saying throughout all my posts... too boost one's confidence and yes along with that you WILL be more likely to attract men, therefore not feeling like you need to chain yourself to a good for nothing husband.

 

 

 

EVERY attractive and INTELLIGENT woman I've known in the public eye and private eye would NEVER stay with the type of men you people do. They have too much self-worth for that.

 

Don't take my advice... you'll just one day be lonely in a rocking chair while your husband is gone and probably will be banging a young skirt. You'll be too old to do any better and just will eventually learn to DEAL with it.

 

IF HE CONTINUED HIS cheating ways for a gazillion of years without you knowing and having no conscience about it: 1. he does NOT love you 2. He isn't attracted to you probably mentally or physically 3. He doesn't have much of a emotional bond with you 4. He doesn't have any want to work on your marriage and 5. He just uses you for convenience and your wifely-motherly duties. You raise and tow the kids while he gets his orgasms on the side.

 

The only word I can make for men like him and women who accept it is DISGUSTING.

GOOD BYE NOW!

 

 

BTW, im not butterfly and i havent read her posts.. so i dont know if i can agree or not with the things she said, except if she said you were stupid for staying.. yeah i agree with that.

And thanks for doing such a background check on my posts. 1. You are obsessed. 2. You have no life other than f***ing a disgusting husband who slept with probably half the town making your worth close to zilch.

If you had 1 positive thing going for yourself, you would not feel the need to stay with such a roach. GET WORKING ON YOURSELF!

[zarathustra]

What do you think I've been saying throughout all my posts... too boost one's confidence and yes along with that you WILL be more likely to attract men, therefore not feeling like you need to chain yourself to a good for nothing husband.

you should type a little slower and re-evaluate your statements before posting them, looks like a circular and illogical statement to me.

 

 

 

The only word I can make for men like him and women who accept it is DISGUSTING.

GOOD BYE NOW!

Wow, you sould like a really bitter person. You don't even have to WAIT grow old before using that rocking chair.

 

buh-bye!!

[ridingthebulls]

You should become more LITERATE than making up things as you post and putting words into peoples mouths. Good LUCK illiterate ones on picking up the pieces of your failing marriages..

 

Taking CARE of oneself on the outside and inside is not temporary. You will attract more men and feel better every time you look in the mirror. MIght be superficial, but it helps people psychologically about themselves.

 

If you spent any amount of time actually reading a few books, you wouldn't be so illiterate.

 

Instead of making up NEGATIVE things you would LIKE me to say, figure out ways to bring your comprehension level up.

[ridingthebulls]

Hey dumbass

 

Grow some class and self-respect, will you??

 

Maybe when your hubbies cheats for the 1000th time, that will be enough? Geez... pathetic.

[Walking away]

Zara's husband didn't cheat on her...

[Chump64]

Ok so we’ve had both Dumb and Dumber show up and bloviate. Who’s next? Stupid people post in threes.

[ridingthebulls]

So what, she's agreeing that it's quite alright for someone to stay with a man who's been cheating for 10 years? That means she would do the same in her marriage, which must be rotten if she's here... that is if she even has one. Coming from her low moral outlook and classless posts of assaults, I bet she was an OW..

 

Notice the plural form of hubby in my post.

 

If there was a dumb and dumber movie sequel # whatever, you'd be in it chump. 10 years of continuous cheating with you being oblivious.... might be a world record...

[jonesgirly]

TIME OUT people (and ridingthebulls, too).............

 

bulls is obviously a very lonely and attention-seeking troll, but most of all, mean-spirited.

 

I think it'd be great if every time an obvious troll-posting shows up, anyone who 'cares to', could reply with...oh, maybe something like: 'STFU' (and only that) or maybe 'IGNORE' . Whaddya think?

 

I personally enjoyed the atmosphere here much better without 'that' type. Not that I don't enjoy the 'bickertainment', I just think its become a little bit more than edgy. Personal insults and character attacks are definitely not needed if you're participating in a support-type forum. (I'm surprised the mods aren't all over this one).

[ridingthebulls]

Yep I agree, chump and her trash friend should be "banned" for their personal insults and foul mouths... afterall, they started it because they couldn't handle adult constructive criticism (from neither buter or myself).. they instead had to argue and whine like babies...

 

When the dumb and dumber casting for sequal number 3 or 4 come about, I'll let them know about you chump. They are probably looking for someone just as clueless and naive... Good day all..

[ridingthebulls]

"It scares me a little bit that it took you a decade to find empathy."

 

And if you didn't find out... it would take what? 2 decades, if ever? Please, you need to WAKE UP! Faking empathy to keep a doormat is quite easy if you would open up your eyes.

Empathy doesn't come overnight.. he either is capable of it or isn't. He's SCARED to lose his doormat (and probably all of his money too- probably get much more because he was a cheating scumbag). Nevermind.. hope you guys stay miserable together FOREVER!! (yeah, i think that's what this deluded bitter argumentive nutcase and her posse wants to hear)

[silktricks]

[quote=ridingthebullsOf course he is regretful- HE WAS CAUGHT! YOU needed to stop him. He couldn't stop himself which means he doesn't give a s*** about you and your feelings and probably NEVER HAS!

