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I don't want sleep on a blood stain from another woman's vagina!

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The mattress that we sleep on has blood stains on both sides (so I can't turn it on the other side) from some woman's period. Hubby says he doesn't remember whose it is, but it's a few years old. :sick: :sick: :sick:

 

I hate to sleep on it and I hate to use the towels that other women have used so I will buy new ones as soon as I can. He says I am being ridiculous, because in hotels they also just change the sheets and wash the towels, but I am grossed out by the fact that I have to sleep on blood that leaked from someone else's vagina while he probably had sex with her (it's right in the middle). :sick:

 

So I'd like to know how other women feel about this. He says it's a $1000 mattress, but I want it out of the bed where I sleep. :mad:

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Don't blame you, while you are at it, I would change the sheets.

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EWWWW. I don't blame you. He can't spring for a new mattress. I know I wouldn't sleep on that.

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So pay for the new mattress yourself since you're the one who wants it.
We're married and the finances are mutual, there is no such thing like pay "yourself" - it's not about the money, it's about his non-understanding how I feel about it. E.g. he didn't mind paying $1,000 for my GPS device, because he thought I needed it being that I am new to the area. But he thinks I'm being immature for having these feelings.

 

I am tired on stumbling on exes' pictures, emails, phone calls, and even blood stains!!! :mad: :mad: :mad:

 

But at the same time he doesn't want me to communicate with my ex-boyfriend or meet an online friend from NYC that has been only a friend (no flirting or anything) for over 1.5 years. So I don't because I don't want to hurt him.

 

I'd like to see him sleep on my exes' cumm. He says he wouldn't care. Yeah, I believe that... :rolleyes:

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We're married and the finances are mutual, there is no such thing like pay "yourself" - it's not about the money, it's about his non-understanding how I feel about it. E.g. he didn't mind paying $1,000 for my GPS device, because he thought I needed it being that I am new to the area. But he thinks I'm being immature for having these feelings.

 

I am tired on stumbling on exes' pictures, emails, phone calls, and even blood stains!!! :mad: :mad: :mad:

 

But at the same time he doesn't want me to communicate with my ex-boyfriend or meet an online friend from NYC that has been only a friend (no flirting or anything) for over 1.5 years. So I don't because I don't want to hurt him.

 

No, really, you're right and I don't see how HE can't see that. However,he probably seriously isn't bothered by it, but a grand isn't a big price to pay for your (or his) peace of mind. What's his hold up?

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Did he ever hear of a mattress pad ?

 

40.00 and it would've saved the mattress..

 

RP.. Go out and order a new mattress and have it delivered.. they will remove the old mattress if you ask them to when they deliver the new one..

 

NO PERSON should HAVE TO sleep in another persons blood..

 

This is basic common sense and he is just being a jerk because it doesn't bother him

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Ick! I wouldn't either!!! That's horrible.

 

If you can't get a new mattress right now, use rubbing alcohol to get rid of the blood stains and then a good mattress pad.

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Actually, hydrogen peroxide gets blood out. It's pretty cool. It goes all fizzy and then you just rinse it off.

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Ick! I wouldn't either!!! That's horrible.

 

If you can't get a new mattress right now, use rubbing alcohol to get rid of the blood stains and then a good mattress pad.

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Well he says we are NOT buying a new mattress and I have issues and need a professional cuz I am crazy. :(

 

Today he even put his nose right ON that blood stain while laughing at me. :sick:

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Just spray it down with a little vagina blood remover. What's the big deal?

 

Yeah, Windex cures everything

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Well he says we are NOT buying a new mattress and I have issues and need a professional cuz I am crazy. :(

 

Today he even put his nose right ON that blood stain while laughing at me. :sick:

 

What the hell is wrong with this guy?

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Did he ever hear of a mattress pad ?

 

40.00 and it would've saved the mattress..

 

RP.. Go out and order a new mattress and have it delivered.. they will remove the old mattress if you ask them to when they deliver the new one..

 

NO PERSON should HAVE TO sleep in another persons blood..

 

This is basic common sense and he is just being a jerk because it doesn't bother him

 

I agree.

 

And RP, it's okay to purchase things that you want. Even if you two share 'money' it's still OK to shop.

 

I tell ya, have your own money put aside. For YOU. There's nothing wrong with that either. Do you think that everytime your husband spends money he thinks "hmmm, is my wife going to be OK with this?" Probably not.

 

Just spray it down with a little vagina blood remover. What's the big deal?

