I don't want sleep on a blood stain from another woman's vagina!

[RecordProducer]

This thread is hilarious.

I am glad you're amused!

 

I recall that you, Record Producer, are a parent. What the hell sort of role models are you and your control freak husband setting here?

That's a good point. Obviously not good a model.

 

 

 

What have YOU contributed to this current crisis? Or do you not have the *balls* to come on here and SAY IT?!

I stated ALL the problems: jealousy, anger issues, destroying his LT... Not enough to call me imperfect?

[SmoochieFace]

That's a good point. Obviously not good a model.

 

So why don't you DO something about it then? Where's the effort from BOTH of you?

 

 

And, frankly, I don't give a damn that she isn't *appreciated* by many LSers. I appreciate her and her insight and that's all that matters to me. Your opinion, as well as anyone else's opinion, of her doesn't mean jack s*** to me. I don't *follow the crowd* here.

[Outcast]

You married a man and later found out he was gay!!! Or he found out he was gay... I call that knowing someone really well before marrying him!

 

Honey, HE didn't realize he was gay until years after we married. Trust me, I kept him 'busy' enough that he didn't even notice for many years. It was only when he fell hard for a GUY we knew that it finally twigged to him. He was as surprised as anybody else. We had a gay friend who was sure he was but my spouse denied it to himself for a long time. Other than that, we knew each other extremely well.

 

However, I have made the mistake of almost getting into relationships without knowing someone very well and that's why I know how stupid a thing it is to do.

[RecordProducer]

So why don't you DO something about it then? Where's the effort from BOTH of you?

We are and will be working on it. It's worth it, isn't it?

 

I am not surprised. Intelligence and honesty are not appreciated in general these days. Seems that people are more fond of sugar-coated lies instead of the hard truth.

I don't think that many people on this anonymous forum lie, especially not when advising someone. Sugar-coating is called "diplomacy" and "kindness" and doesn't interfere with giving good advice.

 

When someone is always against someone no matter what they say or do - you know it's personal and it's a matter of hatred, not honesty. She will always pique on me no matter what.

 

Some people just enjoy to see others' misery and hate to see when people are happy. When I got married, the only person who was involved in the story before and did NOT say "Congratulations!" was Outcast. When I am happy (which is 99.9% of the time) she has no comments; she didn't say "I am glad everything turned out well and he is a great husband and father." But whenever she sees something non-pleasurable happening in my life, she comes and eats my liver attempting to prove how wrong I am.

 

 

Honestly, I don't think you're like her. You argue with people, but don't give hurtful "advice" on purpose. I truly believe that you're glad that hubby and I resolved the problem. But she isn't.

[SmoochieFace]

When someone is always against someone no matter what they say or do - you know it's personal and it's a matter of hatred, not honesty. She will always pique on me no matter what.

 

Some people just enjoy to see others' misery and hate to see when people are happy. When I got married, the only person who was involved in the story before and did NOT say "Congratulations!" was Outcast. When I am happy (which is 99.9% of the time) she has no commnets. But whenever she sees something unpleasurable happening in my life, she comes and eats my liver attempting to prove how wrong I am.

 

We've had many fights on LS (she and you are basically the only people that I - and many other LS-ers - don't get along with) and she still has the nerve to come here and tell me that my life is a mess and I shoul've listened to her when she told me that my husband and I shouldn't get married.

 

Outcast is honest and to the point - and that is why I respect her. You may not like what she says but she says it from the standpoint of common sense and wisdom.

[Outcast]

and did NOT say "Congratulations!" was Outcast

 

That's because I thought it was a bad idea and still do. I think your current issues seem to be resolved for the moment but that the underlying problems will remain and bedevil the relationship. So of course I didn't congratulate you - that would have been insincere. I've seen (and been victim of) you when you're not pretending to be sweet and it's not pretty - I'd not want anyone to have to endure that and am sorry, frankly, for the poor bugger who signed on to it.

 

As Craig pointed out, destroying personal property is abuse. If you were male and your spouse female, nobody would be patting you on the head and sympathizing. They'd be advising your poor spouse to leave before worse occurs.

 

Unfortunately, people assume that attractiveness = good nature and therefore think you're all sweetness and light no matter how badly you behave.

 

I do not have a personal vendetta against you but you have posted some utter BS about mental ailments which I disputed and you have also been nasty to people, which I challenged. I also suggested that this relationship of yours might be unwise, which of course you disagreed with because to disagree with you is unacceptable and therefore you attacked me viciously. I take issue with people who launch personal attacks with the amount of venom you have, yes. However, I still tell you the truth as I see it in the probably futile hope that you'll someday see the light about your role in your troubles.

[carmaenforcer]

RP I didn't get a chance to congratulate you either. Marriage is not like the fairy tales we here as kids. A marriage gets its strength from overcoming these types of pit fall and obstacles. Getting through them and learning from them. Try not to repeat the same mistakes but if they come up again maybe you’ll get through it that much faster, right.

Just think of the make up sex on the "new" mattress.

[PandorasBox]

Thats good your h wants to start from scratch then. So I'm assuming that means you all can go mattress looking together? Or has he not mentioned that at all in hopes you wont bring it up again?

[RecordProducer]

RP I didn't get a chance to congratulate you either. Marriage is not like the fairy tales we here as kids. A marriage gets its strength from overcoming these types of pit fall and obstacles. Getting through them and learning from them. Try not to repeat the same mistakes but if they come up again maybe you’ll get through it that much faster, right.

Just think of the make up sex on the "new" mattress.

Thanks for the good advice, Carma, but we didn't buy a new mattress. I'll buy a mattress pad. My FIL's wife told me that she also came on a bloody mattress and put covers on it. It didn't bother her at all. So for now I'll let it rest. I'll buy a new mattress later though.

 

You didn't congratulate me, but Outcast was posting in my thread where hubby got cold feet regularly. She was all over us. Hubby posted there too and she replied to his posts too.

[SmoochieFace]

Plus I love being married to my husband and have NEVER regretted marrying him.

 

You have to admit that there are some big issues in your marriage and it is far from ideal. Lots of control and anger issues and it is detracting from *real* happiness.

[konfuzd]

I just stumbled on this thread and read most of the replies on here. At the risk of being chastized by RP for not being "on her side" (sorry hun, people are entitled to their own opinions, and not everyone is going to agree with you all the time. That is not the purpose of these boards)

 

Yes, the blood stains are gross. What I wonder is how you brought it up with your husband. If you freaked out right away and demanded it be solved your way, perhaps he felt belittled by you and was standing up to you to protect his masculinity, and prevent being treated like a child. (I do agree that the memories and emotional connection to the mattress is all very silly and very unlikely) Sometimes it's the approach that determines whether an issue is going to be a battle or not. Judging by your very immature responses to this and other situations, I can only assume that the whole issue was brought up in a very immature way.

[Lennox]

RP, if this doesn't work for you, send me an address where you can receive mail and I'll mail you an old pair of my husband's skid marked Fruit of the Loom's and you can put it somewhere your hubby can find it.

 

Then when he expresses outrage at you having it, you can hold them close to your heart and tell him that you don't want to give them up. Those underwear aren't cheap either!

[Ashley]

This thread is being closed for the following reasons...

 

Personal attacks... In loveshack.org's community guidelines it states that Personal Attacks will not be tolorated.

 

Off-topic banter... Usual I let this go, but with all the attacking going on, it just needed to go.