Guest Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 my husband wants to go. i've always been clear about this. what should i do...WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT HIM NOT TO TELL ME????? Link to post Share on other sites
MadDog Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 What do you mean by you've been clear about this? I'd say if you trust him and you have a good relationship, he'll tell you everything because he'll have nothing to hide. If you have the type of relationship where he does something you don't approve of and you bitch him out, he won't tell you very much at all. Link to post Share on other sites
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 my husband wants to go. i've always been clear about this. what should i do...WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT HIM NOT TO TELL ME????? Well hmmm.."what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" nah I'm kidding I guess just make sure that he gets tested for any STD's when he comes back for your sake lol....sorry that wasn't helpful either. But seriously, do you trust him? If so you shouldn't have a problem, that goes for any kind of bachelor party, not just one in Vegas just because you think Vegas is where all the cheating happens. But it is the city that never sleeps so he probably won't sleep with anyone if that's what you're worried about sorry that was uncalled for too You should go along for the ride. Vegas is hella fun. The clubs are crazy fun, I got into Pure Nightclub for Fergie's B-day (black eyed peas) & when Paris Hilton was there and it was a blast! The Hard Rock Cafe's Body English club was fun too! I'm going back in August Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 I know how the original poster feels. Unfortunately, all of society today tells men it's ok for them to cheat. You have to decide if you can live with him cheating. He may not put his penis in someone else's vagina (remember, as long as they don't do that, or if they do it and give someone money for it, many men don't think it's cheating) but Vegas doesn't have the reputation it has for nothing. Plus there are tons of "party girls" in Vegas who think it's super fun to get a guy to cheat on his wife with them. Link to post Share on other sites
barfool Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 I think you need to go over with him what you are not comfortable with him doing but be as nice about it as possible. Don't give him the impression that your head will start rotating on your shoulders at any second. After he gets there it is all a matter of trust. You can do nothing about it and your worrying will only hurt you and your relationship. You just need to realize that at that point it is out of your hands and you must trust the man you love. If you can't trust him not to knowingly hurt you then you shouldn't be marrying him anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 It's simple... If he loves you and respects you and you are uncomfortable about it, he just won't go. IF you trust him enough that he won't do anything questionable, then let him go. You know he would be uncomfortable if you were going to vegas to watch a bunch of naked guys dance around. It's all about respect. Thats JMO Link to post Share on other sites
CalHound Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 I wish I could with him. Damn, those Vegas girls are tasty. Link to post Share on other sites
MadDog Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 It's simple... If he loves you and respects you and you are uncomfortable about it' date=' he just won't go. IF you trust him enough that he won't do anything questionable, then let him go. You know he would be uncomfortable if you were going to vegas to watch a bunch of naked guys dance around. It's all about respect. Thats JMO[/quote'] Gotta disagree with you here. Just because she has reservations about it, he can't be expected to just ditch his friend's bachelor party. His friend's getting married here. It's not as if he's just going to a strip club for the hell of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 It's simple... If he loves you and respects you and you are uncomfortable about it' date=' he just won't go. IF you trust him enough that he won't do anything questionable, then let him go. You know he would be uncomfortable if you were going to vegas to watch a bunch of naked guys dance around. It's all about respect. Thats JMO[/quote'] thank you! my first husband did that to me and told me he would only watch...i trusted him. i later found out he cheated on me with one of the girls. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 Gotta disagree with you here. Just because she has reservations about it, he can't be expected to just ditch his friend's bachelor party. His friend's getting married here. It's not as if he's just going to a strip club for the hell of it. Bachelor parties are a huge deal for guys. Nasty stuff does go on, but it really depends on the guys. Not all of them use a bachelor party as an excuse to have sex. Many do. Not all. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 Gotta disagree with you here. Just because she has reservations about it, he can't be expected to just ditch his friend's bachelor party. His friend's getting married here. It's not as if he's just going to a strip club for the hell of it. A relationship is give and take. If my man was going to a place where there were naked or half naked women dancing around for his pleasure, and I was uncomfortable with that, then he should be understanding. Same vise versa. My GOD!! It isn't like he will just die if he doesn't get to go to see naked women!! Some women don't have a problem with it, I would'nt because I trust my SO. If a situation involves other women or men, then it's an "iffy" situation. I can't imaging telling my SO "Get over it, I'm sorry the fact that me being around a bunch of skanky naked men is uncomfortable for you, but my friend is getting married and I have to do this or else" If you really love someone, and you know something makes them uncomfortable, then why would you want them to feel that way? It would be different if he was just going to stay a few nights w/his friend before he gets married, I did this w/several of my girlfriends and there was no naked men or women in sight (except for us occasionally ;-) P.S. I just reread the OP and she didn't specifically say she knew what they would be doing. Chances are there will be women there. If not, then forget all I said above Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 19, 2006 Share Posted May 19, 2006 A relationship is give and take. If my man was going to a place where there were naked or half naked women dancing around for his pleasure, and I was uncomfortable with that, then he should be understanding. Same vise versa. My GOD!! It isn't like he will just die if he doesn't get to go to see naked women!! Some women don't have a problem with it, I would'nt because I trust my SO. If a situation involves other women or men, then it's an "iffy" situation. I can't imaging telling my SO "Get over it, I'm sorry the fact that me being around a bunch of skanky naked men is uncomfortable for you, but my friend is getting married and I have to do this or else" If you really love someone, and you know something makes them uncomfortable, then why would you want them to feel that way? It would be different if he was just going to stay a few nights w/his friend before he gets married, I did this w/several of my girlfriends and there was no naked men or women in sight (except for us occasionally ;-) P.S. I just reread the OP and she didn't specifically say she knew what they would be doing. Chances are there will be women there. If not, then forget all I said above i know they are planning lap dances...the guy's fiance told him 'i dont care what you do in vegas as long as you have a condom on.' i dont care what he does but i do care what my husband does. Link to post Share on other sites
ridingthebulls Posted May 19, 2006 Share Posted May 19, 2006 sounds liek this guys fiance is just as much of a whore as he is. "i dont care what you do as long as a condom is on" sounds like a loving and healthy relationship NNOT Link to post Share on other sites
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