A ##### PROSTITUTE...YUCK!

[Amber]

My boyfriend of 3 years went into the airforce a while ago and sence then he has been to Cali. Mexico. Arizona, and now he is stationed in Germany. About 9 months ago he came home on leave and I found out that he had sex with a prostitute in mexico. A ##### prostitute! Can you believe that #####?!!! I was sick. Just sick. He made me feel so dirty. Well to make a long story short we broke up. Now after 9 months he is back on leave again and things are a little different. I was so nervous about seeing him again. I love this boy more than anyone else in the world. I know Im dumb but 3 years is a long ass time. I am 18 and he will be 21 in a month. Anyway, during our break up I tried to see other people and I kept compareing all the guys to him. They never could compare. We my X came back we decided to try to be friends. Well, everything was going good until we had a few drinks in us and he spilled his heart out. He even cried, and he never does that. He told me that he had another relationship for about a month and he kept compareing that girl to me and she was not good enough. They broke up because he would always talk about me. He told me hes in love with me and has never met anyone like me. he thinks Im perfact. It was such a fairytail type of conversation that I never would have expected him to say any of what he said. So of course my weak ass ended up having sex with him again and let me tell you, DAMN.... I miss him being in my life so much. I just dont know if I can forgive him for what he put me through. Yes I know he regrets it and was on 6 hits of acid and all drunk but damn it drugs and alcohol are no excuses for ##### a nasty ass prostitute. Somebody please help me. I love him so much.... Im so confused and indecisive....HELP

[cross-eyed]

hopefully you went to a clinic and got tested for disease cos i doubt that prostitutes in mexico are too concerned about safe sex or the risk of Aids.

 

you are too young to love anyone "more than anyone else in the world" quite frankly. far too young to want to tie yourself down to some cheating dog who risked both of your health. maybe you should get tested for Aids then see how you feel about this great guy.

 

Of course he can't compare to any other guy. how many guys do you know, cheat and have sex with hookers? that is just disgusting and shows he can't be trusted. and it's really nice to see our members of the airforce are using illegal drugs and getting so wasted that they engage in illegal activities such as getting it on with a hooker. he should be kicked out of the airforce for that kind of crap. what kind of loser does acid? what kind of loser gets so wasted that he engages in behavior that violates the trust in his relationship of 3 years? once a cheater, always a cheater and when they start out that young, cheating and sleeping with hookers, they're not going to change, only get worse. who knows what he'll be doing when he's off of leave and you're not around? he sounds like a huge loser. not very mature or responsible. so what he cried, big deal. he should have cried, for being such a loser. you really don't mind being in love with a guy who cheated on you? yuck.

 

My boyfriend of 3 years went into the airforce a while ago and sence then he has been to Cali. Mexico. Arizona, and now he is stationed in Germany. About 9 months ago he came home on leave and I found out that he had sex with a prostitute in mexico. A ##### prostitute! Can you believe that #####?!!! I was sick. Just sick. He made me feel so dirty. Well to make a long story short we broke up. Now after 9 months he is back on leave again and things are a little different. I was so nervous about seeing him again. I love this boy more than anyone else in the world. I know Im dumb but 3 years is a long ass time. I am 18 and he will be 21 in a month. Anyway, during our break up I tried to see other people and I kept compareing all the guys to him. They never could compare. We my X came back we decided to try to be friends. Well, everything was going good until we had a few drinks in us and he spilled his heart out. He even cried, and he never does that. He told me that he had another relationship for about a month and he kept compareing that girl to me and she was not good enough. They broke up because he would always talk about me. He told me hes in love with me and has never met anyone like me. he thinks Im perfact. It was such a fairytail type of conversation that I never would have expected him to say any of what he said. So of course my weak ass ended up having sex with him again and let me tell you, DAMN.... I miss him being in my life so much. I just dont know if I can forgive him for what he put me through. Yes I know he regrets it and was on 6 hits of acid and all drunk but damn it drugs and alcohol are no excuses for ##### a nasty ass prostitute. Somebody please help me. I love him so much.... Im so confused and indecisive....HELP

[Miss Mojo]

hi amber,

 

please don't take offence, but i think your boyfriend is as nasty-arsed as the prostitute he was with - an acid freak (6 hits of acid!!), booze, and hookers AND THEN (drumroll...) he wants you back! oh, and he cheated on you in mexico when you were supposedly a couple.

 

how can you possibly compare a guy like this to other guys? nearly every other guy you compared him with would have been a saint, but because you love this guy, his faults and his mistakes are clouded by the love you have for him. he probably cried because he's feeling more sorry for himself than anyone else.

 

of course, this guy could have picked anything up from this woman, even if he did double-bag himself (i.e. 2 condoms). prostitutes are with god knows how many men everyday and exposed to god knows how many diseases. i'm quite sure that mexico doesn't have the same standards of health care that other countries would. more to the point, GET TESTED FOR STD'S. NOW. has he been tested? i surely bloody hope so, because if he hasn't he could be jeopardising your health since you had sex with him.

 

you're right that drugs and alcohol are no excuse for sleeping with a hooker, or anybody for that matter. but i'd go so far as to guess that your boyfriend used this as his excuse..."but babe, i was off my chops when i was with her. i'd dropped some acid and had a few too many schooners of beer". he damn knew well what he was getting himself into because he REMEMBERS what he did.

 

you say you're only 18 years old. you are too young and have far too much life to live to waste another second with a guy that you will have a hell of a time trusting ever again. if this guy thinks you're so perfect, then why did he shag a prostitute? just because he says things about you that you want to hear does not mean that you should stay with him. sweet-talk doesn't guarantee you s***.

