T-ROD Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 I met my girlfriend 3 years ago. for 2.5 years we dated off and on because she was afraid of getting hurt and then she wanted to have her senior year of college to herself. I stuck with her and didnt date myself and then finally about 6 months ago we made it official. We have had our ups and downs like anyone else would that have been an item for as long as we have but everything else is perfect. Just yesterday she told me she had been thinking alot about marriage and she didnt know if i was the one she wanted to marry. She said sometimes the thought of marrying me makes her the happiest girl in the world and she has no doubt that im the one but then there is other times she said that she is not so sure. I know in my heart i could and would marry her in an instant but marriage isnt really an option right now (shes in vet school and im in grad school) but i want to marry her someday and she knows that but we both feel that seriously dating someone who you cant see yourself marrying is a waste of time and now i am scared our relationship is in jeopardy. What do i do? is it something we should worry about or should we cross that bridge when we get to it. Thanks for you help and sorry it was so long. Link to post Share on other sites
slinkysu Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 I think being unsure about the future is only natural at your age and whilst you are still studying. If you are both happy and content with how you are at the moment then just try to live each day, day by day. You never know what is around the corner or where life will lead you. You can't control that. What you can control is yourself and how you relate to others. whether this is the relationship for life or not, as long as you both treat each other with respect and honesty and love, then things will work out. Why is she suddenly thinking about marriage? If you have both discussed this issue about not being with someone you can't see yourself ending up with then you need to sit down and explain your worries to her. It isn't fair on you to go around worrying if your relationship is in jeopardy and not knowing. The key to all relationships is communication. I hope it does work out and that is was an off the cuff comment that got taken the wrong way, but even if it wasn't - surely it is better to know now and not be in a relationship with someone who doesn't see the same future as you than being in a relationship that is one-sided? Whatever happens - good luck - but do talk. It's the only way your mind will be eased. Link to post Share on other sites
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