 

OK J, you must not really get it. Reverse the situation, you're just married to a wonderful woman...Except...She has a mattress and one side is covered in Splooge stains (let's pretend male spunk stains, k) and on the other side, it's just as bad. Except with some permanent s*** stains too. HOW would you feel sleeping on that mattress now? The s*** stains represents the GROSS factor - Kinda like sitting on a toilet and then realizing it's too late, there's PEE on the seat...Yeah, that gross feeling...Apply that to the mattress and then add in your personal feelings of knowing that youre f***ing your wife on a mattress where you know she's slept with many other men...Hmmm...

 

Time for a new bed, not just the mattress. Why not splurge? He can afford it RP.

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What the hell is wrong with this guy?
Well he thinks you are all wrong and he is right. And of course, I am crazy.

 

I wish I could get my ex-BF's undies with some s*** stain on them and make him wear them. :laugh:

 

Lonestar, I refuse to touch that stain. If it were from me or at least if I knew it was from his ex-wife, I'd gladly clean it up. But I truly doubt that she would leave her own matress bloody. It's probably some guest that he had. :sick:

 

I want a new mattress. I am throwing this one in the trash on Monday (trash day) and then we can sleep without this bloody mattress and be happy. :bunny:

 

I tell ya, have your own money put aside. For YOU

I don't have my own money, hun. I have my mom's money in the bank but I am keeping it for her cuz she's gonna need them. It'd be easy if I had my own money. I just got here.

 

But it's not about the money, it's about him being non-understanding and disregarding my feelings. I don't even have anyone to complain to when I feel down except you guys and a good friend that I've never met in person. :(

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I understand...

 

I just hope he isn't "controlling" you like, "yes you can buy this, no you can't buy that because "I" don't want it, so the answer is NO. Sorry RP's hubby if you're reading my words...I just don't understand how you can sit there and refuse to buy a new mattress for your wife. Start fresh, k. I don't understand the real reason "why" you won't get a new mattress, and honestly it pisses me off and makes me feel sad!

 

Here. Reasons to get the mattress.

1) It's affordable, 2)It would make YOUR wife happy, 3) It will be fun to break in a new mattress over and over again together with your wife, 4) She is happy, you'll be happy! 5) DO something nice for your wife. I think you get my drift.

 

Thanks for reading, or thanks RP for reading it to him!

 

Hugs and good luck.

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WWIU and everyone else, thank you so much for your support. I told him that somebody had a message for him in my thread and he said he wasn't interested in reading it. Sorry you wasted your time on writing it.

 

I just told him that if he doesn't care about my feelings then I don't care about his either. I'll just do the things that I wanted to do (that were OK in my book but he didn't think they were so I didn't do them) regardless of whether it will hurt him or not.

 

I wanted to meet up with this friend from NYC (cuz he hasn't taken me to NYC in 3.5 months since I've been here and knows that I've been dreaming about seeing NYC since I was a kid). So finally i told him that I'd go with the kids, he doesn't have to take me, and I'll meet up with this friend I've known for over a year and a half. I also told him that I've never flirted with him or anything like that. He said it was NOT right for me to do it.

 

And even now he said that I was upset about a little thing like this mattress and I want to get back at him with a huge thing, such as meeting up with this friend. So when it's my feelings they are little, but when it's his feelings they are huge! :mad:

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Thanks for reading, or thanks RP for reading it to him!

 

I didn't read it to him. I told him if he cared about my feelings, he'd come here and read MY posts. He doesn't have to read your posts.

 

I also told him that if he only said something like "Honey, I don't want you to feel bad, I am sorry and although I don't see a big deal with this mattress, I promise you - as soon as we can - we'll get rid of that bloody, s***ty mattress."

 

I would've forgotten about the mattress if he only showed that he cared about my feelings. But he puts his headset on when I am nagging too much. I told him that if he just sat down with me, looked me in the eye, and aksed me to talk about problems (like I do), I wouldn't have to nag or go crazy or talk to strangers about our problems.

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It seems like he has some sort of freaky attachment to that bed (and maybe even the blood on it - lol). Maybe lots of memories and good times he can't let go of..

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You shouldn't have to sleep on that. That is disgusting. Very disrspectful if you ask me.

 

Just tell him that no more sex on the bed until he gets a new one.:p

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This isn't about the bed. At all. And I suggest that rather than coming up with some sort of childish comeback, you start looking for a marriage counsellor.

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