buddah28 Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 well here is the deal, I met this girl online. we were perfect, i mean it, in everyway, from eating to movies , to music.. we had everything in common. well we were together 8 months as of the 9th of may. Well she lives in west palm beach florida , i live 45 min south of her. she has a child, and lives with her mom who she has to help out with the bills and such, now she has told me over and over time and again that we were perfect together and that she wanted nothing more than to stay together with me and live forever and get married and all that. i have met her family all of them we have taken trips together all of that stuff.. she and everyone in her family and friends have told her how lucky she was to find me and to stick with me..well about 2or 3 weeks ago she mentioned that she is no longer as happy as she used to be, she says she don't know why she just isn't now.. I did nothing wrong, she says she knows that i am a loving person and that i would do anything for her and that i treated her better than anyone she has ever been with. now she is starting a new job in may 30th, its a preschool , where she is gonna have her son attending as well, now she came down to visit me this weekend , we hung out as if nothing was wrong, the next day i went to work, came home from work and cought her taking everything she ever brought over to my house, everything all her clothes , her pics of us and the baby everything.. she says that she needs space and to focus on her son and her new job, and that we can be friends for now. how can i go on now , she was such a good girl, but she hurt me should I just give up and realize that its over, or should i give her the space she needs in hope that she will come back to me.. i feel like such a jerk.. please help me someone Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Something here doesn't really add up to me? 2-3 weeks ago she says she's not as happy as she used to be. She then hangs out with you as if nothing is wrong, and the next day you catch her cleaning out her stuff? There could be a couple of reasons here: Either she really doesn't know what she wants from you. She knows it's over but doesn't want to hurt you and doesn't know how to tell you. She's met someone else? It's hard to be sure really. Unless you have the opportunity to talk to her again and find out more, then you have to accept what she's said. It's up to you if you feel you can back off and be 'just a friend' or not. Usually that's a pretty tough thing to do when you have feelings for someone. Giving her the space she's asked for is the most sensible option either way. If you suffocate her it will push her further away. Link to post Share on other sites
Author buddah28 Posted May 17, 2006 Author Share Posted May 17, 2006 See she is not cheating on me thats for sure.. But what I don't understand how can you just a few weeks ago , go on and on about how much she loves me and that i am everything she needs to oh I need to focus and get my feet on the ground and then we can see where things are...um to me that is mixed signals.. I will admit that she does live like I said about 45-50 min north of where I live, now I don't have a car, she has came down a lot from when we started going out till she left me..she also has paid for things when i did not have the money for.. Now she is not the type going out looking for a guy with money.. I promise you she is not like that.. But, she did make a big thing about how I always told her that i was gonna pay her back for this and that, and that i never did, and she got tired of hearing that.. Now let me tell you, I don't make much money but the money I did have whenever we were together, I treated her like a queen, her and her son, Who might I add took in as if it was my own, Now I am not like most guys I took in her son and played with him fed him changed whatever diaper he had to be changed i did it all.. and she has said i did to , that noone she knows handled her child like i did... I am a good man and don't need this s*** being led around by some bitch, I thought she was different from all the rest who in the past have fed me the same bulls*** line oh you are the best you are the only one for me, I'll never leave you.. to the final line we can just be freinds for now, I need space.. well someone please help me.. tell me what is up with this girl who is born in May, so she is a Taurus, and I am an Aquarius.. please if you need more info just ask i will try to make sence of what i am telling you, of course i have left out a lot of stuff like in the begining, we had sex like 4-5 times a day, everywhere pool, balcony, car, u name it, well this only lasted for a few month's , slowly but surely she would start to ease off the sex, When she was in the mood look out I would know it,,Whenever I was in the mood and would try things like I always did..things that in a min she would be ready to go, she would push me away and make some excuse up.. why is that?? so all help is welcome and I thank you for it,, Just trying to hang on , hoping I can win her back by giving her space, please tell me what I should do?.. ty Link to post Share on other sites
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