I don't want sleep on a blood stain from another woman's vagina!

[CrumblingWalls]

I think that you need to spring for a new mattress! That is kind of gross. I could not imagine sleeping on a mattress with my own blood on it yet alone someone elses.

I also love to hear that your man thinks you are crazy (they are so great on turning things around on us). You are not crazy, you are being very rational and I think he needs to be considerate of your feelings. Besides that is just GROSS!

[whichwayisup]

but what if man asks woman to not wear a watch her ex-b/f gave her a long time ago? what if he ask her to not wear certain dresses that she wore with with ex-hubbie? what if man ask wife to throw out all pictures and videos of her last wedding or ex-b/f?

 

Those don't have period stains on 'em! Or reminants of cum.

[Woggle]

Why not dump some fish grease on it so he has no choice but to get a new one unless he is really nuts.

[a4a]

Those don't have period stains on 'em! Or reminants of cum.

 

 

unless it is one of the dresses in Monicas wardrobe

[whichwayisup]

unless it is one of the dresses in Monicas wardrobe

Excellent point. I forgot about that one.

[alphamale]

I'm the one who saved pictures of my husband's ex. I kept those for his son and they are put away for him. I'd never tear up that kind of stuff.

thats good you're not jealous Mx.P..... in 1994 when i'd only been married 2 months or so I came home one day from work and the wife wasn't around. She had cut up pics of me and my ex-girlfriends and drawn mustaches and other s*** with a permanent black marker on other pics. I loved those pics. She ruined them. f***ing cunt-bitch-slut-whore-tramp!!!

[basscatcher]

She ruined them. f***ing cunt-bitch-slut-whore-tramp!!!

 

WOW---someone still has pent up, unresolved, anger issues with his X.

 

How long as it been dear??? A couple years?

 

Ouch... You have much to deal with yet.

 

You still have your life and digniity intact darling.

 

Ouch...

 

Rarely do I ever see your words so full of emotion..

[Art_Critic]

Rarely do I ever see your words so full of emotion..

 

 

They must've been naked pics

[basscatcher]

They must've been naked pics

 

:lmao:

[alphamale]

:lmao:

Quiet! Both of you

[basscatcher]

Quiet! Both of you

 

((((((((((((((kiss))))))))))))))) :lmao: make me.....!!

[tinktronik]

SHHHHHH !!! Were not supposed to know about that.

[whichwayisup]

thats good you're not jealous Mx.P..... in 1994 when i'd only been married 2 months or so I came home one day from work and the wife wasn't around. She had cut up pics of me and my ex-girlfriends and drawn mustaches and other s*** with a permanent black marker on other pics. I loved those pics. She ruined them. f***ing cunt-bitch-slut-whore-tramp!!!

 

Now she's gone and all you have is cut up photo's and marker on them!

 

That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. WTF gave her the right to invade your personal belongings and DO that. Why not just ask you to put them in a box and put 'em in the closet or something???

[ridingthebulls]

this guy treats you like s***. if he doesnt understand why nasty remnants of blood from another womans cooch is bothering you, then he really is a selfish prick. why the hell does he want to keep it again? never fully explained why he wants the rotten thing so bad

[carmaenforcer]

First off sorry if I'm jumping in and stuff has gotten resolved already, I didn't have a chance at work to read through all this thread but I just had to join in.

 

933KJL the comment about cutting off a swatch off of the old mattress and framing it was hilarious.

 

Ok, now. To me these two statements, written in the same paragraph, seem contradictory.

 

Neah... that's not even the point. Somebody's blood or bed where you had sex doesn't really evoke memories.

 

So there is obviously nothing intimate about it to him, right?

 

but perhaps I can get some friend to give me his shirt and then I could wear it (preferably sweaty) so he can see how intimate this issue is!

 

You are obviously freaking out over (at least in part) the fact that the stains were made during an intimate moment with another woman. Of course seeing this stain will evoke memories, please. Maybe not emotions but definately memories, or else he would be like, "how did that get there?"

 

Don’t get me wrong, I’m on your side on this one. I think you should just buy a new mattress, and have it in place before he knows what happened and deal with his bitching after. It won’t matter anyway but if he needs to bitch tell him, knock yourself out.

If you would have not said anything about the stains but instead complained that your back was hurting having to sleep on an 8 year old mattress then I don’t think you would be having this much of a problem with him.

