xxbaddgurl83xx Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 This morning I got upset with my boyfriend because he made a comment about one of my friends, who happens to be thin and attractive. It made me really angry and I ended up lashing out at him and telling him that he is ashamed of me because I'm not thin and I know that he really wants a skinny girl because that is all he use to date before me. He swears I'm crazy and he always tells me that I'm not fat and I'm beautiful. I'm 5'6" and 155 pounds. I use to weigh almost 200 pounds before I met my boyfriend and I think a lot of my insecurity comes from that because I'm still in that "fat girl" mind frame. I hate feeling like this. Everyone tells me that I'm look great and I distribute my weight really good but when I see my boyfriend looking at girls who are thinner than I am it makes me feel like he would like for me to be thinner myself. Like I asked him this morning, how come guys are so quick to say that some skinny girl is hot yet they never admit if some girl with meat on her bones is hot? Do guys really find the skinny girls to be more attractive than the girls who have curves? Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 I do like some "skinny" women who are meat on their bones. I'm not looking for skin on bones or someone who starved themselves. 155 & 5'6" is a little on the light weight but you know; one's metabolism slows as they age so you'll be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 I hear from guys all the time who like curves. If your bf makes you feel bad for not bein skinny, drop him, that's cruel. But if it's in your head, work on your self-confidence. I've seen plenty of girls with "meat" exude far more sexuality than the stick figures. Link to post Share on other sites
TMonkey Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 Yes. Yes they do. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 155 & 5'6" is a little on the light weight but you know; one's metabolism slows as they age so you'll be fine. This is why size and weight is so subjective. Some guys might say that's on the heavy side, while others will think it's on the thin side. Personally, I think it's more important to be comfortable with yourself, no matter what size you are. And you should never tolerate being with someone who doesn't find you attractive just the way you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 xxbaddgurl83xx, Don't allow someone (guy) to brainwash you into thinking that you're not beautiful and not 'thin enough'. If your bf doesn't accept you as YOU ARE, then perhaps you should re-evaluate the relationship. It's in your best interest that you find a man who truely appreciates your small and large characteristics. Overall, guys dig females that are in great shape. Less flab is fab. Link to post Share on other sites
cynicalnlove Posted May 19, 2006 Share Posted May 19, 2006 YES, men do like girls that are a trophy. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted May 19, 2006 Share Posted May 19, 2006 YES, men do like girls that are a trophy. What about real women...with "flaws"...wiggles and jiggles who you can actually grow old with and have a relationship with? Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted May 19, 2006 Share Posted May 19, 2006 Like I asked him this morning, how come guys are so quick to say that some skinny girl is hot yet they never admit if some girl with meat on her bones is hot? Do guys really find the skinny girls to be more attractive than the girls who have curves? Some do, some don't to both of your questions. What you percieve is what you focus upon. Know that feeling fat after losing weight is not unusual, sometimes it never goes away. You just have to remind yourself that you're 5'6" and 155 lbs and that is not fat according to many other peoples standards. Link to post Share on other sites
cynicalnlove Posted May 19, 2006 Share Posted May 19, 2006 What about real women...with "flaws"...wiggles and jiggles who you can actually grow old with and have a relationship with? thats love. when love gets into play; all of those flaws don't matter. But lets admit the reality. Men are more driven towards the outer beauty as women are attracted to hansome men. It's all part of the humane superficiality. It doesn't mean that they will automatically go for what looks good as oppose to what feels good. but thats what they 'like to see. Link to post Share on other sites
lovelorcet Posted May 19, 2006 Share Posted May 19, 2006 I think that of course taste plays a major role but I also think that you can get used to different things. I grew up in the states and for me the girls there were normal. In my mid 20’s I moves to Germany and noticed how much skinnier all the girls here are. At first I thought it was a little strange but then I got used to it. The last time I went back to the states I was shocked at how many overweight people there are. I actually really hate really skinny girls and do not find it appealing at all. But a girl with curves should be within a healthy weight. By healthy I mean calculate your BMI (body mass index) and that should give you a good idea. Don’t get me wrong though, I would never turn down a girl just because she was a little heavy especially if she had a personality that inspired me. Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 hey are you my ex? hmm Men like revealing sexy clothing. Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 quote ---This morning I got upset with my boyfriend because he made a comment about one of my friends, who happens to be thin and attractive. It made me really angry and I ended up lashing out at him and telling him that he is ashamed of me because I'm not thin and I know that he really wants a skinny girl because that is all he use to date before me -----end quote Guess what honey guys dont like women who do this... I should know I have dumped many.. actually they are really hard to dump.. they kick up a fuss hold onto your things etc.. Try the skimpy clothing thing that usually works wonders Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 What about the guys? What are they doing to be attractive? Link to post Share on other sites
Ruff Ryder Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 Have a look at my pic it will tell you Guys are into confident girls low bagage and low milage. Attraction with looks shouldnt last longer than a few weeks. Just be you cause that is all you have to be attractive with Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 yes, skinnier is better. don't buy into that s*** about men liking women with curves. unless they're ethnic, ethnic guys like that stuff Link to post Share on other sites
mr.gerbick Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 Society has brainwashed men to like skinny, perfect girls, just like whitening teeth is addiction now in the U.S. It's actually quite pathetic, but it does affect the majority of people, which is sad. No one likes natural anymore, the majority of people want and want to be plastic. I myself as a guy, like curvy, not obese, sorry if I offend anyone, this is just my personal prefernce and I am being honest. Look at Marilyn Monroe, she was such a sex symbol back then, and now she would be considered chubby. But the unfortunate fact of the matter is that one has to be attracted to their partner, and the majority of people are superficial. So yes, I would say the majority of people do like skinny girls, but there a some men out there who do prefer curvy or overweight women. It just depends on what you are looking for. Are women who are asking this question being superficial about the guys they are looking for? Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 yes, skinnier is better. don't buy into that s*** about men liking women with curves. unless they're ethnic, ethnic guys like that stuff i know for a fact that's crap. Link to post Share on other sites
XinTexas Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 I don't like skinny men, short men, bald men, arrogant men, etc.... I like a guy 6 ft. or taller built like a linebacker. Gotta have muscular arms and most of all - no bald spots or bad teeth/breath. No small penis - if he's boring in bed he's outta there! I don't recommend guys putting "No Fat Chicks" bumper stickers on their cars/trucks unless you want flat tires. By the way I'm 5'8, 135 so I'm just saying all this to prove a point that skinny girls can be just as shallow. Link to post Share on other sites
honeybunch2k5 Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 yes, skinnier is better. don't buy into that s*** about men liking women with curves. unless they're ethnic, ethnic guys like that stuff I don't think all guys like Kate Moss look-a-likes (as far as body goes). I've dated white guys, but none of them has ever complained that my then 24 inch thighs were too big... Link to post Share on other sites
Author xxbaddgurl83xx Posted May 22, 2006 Author Share Posted May 22, 2006 I know my boyfriend loves me the way that I am, we've been together for 3 years! In fact I was about 20 pounds heavier when I met him! So I'm sure weight isn't a object in our relationship but when I see him check out other girls I get insecure. I know we all do it, hell I'll even check out hot guys but when he does it I go crazy. I just think that maybe if I looked like them than he wouldn't have to look at these other girls and I would be his main focus. To make matters even worse I happened to run into his ex girlfriend a few weeks ago while I was out at a club and since then I feel 10x more insecure cause she is so skinny and perfect. I know this is all in my head but I just think that i need to get down to about 120 pounds for him to find me more desirable! I hate feeling like this! Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 I don't dig on the skin-and-bones thing. Personally, I think Paris Hilton looks like a scrawny cokehead. Curves in all the right places, on the other hand... hot DAY-um. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 To make matters even worse I happened to run into his ex girlfriend a few weeks ago while I was out at a club and since then I feel 10x more insecure cause she is so skinny and perfect. Huh? Wait a minute. She's the ex girlfriend, and you think she's the one who's perfect? Who is your man with? You, that's who. Not her. And what is so damn "perfect" about being skinny? Link to post Share on other sites
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