MarcoInaros Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 There was a girl last summer who I asked out about three different times, and each time she didn't really reject me. She was a coworker, and first she said that she didn't date coworkers. I respected that, and after she left I called her and asked her if she wanted to hang out and she said sure and that she would call me back. She didn't. The third time was when I just dropped by the new place she was working at, in another city. She looked shocked, and we talked for a little bit. I was nervous and I blathered. Then finally I asked if she wanted to hang out and she said that she felt sick and needed to go home. I said fine and left. I have tried to force myself to not think about her. But she was so beautiful and was so friendly towards me. I thought she was flirting. But I must have misread her behavior. Maybe it was infatuation, and delusion, believeing that I had a chance when there was none. I have nothing. Never had a relationship. I am bummed out because of this and because I have no prospects. I am not meeting any other women and don't know how to. And when I do meet a single girl that I am attracted to, they want nothing to do with me. But she is always on the back of my mind, my subconcious. I have dreams about her, even last night. I must be going nuts. I vowed to never think about her again or to see her or contact her again, but I can't stop thinking about her. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 Go find you an ugly women to boost your confidence. Once you get past the hurtle of rejection you will be OK. Forget that other girl as she never had any interest in you romantically and focus on you and making yourself happy. Don't let one women ruin your chance at happiness as there are many other women out there so keep trying for that connection. Keep yourself busy to keep her off your mind and do not contact her again or she will think you are stalking her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MarcoInaros Posted May 21, 2006 Author Share Posted May 21, 2006 I know, I won't contact her ever again because I don't want to look like a stalker. But I am not sure I want to go after ugly women I am not attracted to. I don't want to lead people on - that is disingenuous and unethical. Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 lostjeff, You should move on. Or I should say - you must move on. Nothing good will come out of this. Sooner or later, you'll catch yourself in forbidden territory performing stalk acts. She just sees you as an acquaintance. I notice, that you're not very secure of yourself. I suggest, you work on your confidence and tone of speech. If you see a chance fit to approach a girl, don't be scared. Take advantage of the opportunities. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 You have to move on. Visiting her at another city, she got sick is avoidance. The wife of a friend of mine does that all the time to avoid his friends. Just work on yourself and try to associate your thoughts of her to something else so you do not think of her. get busy doing something else. Break some routines, etc... Link to post Share on other sites
Author MarcoInaros Posted May 22, 2006 Author Share Posted May 22, 2006 Thanks for the advice guys. These events happened about half a year ago, so I think I have the will power never to see her again. Now I just have to focus on activities that will allow me to think of things besides her. Also, that city was only about 20 minutes away from where I live, so its not like I flew across the countyr to see her. Link to post Share on other sites
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