 

ya know - way too many OW want to believe that any marriage that has problems can NEVER be saved. Whenever a BS talks about their marriage or their husband with a positive light/slant, we are ridiculed and hurt.

 

True chump's husband was caught out. But when he was he chose note that word CHOSE to stay in the marriage and try to work things out with his wife. He CHOSE to try to mend things. He CHOSE to make things work, and by that choice showed that he does indeed care about her feelings.

 

My H was not caught. He ended the A with no demands from me. I'm glad that was what happened, that he chose me even with no demands, but really there is no difference. I could just as easily have "caught" my H. It wouldn't have made his remorse any less, or his pain any less.

 

All of the women on this forum deride often the MM. They say he is a liar and a cheat and a number of other bad names. Well, it's true, they lied and they cheated. BUT - which of us have not on occasion lied or cheated. Not a single person is good all of the time. The OW were also liars and cheats. The BS may not have been liars or cheats at exactly that time and in that way, but I know for a fact that I had deceived my H on some matters. Therefore I lied to him, and cheated him of the truth. It may not have been on the same level --- but it was dishonest.

 

I am not a better person than my husband. He hurt me. But the truth of the matter is that he would not have hurt me had I been more careful of his feelings. I hurt him as well. I can use the excuse that I wouldn't have been acting the way I did if he had (or hadn't) done other things, but that litany can go on forever.

 

Nobody is perfect. Not me, not my husband, not anybody. I forgave him for what he did. He forgave me as well. We both needed forgiveness, just as everyone does.

 

OW who only want to stick BS with pain need to learn to forgive as well. Neither the MM or the BS is the person you need to be examining for why you have such anger. You need to examine yourself.

[ridingthebulls]

" It wouldn't have made his remorse any less, or his pain any less."

 

It sure does. HUGE DIFFERENCE. If a man can go on for TEN years of cheating (until caught), he feels no remorse... huge character difference from a man who WANTS to stop cheating because he doesn't want to hurt his wife any further.

The first instance has NO conscience.. INDIFFERENT to his wife's feelings.. and THAT is scary. The second man obviously had guilt and remorse to come clean and try to work through problems on his own accord.

 

If the CHUMP didn't catch that guiltless scumbag, he would still be doing it!!! CAUSE HE CAN CARE LESS! No remorse, no guilt, selfish prick!... a lot he has to offer... he surely doesn't value their relationship... he just doesn't want her to take him to the cleaners..

[alfagrl]

How do you "hold your head up high" when you CONTINUE to be a lying/cheating man's DOORMAT! YOU SUCCUMB TO HIS LEVEL BY STAYING WITH HIM! STAYING WITH HIM MEANS YOU FEEL HE'S GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU!

 

Only way you can hold your head up high is when you leave him because you know you are WORTH MORE THAN HIM and his endless garbage.

 

It seriously would be a different story if HE was the one to confess at the beggining of a BETRAYAL and HE was the one to stop the behavior. Doing it for 10 years means he didn't give a s*** about her. DEAL WITH IT AND MOVE ON!

 

I got on this thread looking for some good ideas to get back at my cheating bf who has a wife and children in another state(scumbag) and I come along a change in topic.

 

I could never understand why women lie down and take such abuse from their husband or vice versa. I can understand it when a spouse strays once maybe even twice and your willing to work it out but seriously a full TEN yrs? I know my faith says forgive and move on, but where do you begin to forgive infidelity of such grander. You must be a saint and he better worship you.

[Blind Illusion]

TIME OUT people (and ridingthebulls, too).............

 

 

I think it'd be great if every time an obvious troll-posting shows up, anyone who 'cares to', could reply with...oh, maybe something like: 'STFU' (and only that) or maybe 'IGNORE' . Whaddya think?

 

I personally enjoyed the atmosphere here much better without 'that' type. Not that I don't enjoy the 'bickertainment',

I couldn't agree more. I don't even enjoy the bickertainment.(although I like that word) I did enjoy the exchange I had here earlier in the day though. I don't really care if people don't see eye to eye with me but I liked the way the exchange was going anyhow. It was an interesting discussion.

 

This other stuff, the name calling and digs and the copying and pasting of past posts, the intentional saying of things to be hurtful, ....that's not *me*.

[Chump64]

I'm no saint but he's worshipping me all right. Kissin' my ass til the day I die.

 

FYI, for anyone who isn't enjoying the bickertainment, you can enable the "ignore" feature for specific posters. It works like a charm.

[Galaxy]

Alfagrl, I don't understand either. I see many people saying hateful things to chum and her saying hateful things in retaliation and people siding with her even, but deep inside we all know the truth. We are thinking, "how can a woman stay with a man like that?" I personally feel this woman has totally lost it. 10 years is unacceptable in my book and you are right; it should classify as abuse. There is no reason to sit there and take that kind of treatment! I cannot understand how someone could accept that kind of living!