IMHO, he is obviously trying to prove a point. I don’t blame him, I find myself doing the same thing with my Wife. It’s a power struggle. You allow a woman to step in and systematically start rearranging things not just in your house but in your life, to suit what she wants. Then one day she tries to throw away that old ugly but comfortable lazy-boy chair that you had long before you ever met her and you fight to the death to keep it. With me the last straw, my last stand before I felt completely taken over and stopped being me and became only “her” husband was my motorcycle. She claims that she wants me to get rid of it because it’s dangerous and she doesn’t want to start a family with me if I’m just going to kill myself. I love riding and I feel as if I’ve changed enough already and there are some things that she just needs to deal with. I hate soap operas but I don’t tell her she can’t watch them. I would actually like to teach our child to ride sport of dirt/motocross bikes but that will be another fight with the Wife I’m sure.

 

I'm all about giving the other person a taste of their own medicine, but I don't think you going off and hanging out with a guy "friend" that doesn't have any bad intencions is going to make things better. I'm not saying don't do it, I'm just saying save it for a last resort, because it might be a relationship killer. If I may suggest somehting, accidentaly ruin the mattress once and for all, a small fire may be too extreme, but maybe a spill of something nasty and smelly that also messes up the mattresses integrity. A huge bleech spill. If you still want to do that dirty underware thing, you can alway go out and buy a new pair and dirty them your self and then tell him get rid of the mattress of start licking.

[Mz. Pixie]

thats good you're not jealous Mx.P..... in 1994 when i'd only been married 2 months or so I came home one day from work and the wife wasn't around. She had cut up pics of me and my ex-girlfriends and drawn mustaches and other s*** with a permanent black marker on other pics. I loved those pics. She ruined them. f***ing cunt-bitch-slut-whore-tramp!!!

 

Gosh, that's terrible. Who the Hell did she think she was? If he wanted to frame them or something I'd have a problem with that, but putting them up for his son is respectful IMO.

 

Besides I'm not jealous of her- she definitely did me a favor- because she cheated and left my husband for another man- I get the best thing that's ever happened to me! She's also got three kids under five now, never gets to go anywhere, they live in tiny tin can house and she's put on 65 lbs since she left him!

 

You know, if you marry someone who isn't a virgin there's going to be history. You have to get over that.

 

But, for him to ask her to sleep on someone else's menstrual flow, that's just further than I would go for love.

[RecordProducer]

Thanks everyone for your input.

 

933. the woman in Brazil he NEVER EVER met in person. He didn't fly there to meet her. He only flew for me (6 times) to Europe and no other women.

 

I like your idea about cutting off the pieces that have the stains. It will probably ruin the matress and he will be forced to buy a new one. the framing idea gives me a better idea actually. I will ask his dad's wifehow to remove blood stains from our mattress that are several years old. She will figure out it's not mine as I just got here 3.5 months ago. I'll ask it in the most innocent way and I believe she will give him s*** about not getting rid of that mattress. I'll tell her that it hurts me to sleep on something like that, but he disagrees to purchase a new one.

 

As far as me cleaning the stain - I don't even want to look at it, not to mention touch it!

 

Next time when I have my period, I'll sleep without my underwear on. When he sees all the blood on the mattress from me and ask why, I'll just tell him: "I want your next wife to have a bloody present from me!"

 

Actually I might bleed on our white sofa as well. So what if guests see it? there's nothing shameful in sitting on pussy blood, is it?

 

Or I can bleed on his favorite clothes? Mmmmm, I am getting too many ideas!

[Guest]

I'm a member but can't remember my damned password. Anyway, RP your man is a world-class control freak, obviously. Personally, I would run very fast from this marriage. Cut your losses and get the hell out! Get yourself situated so you do have your own money, therefore the ability to purchase a new bed when needed. Your story makes me ill. I would simply refuse to live like this. Who the hell does this moron think he is, anyway? Just get out! Why do you care so much if he "cares about" your feelings? He is not worth your time. Sometimes we buy cars that are lemons, sometimes we marry someone we shouldn't have-- just get rid of this one, then go out and find a better one. Believe me, I know all about sick men like this, unfortunately. I let an overbearing man dominate me for years-- but you seem smarter than that. Do not let another person control you; you can do so much better.

