lovernotafighter Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 best of luck with NC SA.. I am becoming a firm believer as well that this is the only way...my MM only has responded to NC before..the fact is we make it to easy for them not to act on anything because they are comfortable with how things are. How do we block thier number any way,and do they know if they call thier number is blocked? Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 How do we block thier number any way,and do they know if they call thier number is blocked? Do you have the instructions to your phone? If it's a mobile/cellphone you can easily find it on one of your functions... somewhere! I think if you go to his number, and look down the options you will find 'block this number'. If you've blocked it and he calls, you won't know. That's the beauty of it! Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Yesmaybe, you did a good job with the dating (although you didn't use it as a strategy, but it spontaneously turned out as a good one), but now you're jeopardizing your own chance. See while you were dating the other guy, he made up his mind to leave his wife - MAYBE. If you want him to continue to think/feel in this manner, you need to continue the same tactic. Now you're with him again and everything got back to the old pattern. That won't lead you to your goal. Just go out with that awesome single guy and let your MM know that while you're waiting for him to make up his mind, you also don't want to lose your other opportunities, because if he doesn't leave and you lose this guy, you lose them both. This will drive him crazy. That's the only thing that can make him leave, in my opinion. See, you showed him that you can drop any (awesome) guys just to go back to him. If his marriage is fairly stable (it doesn't matter if his wife and fat and bossy and a bad cook), he might be better off keeping you by his side by using various tricks. You will realize how wisely he played his games when it's too late. What do you think, all these women who are fed with lies by their MM are plain dumb? I don't think so. I think the MM are using any possible weapons to keep the OW in the affair for as long as she is willing to be blinded with love. Don't be naive. he showed you his weak spot, now use it! Link to post Share on other sites
SHortyAnGel Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Yesmaybe, you did a good job with the dating (although you didn't use it as a strategy, but it spontaneously turned out as a good one), but now you're jeopardizing your own chance. See while you were dating the other guy, he made up his mind to leave his wife - MAYBE. If you want him to continue to think/feel in this manner, you need to continue the same tactic. Now you're with him again and everything got back to the old pattern. That won't lead you to your goal. Just go out with that awesome single guy and let your MM know that while you're waiting for him to make up his mind, you also don't want to lose your other opportunities, because if he doesn't leave and you lose this guy, you lose them both. This will drive him crazy. That's the only thing that can make him leave, in my opinion. See, you showed him that you can drop any (awesome) guys just to go back to him. If his marriage is fairly stable (it doesn't matter if his wife and fat and bossy and a bad cook), he might be better off keeping you by his side by using various tricks. You will realize how wisely he played his games when it's too late. What do you think, all these women who are fed with lies by their MM are plain dumb? I don't think so. I think the MM are using any possible weapons to keep the OW in the affair for as long as she is willing to be blinded with love. Don't be naive. he showed you his weak spot, now use it! I too scared too.... When i am annoyed trust me i let it be known... esp to my friends... BUT with MM i have lost my edge.. My trait to stand up for my self... LIke in the begining of the A I was seeing 2 guys ( nofin serious for fun)... when MM got into the picture he didnt want it that way & constantly pickup my phone when it rings to scare them away, which he has done. & then the issue where he tries to call me & i dont pickup... argument begins... stupid me thought it was part of a R so i took it all in... I am terrified that all guys are like that... & karma will kick me in the ass... I know what you are saying abt letting MM know that i am dating. i seriously do not know how he will react... HOW DO THEY USUALLY REACT??..... Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 I too scared too.... When i am annoyed trust me i let it be known... esp to my friends... BUT with MM i have lost my edge.. My trait to stand up for my self... LIke in the begining of the A I was seeing 2 guys ( nofin serious for fun)... when MM got into the picture he didnt want it that way & constantly pickup my phone when it rings to scare them away, which he has done. & then the issue where he tries to call me & i dont pickup... argument begins... stupid me thought it was part of a R so i took it all in... I am terrified that all guys are like that... & karma will kick me in the ass... I know what you are saying abt letting MM know that i am dating. i seriously do not know how he will react... HOW DO THEY USUALLY REACT??.....If he loves you? The reactions may vary, but THEY ALL SEE RED! You are not committed to him so he can't possibly be disappointed in your loyalty more than you are in his. You are morally clean so the only thing they figure is that they are losing you. And they start thinking about which actions to take to keep you. If they can throw sand in your eyes and fool you, they will. But if you show them that you're a "hard nut to break," they will go further in their attempts to keep you. If you want to speed the whole thing up - go to the last step right away, don't give them some more time and a few more chances. Don't hesitate, don't show your weakness. Your attitude should be either "I love you, but since there's no future for us, I am moving on!" or "I like this guy and I want to try it out with him, you are obviously not the right guy for me!" You need to stay determined and strong. Pretend, for god's sake! I don't have any experiences with MM, but I have with cold feet and this man is now my husband. Link to post Share on other sites
SHortyAnGel Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 If he loves you? The reactions may vary, but THEY ALL SEE RED! You are not committed to him so he can't possibly be disappointed in your loyalty more than you are in his. You are morally clean so the only thing they figure is that they are losing you. And they start thinking about which actions to take to keep you. If they can throw sand in your eyes and fool you, they will. But if you show them that you're a "hard nut to break," they will go further in their attempts to keep you. If you want to speed the whole thing up - go to the last step right away, don't give them some more time and a few more chances. Don't hesitate, don't show your weakness. Your attitude should be either "I love you, but since there's no future for us, I am moving on!" or "I like this guy and I want to try it out with him, you are obviously not the right guy for me!" You need to stay determined and strong. Pretend, for god's sake! I don't have any experiences with MM, but I have with cold feet and this man is now my husband. Orite, How can you act that way.. when i have spoken to him for like 3 days... & he hasnt attempt to call me once... My phone is w/ my friend right now.. just so i dont get tempted to pickup just in case kinda drastic huh?.... i dont trust myself SoooO... i dont even know if he would call me ever again he just Poof! left... no talk nofin... i am tired of making excuses for him for not being there for me... i dont even want to think... MAKE it even worst i see his W walkin down the street & i cant help but compare myself to her... & try to work out what she is thinking... I am not a bad person... i know what attract MM to me was that i was happy & with a BIG smile on face... & talk alot of crap & makes him laugh... the same thing attracted me to him... we are on the same wave lane i guess... pretty difficult to find w/ a guy.... I am so lost @ the moment... Cold feet?? Link to post Share on other sites
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