Friendship or no contact?

[Scott J.]

After reading a lot these posts, I feel like my situation is pretty tame compared to most. I feel for everyone here. But I just wondering if anyone might be in a similar situation as me. Or might have a little friendly advice. I've been married and divorced, been in a lot relationships in my 35 years, some good, some bad. All of it has helped me grow and be better at relationships and made me realize what I'm looking for in a woman.

Recently, I thought I found her. As soon as I saw her, I knew something was different. And after getting to know her and establishing this amazing connection, that feeling only grew stronger. And so, I went with my heart, not realizing how hurt she had been by her last two-year relationship, which ended about seven months ago. I probably came on too strong, and while it appeared we were on the same page, we had problems because she kept pulling back, and I kept getting disappointed. Now, we've decided we can't have a relationship right now because she wants something "easy" at the moment. I wish I could've played it cool and made it breezier, but I guess my feelings were too strong. I express myself a lot more than I used to, maybe too much. She hasn't closed the door to something in the future, but she says she's not sure what she wants. With me, she wants to be good friends, because I "get" things other people don't. And she's the type that needs things to grow slowly. But I know it would be hard to be around her if I know she's seeing someone else. And just in general, it might be difficult for me. So friendship in order to keep that connection going or no contact at all? I'm focusing on myself and not completely devastated or anything. I just feel like this one is special and I want to make the right moves with her. Any thoughts?