movinon05 Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 LOL!! Close enough!!! But I think its walks like a duck!! LOLOLOL Oh gosh, I need a beer. I am so outof here soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 17, 2006 Author Share Posted May 17, 2006 How about if it looks like a snake and crawls like a snake.... I like the whole snake analogy myself. So appropriate.... But what an idiot. He has been salivating over going out with me for months and now this crap? I finally give him a chance and....poof...psycho girl shows up in my quiet little life. She can have him. I didn't want him anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 How about if it looks like a snake and crawls like a snake.... I like the whole snake analogy myself. So appropriate.... But what an idiot. He has been salivating over going out with me for months and now this crap? I finally give him a chance and....poof...psycho girl shows up in my quiet little life. She can have him. I didn't want him anyway. In this case, someone elses trash is definitely trash. There's no treasure in him at all!! Love the snake analogy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 17, 2006 Author Share Posted May 17, 2006 Enough about me and my critters.... What's new with you guys? Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Enough about me and my critters.... What's new with you guys? I'm breathing. I hurt still at times. Some days I feel stronger than others. Unfortunately, I don't have the option of total NC. I think he was trying to find out where I'll be going away to. I'm not telling him anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 17, 2006 Author Share Posted May 17, 2006 Where are going? I forget....Sorry, I am a silly blonde. I feel so bad that you have to see your xMM everyday. What a cross to bear. My heart goes out to you, but you are so strong Zara. Keep reminding yourself that you deserved better and you deserved more. And he was a fool to let you go. He made his bed...now he must lie in it. And he will have NONE of you. I wish him luck forgetting you. You are quite unforgettable! Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Where are going? I forget....Sorry, I am a silly blonde. I feel so bad that you have to see your xMM everyday. What a cross to bear. My heart goes out to you, but you are so strong Zara. Keep reminding yourself that you deserved better and you deserved more. And he was a fool to let you go. He made his bed...now he must lie in it. And he will have NONE of you. I wish him luck forgetting you. You are quite unforgettable! Thank you! I'll email you details about my upcoming ventures. I don't want to reveal my identity I know that physically we experienced with each other very rare chemistry. So if anything, I hope he'll never forget the chemistry. I know that I also treated very well, so I hope he'll not forget that either. I hope he will never forget the promises I made to him and regret that he gave up someone who was willing to fulfill each one of those promises had he made an effort to stick around. He called me clingy at the end, but told me in the beginning that he loved how affectionate I was. I hope that he'll miss being held the whole night through and I hope that his wife is one cold fish. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 17, 2006 Author Share Posted May 17, 2006 Like I said...you are quite unforgettable. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Like I said...you are quite unforgettable. Thanks! So are you and I'm sure your xMM will spend the rest of his life wondering about what could have been. I wish my xMM a long life and a long memory. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 17, 2006 Author Share Posted May 17, 2006 And a bedful of spiders too! Right Zara? Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Thanks! So are you and I'm sure your xMM will spend the rest of his life wondering about what could have been. I wish my xMM a long life and a long memory. That's exactly what I wish for mine!! And I'm ever so grateful I don't have to see him like you do. I don't know that I could take that! Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 *Crack* *Fizz* Slurp "Ahhhh" Yes, I am home finally!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 17, 2006 Author Share Posted May 17, 2006 There is a special place for Zara and those xOW who must work with their xMM after the affair is over. It takes a special type of strength to endure that type of contact. My hats off to all of you who endure this and still find the strength to stay away. And not just stay away, but go on with your lives victoriously. You have my utter respect, ladies. WA Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 There is a special place for Zara and those xOW who must work with their xMM after the affair is over. It takes a special type of strength to endure that type of contact. My hats off to all of you who endure this and still find the strength to stay away. And not just stay away, but go on with your lives victoriously. You have my utter respect, ladies. WA I'll second that! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 17, 2006 Author Share Posted May 17, 2006 Okay Movinon... Now that you are home...spill it. What's new with you? Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Okay Movinon... Now that you are home...spill it. What's new with you? I'm just trying to prepare for the end of another relationship is all. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 There is a special place for Zara and those xOW who must work with their xMM after the affair is over. It takes a special type of strength to endure that type of contact. My hats off to all of you who endure this and still find the strength to stay away. And not just stay away, but go on with your lives victoriously. You have my utter respect, ladies. WA I don't think I have much left in me each day. Its truly very hard to see someone you once loved and lived with each day. Its like seeing a ghost. Sometimes, I just want to reach out and touch him because I'm not sure if its real. Sometimes, I wonder if I dreamt this whole thing up and hallucinated the whole thing. Then he'll send me a note, start an on line conversation which is work related and then turn it on a personal note to remind me, yes, it was real. I didn't imagine it. I'm not insane even though I don't think I have anymore than but a shred of sanity left. There are days when my head feels like it will explode. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 I'm just trying to prepare for the end of another relationship is all. I thought things were getting a bit better? what's going on? