kathy Posted September 18, 1999 Share Posted September 18, 1999 First, thank you for reading this and providing insight if you can... I met "Him" 7 years ago. We dated for 5 good years. We had no significant problems until I wanted to get married. Eventually, he broke up with me and I was devastated. We were long distance for about 3 of the 5 years. And after it was over, we kept in touch. Eventually I got a job in his city and when I moved there he wanted me to move in with him. At first I was scared, but decided to because we were together all the time. It had been less than 6 months between the break up and me moving there. We moved in and I wanted to get married...again. He said I stressed him out and asked me to move out. I did so while being devastated all over again. But it was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. A bit of history...A few years after we initially met I started having problems and was eventually diagnosed with clinical depression (not because of him or us). He was always there for me during that very hard time and I became very dependent on him and needy. In the words of my Mom, I wasn't who I was when I was younger. After I moved out, I became determined to beat my black cloud and have. I am who I was but much stronger. He and I have always been friends and never dated any other persons. And we have always been seeing each other. Now, however, he has come back to me and wants to spend time with me. He says he misses me. We know we love each other. But we are not "in love" with each other, although we once were. He was here last night and neither of us know where we want to go with this, but he said that he doesn't have fun at the bar anymore. He said something like, he now realizes "when you have it good". He has changed in that he is alot more open to me. Guess because I am not so defensive out of fear of losing him. I know we will always be close. Oh, and it coincides with him learning that his younger brother is engaged! But, can we fall in love again? Has anyone experienced this? How does it happen? How do you know? I am scared because I don't know what to do...if anything. Right now I am very happy with my life and I am happy with him and everyone in it. But I am also interested in another guy (who I may not have a chance with). Link to post Share on other sites
danny Posted September 20, 1999 Share Posted September 20, 1999 hello kathy, i have been in a realationship with some one for about 8 years and the same thing is going on here. i would like to talk to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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