When I found out my girlfriend of several years lied about numerous things from her past, I knew I could never trust her again. No way would I live like that.

He might be kissing your feet now, but for the past 10 years, he was kissing another woman's downstairs, and you can't change a habit that much engrained. He'll definitely be pecking his pecker away elsewhere again, if he hasn't started already. Once you do it once, it's no big deal all the times after that.

Alfa, staying with someone who has done something so hurtful to you has more to do with weakness and fear, not sainthood. Or maybe she really just doesn't care and wants her material needs met in exchange. I have no clue, but doesn't sound like much of a loving relationship like one I hope to have in the future.

[Galaxy]

When you H chose you, you won... she lost. I hope you understand that.

 

guess now you need to figure out what to do with the 'prize'

 

 

This seems very childish to me. How is this about winning or losing? A cheating husband isn't much of a prize. He is a liability. The person who really won in this situation would be the person who got free from his destructing and bad behavioral ways. + + + + +

Chum, you seem overly emotional, spiteful and nasty towards anyone who offers advice different than you'd like to hear. Your attitude is asking for arguments. If you attack someone, they are probably going to attack you back. So it makes no sense to complain about someone acting "rude" to you when you were swearing at them and attacking them as well. If you don't like someone's comment of advice, you don't have to turn it into a teenage brawl.

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You might not find the ow attractive, but to make fun of her looks is really juvenile. I'm starting to think that you are right though. It probably had nothing to do with looks that got your husband. Maybe it had to do with personality and attitude. Maybe you are at a loss in that department.

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Now start attacking. I can care less. I just know I wouldn't accept to be abused for 10 years and then give the same person another chance to abuse me for another decade. No thanks. Night~

[Trimmer]

It scares me a little bit that it took you a decade to find empathy. Oh well, one day at a time. I am told it will take at least five years to sort this all out for us, if we stay together and work on it.

 

Well, actually, after the "first one", I had a recovery period, but I based our future on the assumption that it had been a short-lived one-time mistake, and like the character T.S. Garp, who insisted on buying the house that an airplane had just crashed into, I thought "well, what are the chances that this would ever happen again?" But then, it did.

 

Either time, my empathy period was about a year, I suppose. The first time I believed was recovery, but I now realize we "recovered" by ignoring it and in the long run that didn't do us any good... This time, recovery is, of necessity, a whole different deal. But either way, yeah, it makes sense that finding empathy is a good sign of progress.

 

Trimmer, to be honest, I'm not noble at all.

Well, ultimately, you got yourself through it in a way that should let you look yourself in the mirror. You don't have to be perfect to show some class. (Which he seriously lacked...)

[SueBee3490]

This thread has kind of turned into a "Why does Chump stay with a man who cheated for 10 yrs." I think only Chump knows the answer and it is ultimately up to her and her husband to decide what is best for them.

 

For me, I think my whole situation is really based on the amount of time and number of times my H cheated which I can't deal with. As I've wrote many many times, my H cheated during dating and I didn't know and married him. We dated 2 1/2 yrs. I have been to counselor after counselor and it still comes down to the fact that I can't live with this man who cheated for 2 1/2 yrs on me and probably would continue (if he isn't already) if I hadn't caught him! After 3 yrs of thinking about saving our marriage or not, I came to the conclusion only recently to begin to get out of our marriage - I can't handle his past cheating. In my situation, I did forgive him ONE time when he went out on me with someone else because he made me believe he was sorry and wouldn't do it again! Yeah right! I gave him another chance then he continued his cheating ways. I also feel that by me catching him instead of him deciding on his own that it's wrong is a huge factor in my leaving him. So for me, I can't understand anyone such as my H who went 2 1/2 yrs day-in, day-out, knowing it's wrong and continuing anyway. If it had been one time, maybe a drunken kiss or whatever, then that is something not "planned". But my H "planned" all his dinners & meetings at the hotels and the driving 2-3 hrs to see some of these women - that's unforgiveable.

 

Sometimes I think I'm a b**ch because I read others giving their spouses second, third, fourth chances and I just can't. I wonder what's wrong with me that I don't want to give him any more chances or waste any more of my life. Maybe I am now a bitter b**ch because of what he's done.

SueBee

[midori]

Hi All,

 

As it has ranged far off-topic this thread has been closed. A couple of things to note:

 

1. This thread is in the infidelity forum. As such it is rooted in the perspective of those who are in a relationship (married or not) where one or both partners have cheated.

 

2. Given the above, it is inappropriate for people on "the other side" of infidelity, i.e. a person coping with being the "other man" or "other woman" to seek support or defend themselves here. Try the Other Man/Other Woman Forum: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/f57/

 

Likewise, it is just as inappropriate for someone to come to the Other Man /Other Woman forum and insist on expressing the perspective of the spouse who has been cheated on. LoveShack.org forums are intended to be a medium for peer-to-peer support. Not for attacking others whose situations seem to compete with or invalidate your own.