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Walking away Posted May 17, 2006 Author Share Posted May 17, 2006 I don't think I have much left in me each day. Its truly very hard to see someone you once loved and lived with each day. Its like seeing a ghost. Sometimes, I just want to reach out and touch him because I'm not sure if its real. Sometimes, I wonder if I dreamt this whole thing up and hallucinated the whole thing. Then he'll send me a note, start an on line conversation which is work related and then turn it on a personal note to remind me, yes, it was real. I didn't imagine it. I'm not insane even though I don't think I have anymore than but a shred of sanity left. There are days when my head feels like it will explode. I will say it again.... You have my utter respect. You are a better woman than I. I don't know how I would hold up. You, and women like you, who endure this special pain, are a tower of strength. A heavy cross you must bear. I am sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 I thought things were getting a bit better? what's going on? I guess I'm just tired of being "a fun girlfriend". It was bothering me even more this weekend. The man can't look me in the eyes when he says I love you. Its more like an off handed comment. And its usually only said in IMs. He is acting more invested in the R, but only on a comfort level. Great sex can only get you so far. I want a kiss with passion and emotion, not just lust. I want to FEEL something for this man other than just a sexual attraction. If he can't tell me he's feeling more, I just feel I need to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 I will say it again.... You have my utter respect. You are a better woman than I. I don't know how I would hold up. You, and women like you, who endure this special pain, are a tower of strength. A heavy cross you must bear. I am sorry. Thanks WA. I definitely don't think I am better than anyone... not even my xMM's W. I think that they may not be the best suited, but he's made his choice to stay. I know I've had to get through worse before. As such, I know I will eventually get through this or get around it, whichever it may be. I have not felt like myself for a long time and its really bothering me that I'm not back to my old self yet. Do you think that I'll always feel a little sad over this person? I don't think he deserves that I feel sad over him, but I feel it nonetheless.. I wish I have the stregth of OzGirl. Maybe I too need to remove myself from this work place. He asked me last week if I were to decline an extension if it would be because of him. I didn't respond to it. I just left the office, leaving him hanging. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Do you think that I'll always feel a little sad over this person? I don't think he deserves that I feel sad over him, but I feel it nonetheless.. Unfortunately, you probably will. But its not like you can't get over it. With time, it becomes a distant memory. Its just harder for you having to see him all the time. If its possible and for your own sanity, if you can do it, then I'd go work someplace else. Having him there all the time is always going to be a thorn in your side. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 I guess I'm just tired of being "a fun girlfriend". It was bothering me even more this weekend. The man can't look me in the eyes when he says I love you. Its more like an off handed comment. And its usually only said in IMs. Ooooh.... I hate that!!!! I left my H because of that. Now he's much better, but there are times when he has trouble telling me his feelings because he's so repressed. Unfortunately, most men aren't wired to express to women their feelings. Men who are capable of doing so (like our xMMs), a lot of them, just turn out to be lying SOBs (yep... again our xMMs). Why is that? Why can't they be just one perfect package? He is acting more invested in the R, but only on a comfort level. Great sex can only get you so far. I want a kiss with passion and emotion, not just lust. I want to FEEL something for this man other than just a sexual attraction. If he can't tell me he's feeling more, I just feel I need to move on. I know what you mean... great sex will get you so far. The feeling of this man being able to commit in his heart to you will eventually become a huge EN down the road. My xMM was able to give that commitment to me right of the bat, but soon after it faltered and I felt it. I know that if I clawed on, all I'd do is make a bad situation worse. If you don't feel that he can give it to you, likely he won't. You can't demand it either. It just suck all around. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Yeah, well it wasn't just the MM, although that was the best by far. My exH was able to look me in the eye. Some guys I dated who fell for me immediately were also able to do it. I think its just the way this guy is. He's all for having fun. I'm starting to crave that emotional intimacy and getting nothing. I don't expect him to just pull it out of a hat because I talk to him. We were able to talk about this before, but now we're on a different level in our R. And I don't want to assume how he's feeling. So I'm just going to put it out there and see where the chips fall. If he doesn't feel it, so be it. I don't even necessarily feel it either. I think we have just hit a plateau, but I'll find out this weekend. I can't go on like this forever. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Yeah, well it wasn't just the MM, although that was the best by far. My exH was able to look me in the eye. Some guys I dated who fell for me immediately were also able to do it. I think its just the way this guy is. He's all for having fun. I'm starting to crave that emotional intimacy and getting nothing. I don't expect him to just pull it out of a hat because I talk to him. We were able to talk about this before, but now we're on a different level in our R. And I don't want to assume how he's feeling. So I'm just going to put it out there and see where the chips fall. If he doesn't feel it, so be it. I don't even necessarily feel it either. I think we have just hit a plateau, but I'll find out this weekend. I can't go on like this forever. I think that we are dangerous women because we know what we want and have an idea of how to get it. If this one doesn't work, MO, then just scream, "NEXT!!" like the soup nazi. You and WA can start a new club called the men nazi! Link to post Share on other sites
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