Mixed signals

[billybobby]

I think I’m giving up dating altogether. The game just isn’t fun anymore and I can’t even win when they ARE interested in me. I’m a completely normal guy with a professional education, above average looks, sense of humor…and I still can’t win. lol…eff it.

 

Here’s the latest from my world: my question is are these mixed signals or am I guilty of mixed reactions?

 

I’ve only seen this person once and haven’t known her long. She was the one who initiated the contact (good) and we have been in contact nearly every day since (good). She also seemed eager when I invited her to go somewhere (good) but we knew we would probably have to wait until June because we are both busy (bad). She told me I’m cute (good) I don’t know if maybe her interest is waning. She asks lots of questions and not fluff questions either (good). I know that she has been talking about me and how great I am with her friends (good). the last few days have been really up and down though although it could just be my pessimism. She was more than willing to give me her number (good) but we have yet to talk on the phone (bad). I have also just recently learned of someone else (bad) but she always paints him in a bad light (good) and it isn’t a relationship. She is going to be gone for awhile on a trip. I think that will be good for me. But what do I do when she gets back to spark the fire? I was thinking I would just make myself unavailable, but I’m also wondering if I have been playing it too casually all along and she thinks I don’t like her “like that.”

 

I don’t know. There seemed to be a lot of great signs, but I think she would be more anxious to talk to me outside of e-mail if it was mutual. Then again, I’ve never really pressed for anything. I probably effed it all up by not trying something sooner. Only I could do that. Should I just quit, or should I give it a fresh shot in a couple of weeks?

 

billy

[billybobby]

lol....not even a smartass response?

[konfuzd]

You say you're tired of the game, then you say,

 

I was thinking I would just make myself unavailable, but I’m also wondering if I have been playing it too casually all along and she thinks I don’t like her “like that.”

 

This is just another head game. When she gets back from her holiday, tell her you'd love to get together with her, and talk about her trip and see some photos. Don't play games, the girls who are into games are not worth your time.

[Yamaha]

As her on a date and be specific as to the place and time. If she gives you excuses or doesn't say "I'd love to but I can't do it then but I could go at this time" then forget her and move on.

[Guest]

she gave you her number but you haven't talked on the phone yet? - WHY NOT? She gave you her number - this is GOOD..

 

There were a lot of goods in there and not many bads, and I didn't see too many mixed signals either.

 

I agree with posts when she gets back (or hell even before she goes) call her and say 'hey how was the trip? did you have a good time? do you have any photos? I'd love to catch up to hear all about it... ' or words to that affect!

 

If you then catch up and she spends the whole time talking about ex's or how wonderful some other guy is then you'll have mixed signals and its a good time to walk away.

[SuperMonk]

cakes are delicious (good) salads are not (bad) my car can go 0-60 in 5 seconds (good) my car has bad brakes (bad) ...don't do that in my presence.

 

 

Anyways, I would say being more specific about plans as well as getting a clear disinterest sign should make you stop. You haven't reached that point yet. Keep going.