 

i know if i had a boyfriend who did something like this, i would kick his sorry butt to the curb. of course, being 18 years old you probably haven't had much experience in life and love to be able to say, "i won't take you back no matter how sorry you are. you screwed up now get out". when i was 18 years old i was with a guy who did some really slack things to me, would always try and crawl back and stupid me would take him back every time. 18 years old is a very naive age. i was an idiot to put up with such crap and i am so much stronger now. he is not the be-all-and-end-all of your life. i think that's quite obvious by the way he acted.

 

trust me, it's not that hard a decision. he disregarded you by cheating on you (with a prostitute at that) and then had the nerve to ask you backl.

 

best wishes

 

best

 

My boyfriend of 3 years went into the airforce a while ago and sence then he has been to Cali. Mexico. Arizona, and now he is stationed in Germany. About 9 months ago he came home on leave and I found out that he had sex with a prostitute in mexico. A ##### prostitute! Can you believe that #####?!!! I was sick. Just sick. He made me feel so dirty. Well to make a long story short we broke up. Now after 9 months he is back on leave again and things are a little different. I was so nervous about seeing him again. I love this boy more than anyone else in the world. I know Im dumb but 3 years is a long ass time. I am 18 and he will be 21 in a month. Anyway, during our break up I tried to see other people and I kept compareing all the guys to him. They never could compare. We my X came back we decided to try to be friends. Well, everything was going good until we had a few drinks in us and he spilled his heart out. He even cried, and he never does that. He told me that he had another relationship for about a month and he kept compareing that girl to me and she was not good enough. They broke up because he would always talk about me. He told me hes in love with me and has never met anyone like me. he thinks Im perfact. It was such a fairytail type of conversation that I never would have expected him to say any of what he said. So of course my weak ass ended up having sex with him again and let me tell you, DAMN.... I miss him being in my life so much. I just dont know if I can forgive him for what he put me through. Yes I know he regrets it and was on 6 hits of acid and all drunk but damn it drugs and alcohol are no excuses for ##### a nasty ass prostitute. Somebody please help me. I love him so much.... Im so confused and indecisive....HELP

[witchbreed]

I agree with the above postings about testing for STD's, even wearing a rubber is not completly safe and hookers, specially in poor countries or addicted ones, are pretty likely to have STDs. Till you know that you are both clean, please do wear rubbers.

 

On the other hand, I would not judge him as harshly as the other two have. Yes, he cheated on you and that was a bad thing. But he didnt lie about it and that is a good one. He could have kept his dirty secret and you would have never known. By admitting to his wrong, he did show you respect and at least you know, that he is not going behind your back. I think a one time thing can be forgiven, if he does it all the time, thats something else again.

 

Btw why does it bother you so much that it was a hooker? I would be much more bothered if he had been dating someone else, being romanticly involved or lied to another girl about being in love with her, just to have sex. A hooker is a pure sexual release, much nearer to masturbation then love. Going for a hooker he got a sexual release without having to put any other feeling into it. Except for the danger of STD's I personally would have an easier time of forgiving my bf going to a hooker once then him having an affair with another girl.

 

If you still love him and believe that he sincerly regrets his actions and if you are able to forgive him, there might be a chance of being happy together again. But this is something you have to sort out yourself. If on the other hand you cannot forgive and will always think about it, then you are better of to end the relationsship for good.

 

Best luck. :-)

[yes]

I'd say -

 

- get tested for sure.

 

then...

 

As far as I got it, he went to the hooker when he was away from you for about 9 months. correct? well then - can u blame him? the guy needed some sexing... i;d be mad at him for not tetsing himself for STDs before sleeping with u again though ...

 

just think bout it - would it be better if he got a gf there? mentally involved? sex is just sex...

 

Just my opinion.

 

My boyfriend of 3 years went into the airforce a while ago and sence then he has been to Cali. Mexico. Arizona, and now he is stationed in Germany. About 9 months ago he came home on leave and I found out that he had sex with a prostitute in mexico. A ##### prostitute! Can you believe that #####?!!! I was sick. Just sick. He made me feel so dirty. Well to make a long story short we broke up. Now after 9 months he is back on leave again and things are a little different. I was so nervous about seeing him again. I love this boy more than anyone else in the world. I know Im dumb but 3 years is a long ass time. I am 18 and he will be 21 in a month. Anyway, during our break up I tried to see other people and I kept compareing all the guys to him. They never could compare. We my X came back we decided to try to be friends. Well, everything was going good until we had a few drinks in us and he spilled his heart out. He even cried, and he never does that. He told me that he had another relationship for about a month and he kept compareing that girl to me and she was not good enough. They broke up because he would always talk about me. He told me hes in love with me and has never met anyone like me. he thinks Im perfact. It was such a fairytail type of conversation that I never would have expected him to say any of what he said. So of course my weak ass ended up having sex with him again and let me tell you, DAMN.... I miss him being in my life so much. I just dont know if I can forgive him for what he put me through. Yes I know he regrets it and was on 6 hits of acid and all drunk but damn it drugs and alcohol are no excuses for ##### a nasty ass prostitute. Somebody please help me. I love him so much.... Im so confused and indecisive....HELP

[cross-eyed]

oh my god. you get the "Most Stupid Response Of The Year" award. They've been apart for 9 months so he shouldn't be blamed for sinking the sub with a hooker? (or anyone for that matter). Sex is just sex? You are officially an idiot.

I'd say - - get tested for sure. then... As far as I got it, he went to the hooker when he was away from you for about 9 months. correct? well then - can u blame him? the guy needed some sexing... i;d be mad at him for not tetsing himself for STDs before sleeping with u again though ... just think bout it - would it be better if he got a gf there? mentally involved? sex is just sex... Just my opinion.