[RecordProducer]

So there is obviously nothing intimate about it to him, right?

 

Oh, please enough with the memories already! He is negligent, he even wears clothes with stains on! He says "So what?" I say: "Because you don't wear clothes with stans!" He says: "Why not? "

 

And the evoking memories... you're talking as if the matress hangs on the wall in our living room with the stain on it. He never sees that stain actually. Our cleaning lady changes our sheets once a week.

 

He claims he doesn't know whose blood it is. (I bet I could find out with a DNA test! ). He hasn't had a serious relationship since he dumped his ex-wife and he met her 10 years ago. So the only woman he loved in the last ten years is she and he left her. So what memories are you talking about?

 

In any case, I loved the rest of your advice. thank you.

 

Outcast, he doesn't want to hear about marriage counselling and altogeter he thinks that all people hanging on LS (including you) are total losers. Yeah, I know you're all thinking what about his wife? And your comment that it's totally not about the bed is kinda off. It is totally about the fact that somebody's cunt leaked blood probably while having sex and me sleeping on that - never cleaned - stain.

 

I'm cutting it off with BIG ( ) scissors tomorrow. Period.

[kitten chick]

I'm cutting it off with BIG ( ) scissors tomorrow. Period.

Oh that's an excellent solution. I'm sorry that I didn't think of that! I would love to see his face when he finds a gaping hole in his mattress. It's pretty gross that he would want to sleep on a bloody mattress, I don't blame you for being upset.

[933KJL]

Oh that's an excellent solution. I'm sorry that I didn't think of that! I would love to see his face when he finds a gaping hole in his mattress. It's pretty gross that he would want to sleep on a bloody mattress, I don't blame you for being upset.

If I had a gaping hole in a matress, I would probably f*** it! LOL

[JadeStar]

If I had a gaping hole in a matress, I would probably f*** it! LOL

 

 

:lmao:

[Art_Critic]

he doesn't want to hear about marriage counselling and altogeter he thinks that all people hanging on LS (including you) are total losers.

 

Just a side note RP.. you two are just married..

 

I think you both need to get into marriage counseling.. Quick...

 

I don't mean to sound negative but he doesn't seem to care about being married to you.. he seems fairly abusive and down right mean.

 

If you both don't learn to start communicating and respecting each other then I foresee a divorce in the near future..

 

Seriously.. not joking.. as a fly on the wall right now I think this one is easy to predict

[PandorasBox]

Just a side note RP.. you two are just married..

 

I think you both need to get into marriage counseling.. Quick...

 

I don't mean to sound negative but he doesn't seem to care about being married to you.. he seems fairly abusive and down right mean.

 

If you both don't learn to start communicating and respecting each other then I foresee a divorce in the near future..

 

Seriously.. not joking.. as a fly on the wall right now I think this one is easy to predict

 

 

I have to agree with this IMO. I read this post, as I did the one about you feeling alone. He seems kind of controling and thats great he likes to work, but if he stays wrapped up in his work all the time, and when hes home thats all he seems to care about, it could play a role in possibly the down fall in your marraige. I'm not saying that alone will do it, but it could.

 

You all are newlyweds and having these issues now, I can't imagaine how things will be later on, I imagaine he will still posses these controling quailities and still be working all the time while you and your kids continue to feel alone. I do think marraige counselor is the way to go right now,so what if you're newlyweds, it might help to get some of the issues under control now. He if sees no reason to go, he's either in denial or he just doesn't care. Perhaps cancel that online site you have been on to find friends. He needs to put his lap top up for awhile or at least cut back, and focus more on the marraige. I'm sure his lap top is part of his job, but he needs to figure out whats more important right now. Both of you might want to put the internet aside for awhile and focus on whats going on. JMO. Keep us posted.

[Lonestar]

Blood stain aside, no one has mentioned that a good mattress costs upwards of a $1000. Could this be a money issue for him and he's focusing on her craziness to keep the accusations of being a cheap f*** off him?

 

Although thinking back to RP's post about spending $1000 on groceries every time she goes to the store makes me think money isn't the case....

 

RP, whenever you get your period, don't flush your tampons. Just let them sit in the toilet until he gets grossed out Get a little blood on the toliet seat, let it dry out and leave it there, so he has to sit on it when he takes a crap.